Turn Left, no, Turn Right, no, Go Back, no wait........
By Sparks
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
Regina, Saskatchewan
March 1, 2009 4:08pm CST
My head is spinning and as much as I'd like to say it was because of that green leafy stuff- - - - - - - -..............-
It's not.
As most of you know, my hubs is working so far south of where we live, that he is only home about 4 days out of a month.
He has decided he wants to quit the job, bring the RV home he's been living in, and sleep in his own bed every night.
No wait.
Now he's decided that he'll keep the job and move me down to where he is and we'll rent our house out up here.
No wait.
He wants me to sell the house and move one province to the east!
But he'll still keep the same job he has here. This means he'll still be away from home most of the time, but at least I'll be in a larger town and not confined to these four walls.
No wait.
He says spring is coming and I'll soon be able to get out in my gardens. So why move at all? Playing in the dirt should keep me happy right? And life for him in RV during the spring and summer will surely be better than it is now....
No wait.
He now wants me to pack a bag and we'll drive East next week (on his days off) and look at property and put our house up for sale here. Surely there are jobs further east right?
No wait.
I have a better idea...
I am upgrading the life insurance policy I have on him.
Remember that hole in the ground next door? Well it hasn't totally frozen yet.....
Any ideas what I could do with it? ROFL
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26 responses
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
LMAO..That is the funniest most craziest thing ever...Tell him to make up his mind...lol..I would go bonkers with that..I am starting to see stars already reading this..hehe..He's confused..real confused as I see it. You should have him sit down offer him a juice or a coffee and tell him you both need to talk and make one particular decision together. With what's happening with the economy I suggest he keep the job. In regards to him living in an RV and just rarely comes home what I suggest is why not you both find a nice place to settle down near where he is working. Sell the house only when you find a nice place to stay in near his job. If you both would want to be together..with him coming home everyday and sleeping in his own bed and you both willing to sacrifice the house you have now then I suggest you go near where he works. Maybe you could find a decent place with a garden you would be happy with as well..Tell him you can go find a place during his days off. If this is what you want then tell him that..and tell him this will be your final decision and that you want to make it happen because you want to be where he is and happiness is being together with the one you love. Hope this works out for both of you.
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
lol..tell him ..Hey, honey you have to make up your mind real soon or I might just end up living in the RV with you...hehe..Tell us what he says next ok..hehe..Good luck to you sweety..
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
LOL
We tried living together in the RV when we were renovating our house........
I don't think there's an RV big enough for the two of us! ROFL
Will keep you updated..............
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
He's like this all the time. Does my user name makes sense now? LOL
He intends to keep his job. Just wants me living closer as our current house is so far away from his work, and the town only has 75 people in all much older than me!
So I'm going a little nuts here with so little available. But wait! Today when he calls, he'll have a new plan. You betcha! ROFL
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@mummymo (23706)
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2 Mar 09
LMAO Sparky - and men say women can never make a decision??? My guess is that eventually he will remember to ask what YOU want to do and the whole situation will be sorted out sensibly. Either that or someone (wonder who that might be) will convince him that he asked your opinion and that you agrees with whatever decision he came to all by himself! lol xxxx
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Ah, but mummy, he usually comes to the decision I want!
Usually..............ROFL
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Darn man thinks too much when he's driving. I just gotta get him a portable radio! LOL Take his mind off things you know?
In the end, no matter what happens he'll make the decision and I'll be the one to implement it. Story of my life........
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Mar 09
,mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
WEll just pack a bag and go stay with him a couple of weeks.
How far south?
Do you Drive?
I used to drive from Utah to Nevada and stay with hubby almost eery weekend til I got snowed in had to say a week then . But we enjoyed it any how! And I wiouldnt let him quit a job now! jos a far and few between .
No probably no more jobs farther East! Or West or north or south HE is lucky to have one even if he is aay from home alot!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Mar 09
I thought of that, but he says because he often sleeps in his truck out in the oil fields in order to get the early morning runs, there would be no point. And if I'm going crazy here in the house even with tv and the net, which I wouldn't have in the RV, then being alone down there, would be worse. The RV is parked on his bosses farm in the middle of nowhere quite a distance from where the hubs actually works, so it's six of one and half a dozen of the other no matter where I am..........
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Mar 09
oh a farm cows horses all that?
and you would get bored!?
aw I would get out and talk to them altho they dont answer ya might just get to pet! lol.
I can always find thing to d on a farm and even at that take lots of books! you would still be closer to hubby!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Mar 09
Sadly no animals. The owner rents out his land for crops. He runs an oilfield service business, so he's not a farmer, more's the pity! I suppose if the hubs is serious about moving, I'll end up spending some time down there in the RV to be available for quick trips across the border into the next province to look at property. And yes, definitely will take lots and lots of books and my dog! LOL
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Doesn't that just drive you buggy?? I hate when people do that sort of thing. Make a plan, stick with the plan and proceed according to the plan. Simple. Keep it simple.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Show me a simple man, and I'll show you a plan! ROFL
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
3 Mar 09
So am I apparently..................LOL
Hey mista, wanna date my sista? ROFL
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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2 Mar 09
Keep coming east until you hit a funny little group of islands called The British Isles. Choose a good one, they all have their merits - and live happily ever after solving murders in leafy villages where everyone knows their place and strangers are welcomed for the gossip that they generate.
