Sharing friends

As an adult I have never found this a problem, children feel that friendship like love is in short supply they don't realize there is enough to go around. If you are having this problem you may want to rethink your friendship.

yes and I don't care, nobody controls me, I also had a friend that was upset because she was fighting with another friend, and felt that I should not talk to the other friend because she had some issues, I told her, I don't feel the same way you do about so and so, she has done me no wrong and because you don't want to be bothered with her anymore, that has nothing to do with me, she didn't like it she stopped talking to me for awhile, but I will not be controlled like that.

I had a neice that didnt think I should have any but her. and I told her we werent all that clos togetrher all the time and I would make friends where ever I was she fianally had to accept that .

Not really.....I haven't gotten into that situation since grade school...really I guess I don't mix up friends too much.

Yes I've had that happen to me. One would get mad at the other and expected me to take sides which I wouldn't do. I would tell the one in the wrong that they were wrong and why... if I got that far and let them know that I still want to be friends and I'm not getting in the middle of it. However, I will stand up for the right and never for the wrong no matter who it is. Constructive critisim can go a long way if it's heard with an open mind and open ears. Another thing too, no one tells me who to be friends with, the person who tries to is the one who gets the door. I have my own opinion and thoughts and don't need any help with who to be friends with and who not to be friends with.

The friend who's upset because you're friends with someone else as well has maybe been held back too many times in grade school? It's not funny, but like you say, isn't that something that only happens in grade school? Her loss if she can't accept the idea that you can be friends with both of them. I had two friends. They didn't like each other. I liked both of them. They were neighbors, so when I visited one, the other knew about it. They each tried bad-mouthing the other with me and I had to say I like both of you, so please don't put me in the middle.

That is grade school stuff and it amazes me when grown people do it. Why can't we all be friends. Some people do get jealous and want to be your only friend. They also get jealous when their friend wants to be our friend too. This kind of behavior is so juvenile, but it does happen with adults. I think its great when you have lots of friends and share some of the same friends.

That's exactly what I went through a year and a half ago. And the friend that caused all the problems STILL tries to be selfish in the whole situation. But it backfires in her face every time. But boy does it cause headaches for me sometimes!!

Yes i have been around people like that and you are right that is the way children act..Grown ups should not act that way..They think that you will like someone else more than they like you.It all boils down to jealousy...This is a trait the insecure people carry around with them...It does not matter how many friends you have , they are all important to you, and you like them all, and because you like one person as a friend, does not mean you do not like the other one..This is childish and it comes from an insecure person....

I don't know what is wrong with people. It happens in high school, college and even in workplaces. Are we so insecure that we can't respect the fact that we all need friends and true friends are not jealous of other friends?

Not sure what you mean... are you talking about people who don't like their friends having other friends? Or do you mean people who don't want their friends to be friends? In any case, I have a friend who has two other friends like that: they don't want to share her.

No luckily I have not ever had this happen to me.

Hey Grandmaof2! I had 2 friends who are also neighbors. They didn't like each other and didn't want anything to do with each other, but both were friends with me. I stopped speaking to one of them and the first thing she did was get friendly with the other friend of mine who she wanted nothing to do with before! Yes, I would say that this was definitely just like grade school! I still don't want anything to do with her!

You would think that those jealousies would subside as we grow older. Sadly though I have known some adults that are that petty. It is unfortunate that you are put in the middle and forced to choose between them.

I never was good at making friends, so no one was upset neither was I if she wanted to be friends to someone else as well. AS I saw it, I was not that good at starting conversations, I was more or less a tag along, so I wanted to be with as many people as possible. And if I was in a group I really did not care.

Thank goodness it hasn't happened to me. It is very grade school behavior. I think the more friends the better! I like being in a circle of online friends. There is one group that I am friends with and we all email each other too. It is great!

rofl this happen to me. I had a best friend in grade school and when we started going to jr high where other grade schools combined into the jr. I made friends with someone who I enjoyed hanging out with even outside of school well the other friend got jealous and never talked to me again. I never treated her different I just wanted to have others around us.

i don't think so becouse a real friend is one who walks in when the rest walks out. Becouse of that relationship heor she do not have upset for something usles otherewis we loss him/she.

well grandmaof2,if you are talking about mylot friendship,then you are right,I have met some strange faces of friendship here as well which just leaves me baffled.One minute a person is very friendly,and the other,he or she simply ignores me and is often rude to me,because my comments to their discussion did not meet up to their expectations or because I am being friendly with a particular person,and they feel they are being neglected..........Its really a strange world......

the more the merryer i always say i love it when i have lots of friends come round. i feel you need a diffrent friend for diffay like rent things in life. some to go shopping with, some to take to, others to cry with. you love them all for the little things they do however when a friend whats you all to themselfs all the time it can put a dapper on that friendship. i think that she maybe scard that you may like someone better than you do her. try talking to her this can help you and her as you both need diffrent friends for diffrent resons