love vs. in love

Hi again, Well, I have this belief that people dont really "fall in love", perhaps they do unconsciously. What really happens when that feeling comes over us, is that on some level, usually unconsciously we are "open to receive love" and when our hearts are open, and the other persons hearts are open, in that moment, we see the whole of eachother (the field of all possibilities) and we see in the other person a reflection of our true being, which incidentally is LOVE. When people say "I am not in love with you" - they are consciously closing their hearts to love. They say "i love you" more from a place of habit, in that moment their hearts are not completely open and they are not allowing themselves to experience love as it can be experienced (and as they experienced, when they fell in love).

well to me it's like you can just love someone. like i love my friend jody but i am not in love with her. i am in love with my wife. so it's like a friend love you have for one of your friends. where you might be madly in love with your spouce. you think about them all the time, and they make your heart act all silly and stuff.

i do not understand what that means either. i think it is a cheep way to end a relationship if you ask me. i think that the person found someone else and they just use this to end the relationship because they are too chicken to tell the other person that they found someone else.

i think this person loves you as a friend or a sister, but not as a lover. whoever said that to you must be a gentleman (if he's male), it seems like he's letting you know that he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but he wants you to know that you should not expect or mistaken him to be attracted to you in "that" way (sexually). He just doesn't want you to be disappointed. And he cares.