Sometimes I don't know what to do with my friends
By reinydawn
@reinydawn (11643)
United States
February 5, 2009 6:05am CST
OK, next weekend, I'm going to Atlantic City for a little "R&R" before the tax season really gets under way and I'm not able to do anything. The last time we went up, just for the day, my fiend told me to let her know next time we want to go because they might want to go with us.
A couple weeks ago we decided to go up for Valentines Day, just spend the day. My friend said ok, they'd like to go and she'd let me know. It wasn't a big deal, but our plans have changed. I found out that I've got a comped room on Friday and can stay the night for free. So I asked if she still wanted to go ad she says "Maybe". I've booked one room, but we're not guaranteed 2 beds. I don't think it'll be a problem, but it might be awkward if all 4 of us show up and we've only got one bed to sleep in. So, I got to thinking, that if I could get a second room for free also - it looks like I can - then we don't have to worry about getting 2 beds. But, before I book another room, I want to make sure they're going. When I talked to her last night, she said that her fiance can't get off at half a day. It's really sounding to me like he doesn't want to go, but is using work as his excuse. I have a feeling that they're going to back out on us next Thursday or worse yet, next Friday right when we think we're supposed to be leaving. Now, the room's free, so it's not that big a deal, but if they're not going and I have the room, I'd like to be able to tell someone else to come with us... I'm very hesitant about getting this second room... It feels like if I book the 2nd room, they wont come, but if I don't book it they will and we wont get a room with 2 beds... I think I'm going to have to force her to make her decision this weekend.
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11 responses
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I hope by now you got your decision. I hope you and your hubby go by yourselves.
You know where we will be. We will be in Reno to see our gand baby be born. I will send you all the photos. heehee
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Actually, she was going and now she's not. I'm pretty sure this is definite since we're leaving TOMORROW... It couldn't be helped this time, but it sure is a pain not knowing. It'll be just hubby and I for the weekend :)
Have a great time and make sure you send me zillions of pics!!!!
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I hope you had a great time on your trip and made a lot of money
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
9 Feb 09
That sure can be frustrating. The weekend is nearly over, so have you gotten a definite answer so that you can go ahead and make your plans before it's too late.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I went ahead and booked my room, then she told me they were definitely going. But, when I called about a second room, I can only get one free one at a time. No big deal though, we don't mind sharing the room, as long as we get 2 beds :)
@prasanna1990 (816)
• India
6 Feb 09
just get a mess up with them feel the love to admist of the core and enjoy the days with ur friends these are lovely times and happiest moments in ur life
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@uicbear (1900)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I agree with the previous posters that have said that you need to tell your friend that you need a definate answer, one way or the other. Maybe she wants to back out but feels bad about it. Maybe she really wants to go but her fiance is going along with the idea. Maybe she feels obligated to go since she was so excited about the possibility, but now that there's an actual plan she's not quite ready to go. It doesn't really matter the reasons, just tell her that you need to confirm the reservation.
An idea might be to tell her that if she can't come this time, the next time you all go you will let her know and maybe she can some that time. That might make her feel like she's off the hook and can respectfully decline your offer.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Well, tonight she said she's definitely in, they're coming with us. But, we can only get the one room - which will be fine as long as we have 2 beds :)
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
It is very frustrating... They've decided they are definitely going, it should be a great time!
@mid_bint (3)
• United States
6 Feb 09
go ask him his decision. that's a pretty good idea, no actaully a perfect idea. it's okay to be not so sure with plan, however, if the date is fast approaching, you guys must decide so that others would know what to do too. thus, asking if he is going or not in a nice way would help you all.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
She finally gave me her decision last night. They're going, and I know we'll have a great time!
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I'd tell my friend that you must kn ow by today that they can't old the room as it's a holiday weekend and they need to know by today. SO if it's looking like they can go as of today then fine...book their room. If not then don't and I wouldn't worry about it.
It's only right for them to let you know in advance if they can go that way you won't be on edge as to what to do.
And it will be settled one way or another today. Tell her that you can't hold a room and them not show up that you may lose that comp. And if they decide at the last minute they can go then you will try to ge them a room but they may have to pay for it.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
She told me today they are definitely going, but I also found out that I can only book one room for the night on my comps card. I can get a discounted room, but I think we're going to take our chances with getting a room with 2 beds.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I'd put the situation right out there to her...tell her you need an answer now b/c you don't want to get the extra room and them not go and someone else might have needed it. It's pretty bad that they are leaving you hanging.
[b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~
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@TnWoman (1895)
• United States
5 Feb 09
hello reinydawn
lol i wouldn't book that second room now, especially if your-alls friend cannot get off of work. or not. lol and that is nice to know that you are able to book two rooms like that at the casino, if need be using your comps. thanks for that information. i wish you-all the best of luck when you get to Atlantic City to gamble!
take care and have a beautiful afternoon.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Unfortunately, you can't book two rooms for the same night :-( I asked about it tonight before I booked it and they would have to charge me for the 2nd room. But, that's ok because we'll just try to get 2 beds in our room and that'll work out fine. My friends are definitely going - they said so tonight :) She's even got someone to watch her dog :)
@SuzyLong (775)
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5 Feb 09
Tell her that if she doesn't give you an answer, then as far as your concerned, she isn't going. She can't mess you around like that leaving it as long as possible. You are offering to see if you can get her a room for free, I'd jump at the chance if I was her. I've had to book days out for me and my friends before and at the last minute, they have dropped out. So now, I set a date that I want to know by and have money by and if they change their mind after that date, it's out of my hands. I arrange stuff weeks sometimes months in advance so no one can ever moan that they don't have time to think about it.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
She finally told me tonight that they are definitely going. Of course now we only have one room, but as long as we have 2 beds we're fine with sharing a room.
@shk1989 (38)
• India
5 Feb 09
No this didn't happen to me as I feel that we can never be bored of set idle with our friends as there are always something to cook up with the company of our friends and when we don't left with any topic we generate the situation to do fun or even learn something new or do some adventurous
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I always have a great time with this friend, I just wanted her to make a firm decision if they were going. It looks like she's in for the trip and we're going to have a great time!
