Wife swap.....Husband swap? Would you swap for 2 weeks?
By moondancer
@moondancer (7433)
United States
March 17, 2009 6:42am CST
The program on tv called Wife Swap and I've even seen one call Husband Swap, they have taken it to the extreme. They find people that have totally opposite lives.
I mean a family of people that don't believe in God or any religion for a woman that totally believes in God. They have had many types of people on this show.
They have parents that won't allow their kids to go outside the home to ones that just let their kids run wild. This is just a couple of examples.
I have seen both the men and women cry from how they are treated by the "new mom" or the "new dad".
My question for you all is, would you swap your wife or husband for 2 weeks?
If you would swap then what do you think you could show the people that is your way of life? Knowing that you'll go to someone completely opposite than you are.
Me, I think they'd send me to a family that the children have no disipline and they may not be christian. I'd hope to teach them a happy medium in the way they do things and the way I do things. When they come here I don't know who they would send. My home is nothing special and needs plenty of repair, so I'd probably be sent to a wealthy persons home, ( one I could only dream of having).
Since I can't clean like I use to my house is not spotless. They wouldn't like it if they keep theirs spotless. I have no help here with things. A couple of the kids do stuff but the majority it's just too much to get them to do things. Oh I try, I'm just to tired and feel too bad to fight for the most part.
So, what about you and where do you think you'd be sent? What can you show the other family?
Thank you for sharing.
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29 responses
@sparky4641 (155)
• United States
17 Mar 09
they do get paid $50,000. not bad for 2 weeks of your time.
but to do it just for fun, no.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
They use to get paid for it. I don't think they do anymore. It' just for the experience.
They use to show what the other mom chose to do with the money, they don't do this anymore. They don't even say they get anything anymore. I don't know.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I'd like the %50k more for having to deal with the awful position they put you in. lol
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@sparky4641 (155)
• United States
17 Mar 09
i just read it. now they get $20k instead of $50
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
17 Mar 09
i dont think i could do that, and i know my wife would never do it either. but it's funny to watch at times.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Yes, I do like watching it and do wish sometimes that I was there to help this family or that one.
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
I guess I can't do this. Maybe if for just one day, but for 2 weeks, that would be a long time, and I'm sure I can't. And I will be worried about the person who will take my place, my hubby doesn't like to be told what to do and if there's something he won't like, he might yell at the person.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I've seen this happen many times. But the first week they go by the rules of the home and family...the second week the rules change to what the "new mom" thinks they should be. He could if it's way out there say no we refuse to do this. It's not set in stone that they have to do things by the letter than the new mom says to do.
It has helped many couples to realize just how much they love their spouse. That's what I like about it and they show respect for them when they come back home.
@zelnut (39)
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
24 Jan 14
Not for a tv show in real life I had to face a situation where me with my wife had to take shelter of our friends room which was a studio flat. we stayed for a week with them..things were fine..except that they did look into her as any bachelor would, but there wasn't anything else...
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
17 Mar 09
I like the show and I was shocked more than just once to see how people live. Some of them are really weird. I might want to participate in the show and that would give me an opportunity to understand how other people live and what flaws are in my family. Sometimes we don't understand the flaws until an outsider points it out. So I would take the opportunity positively and as there is nothing dirty involved, I would be adventurous and go ahead with it. It would be like taking a vacation for two weeks and it would be extremely interesting. Have a nice day!
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Some vacation. I can think of better ones, lol. I can see how others live from watching this show. I too have been shocked at some I've seen.
@cajuncakes (106)
• United States
18 Mar 09
There is no way I would swap with anyone. The reason being I would want to save the poor lady that would be coming a lot of grief. My husband is like my fourth child and of course I have the three kids and a dog who thinks she is the fifth child. I live with a bunch of pigs and my middle child enjoys fighting with everyone so I'm sure she would flip out in a day or two. So to save everyone the grief of going through all that I don't think I would attempt it.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Actually you sound like a perfect person to do it. They would send someone there that is completely opposite of you and it would open the eyes of your family to just what you do, how much you take from them that no one else will. They would have more respect for you when you got home, lol. You'd make $20,000. That would help the family and I don't think the "new mom" chooses how it's spent anymore.