Ode to the twitching curtain
All seeing eyes lurk behind
cottagers windows so pretty
Strangers and locals are all one of a kind
It's the gossip that follows that's s****y
Ok, it won't get me shortlisted for Poet Laureate. LOL.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Maybe not get you that Poet Laureate, but it'll get me to England that much faster! LOL
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Maybe HE needs some of the green leafy stuff.
Tell your hubs to move that RV down here, then I can shove my OWN into it so yours won't feel so lonely. I'll move up there, then we can have a blast!!!
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Now THERE'S an idea! LOL I wish I could convince him to 'relax' with a puff or two once in awhile.
But I like your next idea better! LOL Wonder how your hubs would handle my hubs? American's Funniest Home Videos material for sure! ROFL
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I really don't see a need for me to expand much more on that one I don't think.....@James72 (26790)
• Australia
2 Mar 09
Hahahaha. Well we've got a few hurdles I'm afraid..... Firstly, I'm 36, so probably not quite the age to be considered a viable toy boy! Distance is a challenge too. Oh and my Wife doesn't seem to want to embrace such a concept for some odd reason? 
Oh well, we can always imagine right! LMAO
Oh well, we can always imagine right! LMAO 3 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
LOL, wanna volunteer James. The nearest I get to a toy boy in this tiny town is Mr. Trenchcoat and he's over 70! ROFL
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
LOL, you are now officially my VIRTUAL toy boy James! My respect to the wife of course. Tell her not to look. LOL
And fyi, at my age 36 is just a puppy in training to me! ROFL And oh baby, could I train you! 
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Yes, I have one very permanent idea but it would put us both in jail...lol I'd tell him like I told my husband,(you see I've been there too). I told him that I wasn't moving and not selling the house. I'm also not going to go stay with him in the hotels since he is at work 12 hours a day 6 to 7 days a week and there is nothing for me to do in a small room but become very depressed as I have done in the months at a time that I have spent with him in hotels.
He would come home from work, eat, get on the computer and not even acknowledge that I was there after he got on the computer. SO I got maybe 2 hourse with him a day if that.
I'd rather be at home in "my home" where everything I have is near me. I can do as I please. I can see my grandchildren and my daughter. I can have my babies with me at all times.
So no, I refuse to sell the home I've lived in for years. I'd have to be the one doing all of the work in moving and packing and renting the house if I rented it.
I am happier where I am and will stay here.
I go once in awhile and spend time with him when I feel like going. He comes home when he can, which is or was every 6 to 8 weeks.
Good luck sparks. Do what you want to do....and just tell him that's how it is.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
2 Mar 09
That would be wonderful, then get him to lean in that direction. But remember you must do it in a way that he thinks it's his idea. That way he will do it...lol
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
My grandmother taught me about that trick when dealing with men before I got married. I could do it with my first hubs, but this one is a stubborn old coot! LOL
I haven't talked to him yet today *shockers!*, so I don't know where his head is at today! LOL I'm sure I'll find out........
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Hey moonbeam! Actually, as much as I'd miss my little town, I wouldn't mind being close enough to a larger one where I could at least get to a library, shop, see a movie, make friends my own age and be where I could get on a bus or a train and visit my kids more often. So if hubs decides to sell the house, then I'm not going to freak and peak. I'll just pack! LOL We'll keep our other property here and build on it like we planned though.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
I was thinking more like hide HIM in it! ROFL
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Yeah, but he'll have a ton of dirt on him. I figure by the time he digs himself out I'll be in England! LOL
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@jerzgirl (9327)
• United States
2 Mar 09
OMG! At great risk of being hit with many different attacks for the stereotype I'm about to use, but are you sure you're married to a man???? 
And, what about the senior home you were planning to build OVER that hole in the ground??? (Although, what a nice headstone to have, huh??? 
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And, what about the senior home you were planning to build OVER that hole in the ground??? (Although, what a nice headstone to have, huh??? )4 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Oh stereotype away jerz. LOL I keep telling him he's such a girl all the time! ROFL
As for the property, we intend to keep it no matter what and get those homes built.
We made a commitment, and we'll stick to it. Besides, with the hubs away so much, it all falls on me anyway and I can get things done from a few more miles away than I intended.....
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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2 Mar 09
Hi sparky,
You have to have another party to dig that dang hoe up again, lol, well its up to you wether you want to go, at this time you can't risk moving because of a job as you never know if you are going to have a job next week, so I would hang on there and not move, but then again that is just me, I'd rathe be safe then sorry. Love and hugs.
