are some people like serouis ?

He sounds like a teenager don't worry it does not last forever just feels like that way.What comes out of their mouths sometimes is awful and they don't realise how horrible they are being,the best thing to do is ignore it and let it wash over you.The fact he went to his room shows you have control,they all feel hard done by for no reason at all .Stay strong ,count to ten,he has hormones banging around in his body and it is worst for a boy,anybody who tells him he is wrong is trying to ruin his life and everthings a drama.The hormomes do terrible things to them confuse them and even they don't know why they react like they do.Let things calm down and offer him a cookie and milk it will help sort out his blood sugar level,slip him something to get his bowls moving that can also throw them out.like I say it will not last forever god does want you to forgive him,the fact he throws his weight around means he can trust you and you love him,strange things teenagers.

I explain it to my kids like this: Sorry doesn't fix what's broken. If I break your toy but say I'm sorry...does it make the toy all better? If you get a cut does it hurt less when I say I'm sorry? I know he's a little old to be taught that but I'm sure you know what I mean. Sorry isn't anything more then a band aid and it's not a way out of your (his) bad behavior. And using it to get what you want from someone else is wrong. SHOW me that you are sorry, not tell me lies. And in my opinion (take it or leave it) forgiving him is fine, but it doesn't mean you have to give more to him until he shows you that he's at least a bit sorry.

Well, no offense meant to your nephew but it seems he is pretty much very selfish, thinking only of his own and not really contemplating that he has done you wrong. It will always get on my nerves since I would feel that I am just being used. Kids nowadays, why am I not surprised anymore. I hope he realizes how lucky he is to have a patient and understanding uncle like you.

It is amazing how he thinks that just by saying he was sorry that you would help him. Unbelievable!! I, too, would say, "I am also sorry that I cannot help you. One time saying you are sorry without really meaning it is not enough. Instead, learn to be respectful on a regular basis and when I see that you are genuine, and that may take a LONG time since you hurt my feelings so badly, then I may feel that I can be there for you again, when you need me. Right now, I do not know if and when that will ever happen. It is up to you." Oh, make him sweat for it. He needs to learn a good lesson in respect.

Hi syankee! Yes it unnerves me. People don't take the word as serious as they should sometimes. Especially when it's not even for the issue.

Sometime, kids tend to be irresponsible and immature. Kids are kids. It's just a matter of letting them aware the bad results of their actions. I have bunch of younger cousins who raided my room get things without my permission even borrowing my well kept bags and shoes. They are the most annoying individuals I've ever met. I always gave them a lesson for every things they do. Discipline them. Do not give in. Sometime you need to be rude to kids to let them aware there the prize of their actions.

In the words of Heath Ledger's Joker from "The Dark Knight", "Why so serious?" Anyway, what I mean is, life really should not be taken so seriously, sometimes, you just have to laugh. Just the other day, I came across a real life "noob", or "newbie" for those of you who have no idea what the word "noob" is. This person must have been born yesterday because he had no clue that community college was where people could get their AA and AS, and where people could actually have a major. This guy did not know this. He says that he listens to everything that his friends tell him. He made me laugh so hard because he did not have clue about anything and this guy is at a four-year university. I knew that they let anyone in college these days, but I did not know that they let completely clueless people into college. This guy really did not have a clue about anything. When funny things like this happen, honestly, laugh it all up. It's funny.

I think it is really important that people know why they are sorry for. That is sad that your nephew doesn't get it and would bend his way just for his advantage. Many people are confused and not serious enough! They need to stop and look at the whole picture on why others become angry and conflicts occur. Best wishes to him... I hope he gets it one day.

haha that made me laugh. He is a typical teenager and he doesn't want to accept that he was wrong and maybe he wasn't wrong either lol. I wasn't there at the time of discussion you see. We say a lot of things when we are angry and thats the way most of the teenegers vent out their ire, by calling names. He said sorry to you because he needed your help. Atleast he was honest about it lol. He doesn't want to hurt his ego and I also think to a certain extent that you brought up the idea that he has to respect you or you wouldn't help him. Erm, that would win you a fake respect and not the real heart felt respect. He is undergoing a state of mind where he has to rebel and I think that you should communicate with him as a friend rather than an uncle and tell him that his behaviour isn't adult like and there are lots of ways to disagree to ideas politely in a parliamentry manner. It is okay to be mad at an idea but not at the person.

This is an interesting discussion because it goes along with a forgiveness one I just was answering yesterday. For me, I'm kind of like you when it comes to someone just saying sorry, but not meaning it. I've cut a few people out of my life who kept doing the same mean things followed by "I'm sorry, I didn't really mean it". After a time, you get tired of them continuing the same patterns. My children were all raised that they need to really mean they are sorry, if they don't then they shouldn't say it. I think what you shared with your nephew is a good life lesson, that you are forgiving him because you should, but that he should be sorry because he really is, not because he wants a pay out one day. Of course, there are offenses that "sorry" never truly erases and I think kids need to learn that. They need to know that we'll always love them but if they do certain things those actions cause scars and break the trust. That is also a tough life lesson. My own brother is one who wasn't ever taught that, and now he's sitting in prison-learning that now no sorry is enough. Blessings-Anora