Does anyone raise their own children nowdays?

I understand your point. I and my husband feel the same way. Nowadays, other people are a major influence on children that are not related to them in any way. My son was born prematurely. Since he arrived I don't really leave him with anyone. My husband trusts no one and I'm trying to break out of that shell. From the time that my son came home until now he's only been with a handful of people without me or his father. He stayed with my MIL for a 3-day weekend, while my husband and I finally went on our year late honeymoon. Things did not go as planned and he has yet to be back there without me or his father. Prior to that my MIL watched him for 6 hours when I worked from home and my son was too vocal for my job. Then he was with my husband's cousin who was to stay in the house with me watching him, but after a couple weeks she needed to take my son to her house because she also had her young son to watch. Those incidents were over 13 months ago. I visited my mother this winter and my son stayed with my parents for the first time alone for less than an hour while I and some friends went to pick up another friend to come back to my parents' house. I love my son too much to constantly leave him with someone else. He visits his friends with my supervision especially because he's almost three years old and still learning to comport himself. Who else is going to train my son if I don't? Plus, it's my God-given duty to teach and train my son until he is grown and leaves his mother and his father. I'm not in a rush for that, so I keep him with me for his and my sanity.

In the past, mother stayed home, doing all the home making and raising the children. They made sacrifice and contribution to the family, for the man and the children. As reward, she felt the pleasure and accomplishment. When they are away from us, and stay for some time with our relatives, or baby sitters, it is so natuaral we feel the concern and worry about whatever might happen to the children. But in due time, there might be a day to send the children to preschools. Are we ready for that? Better get mentally prepared in advance. Nowadays, we have social facilities to help raising the children. Children get what is not available at home in preschools. They learn how to behave in a group. These are preparation for school days and also for their whole life. Whatever shortcomings, we have to view them in an overall way, from different perspectives, and in a positive way. In the long run, they need also to learn how to cope with adverse conditions, if any. Another thing you had better get rid of is that the children are not anybody's personal property. For their benefit, you had better provide what is best for them. They are in places out of our sight, but still under care of their nurses and teachers. Enjoy life and enjoy parenting.

i don't have any children yet at the moment... but when i do have one in the future, i want to be the one who raise them as well if the circumstances let me to do it... i would like to spend as much time as i can with my children to develop the parent-child bonding which i think it is very important especially in their early age... take care and have a nice day...

yes I know what you mean we have NEVER let our son with anyone else than us. He's only 2 and we not trust anyone enough for that ... and he won't stay with anyone else than me or hubby until he can speak correctly so he can "report" things. I don;t think you are weird at all ( I read soem other comments)... if something happens to your kids you will be the only one to have to leave with that So I woudl tell you what I tell every parent who asked me, you have to do what you feel you have to do ... don;t listen to X or Y,,, if you feel that somethin is not right or you don't "feel " it ... go with your instincts If you don't protect your kids noone will

I personally take care of our only dauther. She is three years old. In fact, i have stopped working since the day I have given birth to my daughter. it took us almost four years before we had a child, so my husband and I decided that I should give her all my time. I'm happy to personally take care of her and she her grow.

I agree with you I raise my own kids I am a stay at home mom of 5 I dont go out anywhere hardly ever but when I do its either while they are at school, I take them with me or I leave my oldest in charge and I am not gone very long I had a bad experience with a babysitter when my twins were newborns and I have never trusted anyone since then well except for my husband of course LOL

I was brought up by my mum, as she's a house wife and she did some tailor work at home, so she was able to raise my siblings and myself. I do not have any kids now, but I'm pregnant and I'll give birth very soon. We have decided to let my mother-in-law take care of my baby, and it'll be about 2 and a half hour drive from where I stay and where my mother-in-law stays. So, we decided to go back to our hometown every week to visit our baby later. I do not feel comfortable for others to take care of my baby, also I do not like to let my baby stays with babysitters or nursery, I think staying with grandparents is still a better choice, as my husband and I still need to go to work every weekday. Also, I think it'll be happier for a kid to grow up in a small town, surrounding with many adults and kids, rather than staying in the big city, and being alone most of the time.

hello susan i have two boys that still live at home with me and my hubby. we try our best to raise them the best that we can. and i know what you mean by leaving your children with people that you can trust. about the only people that my children have ever stayed with is my family members, my hubby's family members, or one of their close friend's that they happen to attend school with and have known these certain people for a long time now. it would break my heart to have to get a babysitter for them both and not knowing the person who that i would be leaving my children with for the afternoons. i am lucky with the part-time job that i have, i work from 8:30 a.m. until 2:30 p.m. and that allows me to be back home to get my youngest son off of the school bus in the afternoons. sometimes, i get off work from my part-time job early like i did today, then that gives me lots of extra time to make it home to pick up my boys off of the school bus. take care and have a beautiful evening.

When my kids were younger, I had to have a babysitter while I worked, but it was always someone whom I trusted. I am very protected of my kids. Now, I am in th eposiion where I am able to be home with them and work while they are in school. If I do have to work when they are not in school, either mt husband, or his bother is with them, and they all know how to get a hold of me if they need to. When my husband and I are not working, we are with our kids. I think we have spent maybe an hour away from them, aside from work in the last two years. Before that, it was even less. I hate leaving my kids with a babysitter. I agree with you, I had them, it is my job to raise them.

I agree with you as well. I am not always with my kids though. They go to school during the day and sometimes they will go to my moms for the weekend. There are have been times as well that I will go to my moms for the weekend. But I do take care of my kids. There are way too many people out there that do not raise their kids. The one thing that I object to the most is when they have older kids that raise the younger kids. That is not right, they are just kids.

I was working since I got married. When I got my children, I have to leave them with my maid. My mom however had to come to the house to check on them from time to time. Since our office was near our house, I have to go home during lunch break. My husband, if finds time, also drop by to see the children. When I got widowed however, I have to leave them with my mom from morning till night time. The more I was away from them as I have to work hard. I just feel I'm raising them, when I stopped working, while they have quite stable job already and already grown ups. I attend to their meeds, cook their food. dine out with them on Sundays. Worried much when their not home on time. If I was not able to raise them completely during their chilhood, I'm glad still got the chance of raising them into a more matured responsible children and we're happy taking good care of each other.

I guess that it's quite difficult to raise our own children full-time in the world we live in today. I would say that mostly are working parents where both the mom and the dad would need to go out and work while leaving the children to be taken care by the babysitter or the grandparents. Unless, you are a work-at-home mom or a full-time housewife, then it would be possible to raise your children by yourself. In fact 1 only have 1 daughter who is 3.5 years old and she goes to school in the morning while me and my wife goes to work, then in the afternoon the babysitter will take care of her and in the evening i will bring her back home and takes care of her.

I agree with you, but I don't think you got to be all weirdo about it. Yeah you can raise them and think that you do the best job, But one day won't you have to let go? That day will come quick. And if you try to hold on, they themselves will to you to let go. And did't your Mom raise you? Eventually the birds leave the nest.

I don't know about where you live, but I have seen some cases that the babysitter spanked the children she was taking care of! It's simply an absurd that nowadays we don't have the time we had to take care of our own children! All our time is turned to get a confortable life for them, and we end up needing to leave them in the hands of a stranger... It's really sad but is the reallity.