The Virtue of Patience
By Canellita
@Canellita (12029)
United States
March 16, 2009 8:48pm CST
I don't know what it is but it seems like the older I get, the more patience I need. I have learned to not sweat the small stuff and let things go and so on and so forth but others around me don't seem as able to embrace this concept. The more I evolve it seems the more others regress and it simply drives me nuts some days.
How is it the more self aware and enlightened you are the more of a challenge it is interacting with others in the world? Why is it I can let things go by without judging them as good or bad and others act as if the world is ending or someone has unjustly wronged and needs to be put to death for disagreeing?
Is it really just a question of maturity? Are we not all supposed to be aspiring to our higher selves? Why isn't there more cultivation of courtesy and compassion? Why is anger management the pervading theme in so many lives whether the persons in question are aware of it or not?
Perhaps I am too child-like in my expectations.
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10 responses
@Rosmari (21)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
Being aware is sign of being active on what is happening in your environment and the more we have encounter the more we are aware of things and start to find out why and how? these are the question that we are asking as we go on with our investigation regarding the situation that we are facing, however, we never stop until we find the answer and being patience is the key to success.Sometimes in our journey we are hurt and it's difficult to overcome and we used to blamed the person who hurt us and its really hard to let it go. but, the truth is we just don,t want to accept the fact that we let these people to hurt us. Maturity comes when a person have learned to accept the reality and face tomorrow with all our heart, experience will make us mature.at the end of the day, we realize that patience will lead us to our dream and reach for the satisfaction and build up self-esteem.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Awareness is one of the most important tools we can develop in life. Thank you for sharing your perspective with us.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
17 Mar 09
i know the feeling, i find it hard to let somethings just blow by me, specaily when it comes to other respecting me, specaily family.
but i often turn a cold shoulder and have to make myself numb to things
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I think dealing with a lack or respect is the most difficult challenge of patience anyone has to deal with. If you're someone who does the right thing generally, and has care and consideration for others it can be difficult to deal with a lack of respect. It's not a complicated concept after all and everyone should be able to do it.
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I guess our conversation earlier sparked this discussion. I know over the years through God's grace he has helped me to learn the virtue of patience. There are some that are still earning this virtue. I know my two daughters have hlped me earn this one, because if I hadn't had the patience that I have had with them, I may be a nut case and admitted to some psych hospital.......
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Yup, you guessed it. One thought led to another and a new discussion was born :-)
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@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
17 Mar 09
i agree. the older i get the more patience i need also. it seems like more of an effort to dig deep and be patient at times but i think it is because i have so much stress in my life. so i have to remind myself to be patient with the people who have nothing to do with my stress. i find hesitating before i react helps me to be more patient. like counting to 10 for instance when i feel i may loose my patience.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I have to do that at the school quite often. It seems like the kids gang up on you some days. Right now we are experiencing some kind of March madness!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I've always known that, I think I'm just getting tired of some other people not growing up.
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@archie_crim69 (1)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
the virtue of patience is what my parents had told me eversince the world begun. patience is one of the most important virtue that our Lord Jesus Christ had taught us. we know that in "every mountains of sacrifices, lies the valleys of succes".
there are times that makes us believe that there is no chance anymore, because of the circumstances that we faced.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
20 Mar 09
It sounds like your parents tried to teach you things important in life.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Mar 09
i am generally not a patient person and i really have to increase my patient limit when i meet my hubby... he is really testing my patience and until now i still try my best to be a more patient person... fortunately, i have a hubby who is much more patient than me... otherwise, i don't know what will happen to our relationship... take care and have a nice day...
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
18 Mar 09
It is a good thing that your husband seems to provide some balance in the relationship. Men in general require a lot of patience to deal with and your hubby is probably quite grateful that you put up with him even when you are often impatient about things he does. I wish you many happy years.
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
I think being patient comes with age. I used to be so impatient to the point I really throw a tantrum when I was young. When I had my boyfriend, who acts slower than I do, I developed the art of patience just so we wouldn't fight! I've brought that until now. And now that he is my husband and we have a kid, my patience has tripled! It's an art in itself. LOL!
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Mar 09
People have often complimented my patience at times I felt I was being impatient, lol. I guess I am most impatient when thinking certain situations should be different.
@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Way to go learning to let stuff go. I to have done the same and man I know what you mean I do not understand why people just act like the world is ending. There are alot of thing left out of our control but still some tend to think that they are in their control. Patience is a very peaceful thing for me and it has helped a great deal learning to let the stuff go that is out of my control.Now we just have to have patience with those that do not have any at all lol lol!
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Right now, patience is something I feel that I am really lacking. I am normally a very patient person, and as I get older, there are time when I am more patient than I used to be, especially with my kids, and times when I am not very patient at all, especially when I am feeling extremely stressed out as I am right now.
The older I get, the easier it is for me to let the little things go. My husband , on the other hand, can hardly let anything o, and will often get grumpy over little things. Maybe it is a question of maturity. I think that maybe it has more to do with experiences thatwe go through.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I find that when I am tired I have less patience and I have to really struggle to keep it under control when I am around my students. It's harder to use all the politically correct "talk so kids can learn" words.
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