Tamara
xxxxx
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Believe me Tamara, that hole is looking better to me everyday! LOL
We could still move and he would keep the same job. It's a toss up.
I'll just have to wait and see what he comes up with tomorrow! LOL
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@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Hubby has had way to much time to think of all the possibilities. Thats where they should have stayed in his head. Yea he's thinking outloud. Wow my heasd would be spinning too. Maybe he will just want you to sell everything and go with him all the time.....oh boy it's catching. Just stay put and when the ground defrosts plant like your life depended on it. The hole you say is open..........thinking........no thats illegal.......how far out are you???????? Good luck my fried that's a god one.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
LOL morningstar.......you've got it! Wait until spring, lose myself in my gardens and let the hubs drive HIMSELF crazy! ROFL As for the hole....it will be a long time before it's properly filled in or built over, so it's always an option illegal or not! LOL
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I'm betting you have a few ideas, don't you bad girl? And here your poor hubby is, trying to make your life more interesting and unusual. You just don't appreciate all the time he's taking to think up ways to keep you on your toes! LMAO
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
My bad!
YOU try living with a dozen phone calls a day, all with a 'new plan' to improve my life! LOL I'm just way too old for this kind of thing.........ROFL I guess I'm getting to that age where I'm just too set in my ways.*sigh* My mother would be so proud!
YOU try living with a dozen phone calls a day, all with a 'new plan' to improve my life! LOL I'm just way too old for this kind of thing.........ROFL I guess I'm getting to that age where I'm just too set in my ways.*sigh* My mother would be so proud!4 people like this
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Mar 09
OMG TL, I laughed out loud so hard at your response, I nearly choked!
You bet your butt I'll be telling him that! ROFL
You bet your butt I'll be telling him that! ROFL2 people like this
@ElicBxn (63664)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I thought you were going to build something over the hole and have a business... or was that something else?
tell him what you want to do - I know you would rather be with him, but really... what is it that YOU want to do
or am I just a too independent woman not used to answering to men?
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
We still intend to build the senior's housing on our empty lots. Those we'll keep even if we move. That's pretty much become my pet project now that hubs is not around........but I am going a little crazy here with so little available to stimulate me. And to get the housing built I really need to be closer to the city...I want my hubs to be happy and if he'll be happier living closer to where he works, then I'll move. This move he's planning is actually to make MY life fuller, so I can't argue with that!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
You know, when he's home, he can make up his mind pretty quick about things, because I'm there to talk it out with. It's only when he's on the road alone, that he goes into a head spin! LOL See, behind every great man there really is a greater woman! ROFL
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Daffy,
First of all, I didn't know you were married. Sounds like we should call him Donald Duck!!
My suggestion is to just let him talk. Eventually he'll have forgotten everything That is unless you liked one of his ideas. I think the hole sounds like a possibility. Let us know the plan, maybe we can help.xoxoxoxo
louie
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
He's more like a Pluto! ROFL But he does rather quack like a Donald Duck..........mmmmm, I do believe the hubs has a new name! ROFL Thanks Louie.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
1 Mar 09
It's list time, I can tell. Any time you have a problem that is starting to look like a 700 pound Gorilla you need a pro and con list. Make sure you get it all written down. Maybe two lists then compare. That way you can be clear of any misunderstandings that really mess up a marriage. Take this from my 50 years of marriage and use it. That 50 years has got to be good for something. Blessings
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Mar 09
Good advice pat........any idea how to get the hubs to actually take my list seriously? Because believe me, I've got one! LOL
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
1 Mar 09
What to you bring to the table to make him consider you? At times i have had to pack in order to walk out if necessary, I can show in black and white or rather red why I am a financial asset. In services alone he could not afford to replace me.
Forget the I love you, and I can't live without you at this point in time you need cold hard facts not emotion. Good Luck
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
Sounds good to me, because I can certainly prove that to him. Have a few times lately in fact. We may be living apart most of the time, but if it wasn't for me,
he'd not be able to live and work where he is........he forgets that I think.
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@uniquestar (793)
• India
2 Mar 09
ha ha...that seemed funny at first but i think you're having tough time deciding on it....
hope you make up your...., or even better he makes up his mind soon and settle down with one thing...good luck.
have a nice day...
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Mar 09
It's up to him to make up his mind, after all he wears the pants in the family! LOL
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
3 Mar 09
ROFLMAO, funny stuff. Sounds like hubby can't make up his mind. And how is that suppose to help you? LOL. NOT! Take it one step at a time and don't rush anything, you 2 need to sit down and talk, when he is not so lonely.
Good luck to you both.
Hugs
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
3 Mar 09
He'll be home tomorrow for three days, so I suppose between washing his clothes, bringing his log books up to date, filing his taxes, feeding him, and getting him ready to go back to work again, we'll find some time to talk. lol
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
4 Mar 09
LOL, sound like a plan to me. Enjoy your time with your hubby.
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