@cajuncakes (106)
• United States
18 Mar 09
My husband would die if I would do that! lol
He's a private kind of guy and he wouldn't want the world watching us. I guess I can't blame him, I remember hearing about the guy that had hate mail because he was mean to the new mom. I'm a relatively easy person to get along with but like you said they stick you in the complete opposite family to make it interesting. I'd probably get some stuck up, smug jerks who would stand there looking down their noses at me. Besides, I'd miss my kids too much (even though they like driving me crazy sometimes). When one of them is gone to sleep away from home I feel like the house is too quiet and if they're gone for more than two days I miss them terribly.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
18 Mar 09
For one, I would never swap myself or any of my family members. My husband, like me, would never be game to spending time at a stranger’s place and regarding my son, I would not be comfortable at all. However, hypothetically even if we do, like you I would love to spend the two weeks at a rich and famous person’s place, just to get a hang of their lifestyle you know. We read so much about these people and its really intriguing how the lead their daily lives. I would just like to lift the veil and be a social butterfly for a few weeks.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
That does sound kind of nice doesn't it? Just for a short time.
@zelnut (39)
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
24 Jan 14
different couples have different ideas..some agree and some wont and some just want to try and gain some experience on it while some fantasy on it and stay away from it the same time. Religiously as far as i know it's pretty regarded as something negative but from life experience if you know who you are swapping with and do trust them, it flowers pretty good moments and time.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I don't think I'd be selected. I think they look for people that are extremes. The extremely religious person, the extreme vegetarian, the person who only home schools and will not allow their children to be friends with other kids.
I am just middle of the road.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I don't think I would be either. I'm too mellow and roll with the flow...so to speak. I don't allow the children to go anywhere if I don't know the parent and their phone numbers. The children are not allowed off of our property. I am a bit over protective of them, that's the only thing I am extreme about but not to the point that the people they choose are.
I have thought it would be nice to have the rest of the family have another woman here that is not a good parent and then they'd appreciate things they have more. But I wouldn't want the children to be abused in any way.
@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
17 Mar 09
No, I could never do it. I've watched the show a few times and they do switch totl opposites which I think is wrong because someone always ends up being miserable. Yet, of course, drama makes for good tv. These people must be desperate for the money or their 15 minutes of fame. I couldn't leave my family that long.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I don't know some of them have a lot of money. I'm like you though. When I go away on a trip I am good for a few days then I want to be back home around the ones I left.
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I don't think I could leave my family for two weeks to participate in a TV show. On the other hand, if they were still paying $50,000 that would be tempting. That is a lot of money. Either way, I have a hard time being away from home. I don't like to travel, and I don't like change. It would be very rough to live in someone else's shoes for two weeks. I would worry about my business, because I run the office portion of the business my husband and I own together.
IF I did switch, they would probably send me to a home where the mom is a complete girly-girl. I am far from that. I do not wear make-up, and I generally pull my hair up in a pony tail. The kids in the household would probably be out of control, which I can't handle with my own kids. The husband would probably expect to be waited on constantly. That is my complete opposite.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Except for the girly girl part you sound like me. I am a lady and I love wearing lace, silk, satin, pretty girly dresses. I also like my jeans and tank tops. I'm a person of more than one side to her.
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I have lots of sides, too. Unfortunately when it comes to dressing, though, I got stuck on jeans and t-shirts.
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
17 Mar 09
No, I would never do this. I have anxiety and I would be afraid that being out of my element would really cause me to be crazy. Plus you never know what living conditions you might have to go to and call me whatever you like but I am very comfortable at my house with my family and things run smoothly. It may not be spotless but it is not messy and it is the way we like it.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I'm like you. No my house is not spotless, although I'd really like it to be. That's the way it always was and that's what makes me happy and being in my own home with my own family.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
1 Apr 09
No moon dancer if and when i have my children i wont like to share them with anyone else. Nor i would like to swap my wife for someone else's even for an hour how sexy or beautiful other girl might be. It is very much possible that children might learn bad habits when you swap or might not appreciate what you provide them if they go to stinky rich homes and they might be ashamed to call you mother or compare their living standards with those of the rich guys you sent them.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I understand how you feel and why. The thing is only one person goes to the other home. It's either the wife or the husband. Really it's designed to make you realize that it's not better anywhere else than you have it. You are suppose to appreciate your spouse and children more as well as learn a thing or two that you could do to help your family be better and happier.
