How well did you get along?

United States
February 23, 2009 4:56pm CST
If you have a sister, how well did you two get along? I find that a lot of my friends get in arguments with their sisters or complain about how "annoying" they are. I frequently hear things like "OMG I absolutely HATE her! She won't get out of my stuff!" I can't really relate to this. I don't recall EVER having argued with my sister, or claimed to have "hated" her. I am 19 years old and she is 22. I also find it funny how some girls say they "hate" their sisters, and the next day, their sister is the best thing in the world. Why do you think that is?
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17 responses
• United States
25 Feb 09
I'm 21 and my sister is in her thirties. We've never had a fight in our lives. And I mean never. I can't recall a single time. Of course, we never had to share a room or fight over a bathroom (long story), but I'm grateful for the bond we both have as a result of such a great time together.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I only have one sister and yes, I guess we constantly fight and disagree a lot. I guess that's very normal w/ siblings. I just can't understand it but when we are together we constantly argued but when we are apart, specially when one of us is in another country, we constantly saying hello, and emailing each other. Well I guess the fights are just part of being siblings; there's no really big deal. And a sister is a sister no matter what.
@laglen (19759)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I have a sister. he is four years older than me. Growing up, we hated each other. Now as adults, we are best friends!
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I have a 14 years old sister and I am almost 9 years old older than her, there is quite a gap between us but we still get along very well when we were growing up and even now. I'm sure there were a lots of arguement or little girls fighting sometimes but those are like nothing to be bothering us. I love my sister and she loves me :-)
• United States
24 Feb 09
i have an amazing relationship with my 23 year old sister. i think though that the reason is because we have never lived together as she lived at her dads while i live at our moms about a 2 hour drive away. because of this we didnt have the constant seeing eachother so seeing her never got old and the friendship never gets stressed by being together to much.
• China
24 Feb 09
It's common to have argue between sisters and brothers.It is likely for everyone to quarrel with others everyday even because of small matters or trifles.The perpetual controdiction is the permonant topic among human beings.While, on the other hand,the contrdodiction can be amalgamated with love. Families are families.The strength of love have the magic of melting the icy situation.And the" hate" is not real dislike.They still love each other.For me, i don't have sisters but a brother.we never quarrel with each other.He is my model.iI always think that i am the most lucky and happy person in the world!
@xbrendax (2662)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I have 4 sisters and 1 brother. I don't care that much for my youngest sister because it is hard talking to her, she has a lot of money and her views are so different from mine. The next sister is a little mentally ill and can SNAP and turn on you in an instant, so we don't see each other very much. Around her, it is like walking on egg shells and you worry you might say the wrong thing. My next sister was my closest of them all and we were real tight for years, but now all that's changed ever since she took on the care of her autistic grandson! Me is a monster! No one can be around him and even his own mother keeps saying to put (the thing) away in an institution! He attacks people, hurts animals, screams, kicks, spits, bites, hits and punches people and animals, and has awful fits if he doesn't get his way. My sister loves him and will take his side over everyone else and if you don't like it, then you can just leave or go to hell! Her every waking second is only on him, his wants, his needs, buy him this, buy him that, spoil him rotten, entertain him day and night, she takes his slaps, and punches, takes the spiting in her face etc. and still smiles and treats him like royalty! He is only 6 but has already been kicked out of several schools for hurting other kids and teachers. Neighbors have threaten to call the cops over him getting into their yards and hurting their pets as well as going into their homes and taking things. My sister was hauled into court already for him taking all the neighbor's outside solar lights and burying them in his own back yard! My sister just poo poos it all and says things like: I hate those stupid neighbors any way! You can not get through to her how dangerous that kid is becoming. It's only a matter of time till something really bad happens and the authorities take him from her and puts him away! If you are there visiting and (HE) yells: Get out of MY house, SHE, my dear sweet sister will make YOU leave, anything he says or wants she'll do! We are no longer close and I pray she'll come to her senses! My other sister and brother have been living down south for over 20 years so I really don't know them too much. We talk on the phone about 3 times a year but it feels like I am talking to strangers!
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
24 Feb 09
My sister disliked me a lot when we were kids. I adored her. I was the younger one and I looked up to her. She is 2 and a half years older than I am. When I was 10 she moved to live with my father and I basically never saw her for about 15 years. Then we started to hang out slowly, spending more and more time together. Though we had arguments and broke up sometimes, we would feel awful until we made up. We haven't fought in years now and we are the best of friends and talk everyday. She was at the birth of my daughter and I love her so much. I think we value our friendship more than we value our blood relations.
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
24 Feb 09
I too have a sister with me in the house.We keep fighting in the house everyday.The reason for the fight she is not elder to me and she acts as if she is elder.Now because she has a job outside the house.She acts smart with her money.One day i am also going to be a big man and show her my smartness.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 09
I have a sister, 10 years younger than me. We are very close, though we have our differences and arguments. She was born when I was 10; and my parents were busy working, so I took care of her like my baby (or doll). Now that we are married and have our own families, we keep in touch by phone almost daily, and visits weekly.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
I'm close to my little sister.. our age gap is 7 years.. we have so many things in common that's why we get along very well.. we have the same taste when it comes to fashion, movies, music and gadgets to name some.. i share my secrets with her and same thing goes with her.. i'm the only person in the family who knows that she has a boyfriend.. i've met the guy and he seems to be very nice.. as her older sister, i always give her advices that i think will help her somehow..
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
24 Feb 09
I have three sisters, and we are getting along very well. Our mother is happy and proud of us. First of all we cherish the possession of sisters in a family. We will feel lonely on the thought of a single child. Secondly, we share our joys and sorrow, and get together quite often to enhance our intimacy. Thirdly, we come to first time help whenever there is a need, without invitation, and do not anticipate any reward. Fourthly, in case of difference, we focus on resolving the issue, not on creating evil feeling, and if any, do best to remove it. The list is endless, the only goal is for everyone in the joint family to live a happy life.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
i have 1 sister and our age difference is just 3 years. i love her at one time and then i hate her at other times. when we were younger, she always annoys me bacause i'm the older one and she gets in my stuff all the time. she wants what's mine. now that we're all grown up and have our own families, it's still the same we still get into each other's nerves. it's ok if she and her kids comes to our house for a few hours but if we stay together for days i feel like strangling her.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
i have two sisters,i can say that we dont really open up personal matters but were close with one onother,we borrowed clothes and some stuffs and spend some time malling..but we became more closer when we all got married.we talked a lot everything specially regarding our kids,and we also talk about those personal matters we used to avoid.i can say were getting a long much better now than before :)
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Me and my sister were 6 years apart, I was the little sister. We have had our arguments through the years, but I can't remember either of us saying we hated the other. As we got older, we became closer friends then ever. She has been there for me through my divorces and my recent break-up of a 4 year relationship, even though we live 1600 miles apart. I know that she is just a phone call away and she knows the same of me. My mom used to say that if you put us both in a knapsack, we would fight each other to get out first, but if you let someone go against one of us, we'd be there to fight for the other. lol
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I have three sisters, and I get along good with all of them. I don't ever recall fighting with any of them, I know I've never said I hated one of them. I do have two of them that are always getting into it with each other, they're the only two that have children, so its usually because of the kids why they argue, and me being the oldest, I have to hear it from both of them. I don't say anything, I try to stay out of it, and stay on their good sides...haha.
@thungster (156)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I'm just like you! When I was growing up my friends thought it was so strange that my sister and I (she is 1 year older) actually got along and talked to each other. And now that we're 25 and 26, we still get along very well. We both work full-time so we may not talk or see each other as much as we used to, but we're still best friends.