is it common?

Hi sxrxnrr, I have been married for nearly 29 years, I think I've told that before but the love I have for him is defferent from the love I first felt for him when we first courted, does this sound strang to you? but its true, I do worry about him when he is rideing his bike at night, maybe its just normal. Hugs. Tamara

It is not uncommon to have ups and downs in a relationship. The key to a successful relationship is the ability to withstand all the ups and downs.

Yes, I do think this is common. Relationships are like a mirror, often the thing we do not like in the other person, is an aspect of ourself that they are reflecting back to us. In other words, its something in yourself that you disown. For example, you might not like your b/f being lazy, reading the papers, watching tv and you might think "gosh he's lazy", you might be running around busy doing stuff, and it irritates you about him, because you dont let yourself be lazy. You disown that part of you. Next time you doubt your love for your b/f, see if you can find out what exactly it is that you are disliking and ask yourself if you see that in yourself. Good luck.