Do Have A Favourite Analogy You Regularly Use
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
March 16, 2009 1:20pm CST
Going back to my discussion on 'self esteem' one analogy that I actually have should in theory help me and certainly others when feeling jealous of others, or of those with looks who look down on others who are not as attractive as them
I hope you like it and I hope you find it useful
You see a beautifully wrapped, ribboned and exciting Christmas present lying on the floor for you! It's been well wrapped with care and love that it's a wonderful sight to behold, then when you unwrap the present, inside is something that makes you jump back in fright, it's horrid, what's inside makes you close your eyes quick!
Think of that same concept with a person! Next time you see someone gorgeous, remind yourself, yes they look lovely but what's inside them?
They could be a wife/husband beater, they could be shallow, cold, they could be a gold digger, a malicious, twisted person, they could have severe mental or physical problems, they might not even have a personality, they could actually bore you to tears! They could have done time in prison, even committed a heinous criminal act.
Who knows! We only judge what is on the outside. Take the beauty away and what are you left with! An empty shell.
Do you have an analogies that help you in life or that you could share about ways to make your life not so negative or upsetting
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12 responses
@micheleg34 (141)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I have adult attention deficit disorder, and am always trying to explain to people what it is like. I finally came up with this analogy that helps them understand me.
Imagine you are in a crowded room. You see someone on the opposite side of the room that you really want to talk to. You start walking towards them, but before you take two steps, someone else jumps in front of you and starts talking. You tell them not now, but as soon as you start walking again, someone else jumps in front of you requiring your attention.... This continues, and you make very little progress towards the person you want to see. You are getting frustrated, but you can't just ignore all the people jumping in front of you. By the time you finally get to the person you wanted to talk to, you have usually either forgotten what you wanted to say, or the person has left the room. That's what my life is like every day.
When I tell people this, I'm not trying to make them feel sorry for me or anything, I'm just explaining to them why I may not get things done as quickly as they do, or in the same order. It helps them understand what it's like to live in my mind.
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
16 Mar 09
My analogy is similar to yours. I like to think of people as apples. Many times, you might find an apple that doesn't look so appealing, but when you get inside, it is absolutely beautiful and you can see that it is good. There are times that you come across an apple that looks very appetizing, but once you get inside, you see that it has some dark streaks, and you can see that it is not as good as you thought it was. It's the old saying..."You can't judge a book by it's cover." And that is so true when it comes to people as well.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I love the tale of Young Goodman Brown and the description of the trees. The trees were all decayed, hollow, and without fruit. Sometimes people are like that. They are simply without fruit even if they have been there the longest, have the most clout, or what have you.
Now, one of the analogies I use quite a bit is the story of Anakin Skywalker. Anakin's fears led him down a very dark path, and it was that fear that turned to anger, and caused him to fall. So, when I'm feeling fearful of something I'm always reminded that fear only leads to bad things, so I change my perspective. I also share that with people when I'm counseling them on anger as well.
Another analogy that I talk about with people is another Star Wars tale, when Obi Wan is telling Luke "That many of the truths we cling to depend largely on our point of view". Life is like that where sometimes we have our fixed view and when we challenge that view we may find that something else exists all together.
Namaste-Anora
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@erictseng (18)
• China
17 Mar 09
Yes,I agree that you have got a point here!In my dayly life,we usually meet kinds of people,they are all not sincere or evil to the society.A friend of mine called DA FEI had make me friend with me for 2 years ,I always think him a loyal man and his outlooking seems very gentle but one day the fact is opposite .He told me he was a rich man and would like help sb who is sinking into the problem. One day when I walled in the street ,in the same time ,DA FEI was also walking on the road opposite ,then a dirty man was begging for moneay from him ,but he not any didn't give him but also hitted the pitifull man ,I was so angry with him.Since that time I have broken up with his friend .So how to evaluate some one is not only basised on his outlooking!
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@makinmoney7784 (5)
• United States
17 Mar 09
hello!self esteem is tricky beacause you will always have haters.I live by the simple rule "they do not pay my bills or help me succeed,so let them hate they are leaving someone else alone".
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@nannacroc (4049)
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16 Mar 09
My mum had a shorter version than yours, she used to say, 'she's all fur coat and no knickers'. I think that sums up what you're saying too. She said it meant people who put on a big outside show but forgot the smaller, more important things like manners and caring about others feelings.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Thank you for the honor of best response in this discussion!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Yes, Listen to people. People most often will speak about what they love and what they care about. They will give you insight into who they really are. If we just really listen. When I listen to someone, I cant tell what they care about, and what they are passionate about. When you listen , you also will often catch it when they are not being honest and contradict theirselves. You will learn. That is the second most important thing besides not just taking it for granted because someone looks great , that they are great. You will know them also by the fruit of their works. That one statement can save people alot of trouble.
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
17 Mar 09
You seem to have an obsession with beautiful people.
But let me tell you that all those bad things your are talking about are very more likely to be found in an ugly person than a beautiful one.
Because beautiful people have their beauty as a bonus over everyone else... they usually use it to do good things rather than bad things in order to become respected citizens and achieve a certain degree of wealth.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
16 Mar 09
LOL well you know me Wolfie. I am an optimist for the most part. I do see a person from the inside first. Then I will see how beautiful hey really are. Sorry cant think of an analogy for it but you already said it best. You are so smart my dear sweet Wolfie. XXX
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
16 Mar 09
This is so true, wolfie, and most of us realize that beauty is only skin deep. Anyone who has spent some time interacting with beautiful people will know that they seldom are endowed with other characteristics that are desirable. Many of them are so wrapped up in their looks that they don't cultivate the most important social graces. They often don't feel the need to be kind and courteous or humble.
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