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
hello moondancer...
I have seen that on one channel but I don't remember where 
As for me, I wouldn't want to get into that program because I have a stage fright and same with being in front of the camera knowing the whole world is going to watch. I don't even like the idea of swapping 
... you can actually share your ideas on having a great family in different ways and swapping, in my book, is not included lol...
I, too, am not a person who makes her home really spotless. In my family, we felt comfy on just a good clean home and a bit cluttered lol... like books on the table and stuff like those hee hee...
As for me, I wouldn't want to get into that program because I have a stage fright and same with being in front of the camera knowing the whole world is going to watch. I don't even like the idea of swapping ... you can actually share your ideas on having a great family in different ways and swapping, in my book, is not included lol...
I, too, am not a person who makes her home really spotless. In my family, we felt comfy on just a good clean home and a bit cluttered lol... like books on the table and stuff like those hee hee...@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
We do too everyone here reads books and they are everywhere, not just in the library. In some cases people don't learn respect or how much one person in the family is doing. They need for the family to see just how good they have it with them. It makes them have a new appreciation for the mom and the dad, also the children.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I do know what you mean, even though they can't do that. And cameras are around 24/7.
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
you're right on that one moondancer... I guess it just goes to show that the phrase "to see is to believe" still stand most on people's lives. They need some people to show them how and be able to appreciate more of what they have...
But i'd still not go for a wife swap or not let my future hubby go for it too... I'd rather cuddle on my hubby's lap and hmpz! not let another woman touch or kissie my hubbycious kidding... hahaha. am weird much lol
But i'd still not go for a wife swap or not let my future hubby go for it too... I'd rather cuddle on my hubby's lap and hmpz! not let another woman touch or kissie my hubbycious kidding... hahaha. am weird much lol
@JHawkin214 (279)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I'm not married but I would defintely do it. They would send me to a husband/boyfriend who would do everything I would be relaxing and going to spas haha. So yeah I would definitley go!! However I'd be dealing with kids who didn't have any rules! It's always great to have new experiences though and how many time do you get to see the other side of the track?
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
You know that's exactly the whole point. Like you I'd probably have a family or guy that does everything and the wife is spoiled. Likewise the children might be unrulely or have way to much freedom, the parents not knowing where they are or what they are doing.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I don't think I would be able to do that. I love my family and would miss them too much if I had to leave for 2 weeks. I don't think I would be able to stay with another family either. It would just be weird.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I agree it would be really weird and hard to. I would miss my family terribly. Just knowing when I'd be going home and that I can would help though.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I wouldn't be on any kind of show like this. Even if it is to teach a lesson and show people other ways to do things, and see others point of view, I think it would cause too much stress and is unnatural to live at someone else's house for a week or two in such a setting. I don't agree with these types of shows.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I have seen both sides of the coin, many have a good experience. It was a nice thing for them to do. Then you have the ones that get upset over the way the other home does things. I don't think we would do it as my husband is gone a lot and I want to see him when he is home...not letting a new person see him when I could have.
@saffrondallas (290)
• South Africa
18 Mar 09
Yes, I would do it but I don't think my husband would agree. It is only 2 weeks and you may come to appreciate your family once you see another person's.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
That's the one constant everyone that changed when it was all over everyone had more understanding, respect, and love for their own family. From what I gather they don't stay 2 whole weeks. The weeks are 3 to 4 days each so it's actually least than 2 weeks. I'm just going bay what I've heard them say on the shows.
Welcome to the lot.
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
nope. i dont think i have the guts to swap myself. i mean its not only for physical purposes. what if the husband i am sent to ask for favors that his usual wife do...oh no, i dont think i can do that! and i have much respect for those who have done that, i mean i cant stand being away from my family for even a day, and two weeks is so long.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Oh now that is one of the rules, nothing happens in a spouse way between the parents. They sleep in different beds. It's just to see how other families live and help them if you can. That's me. I don't know that I could do it unless I could try to help the other family to change their things that they do slightly to help things be better in the home.
@nery00 (121)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I would never do this. I dont think I could trust my children to some stranger even if my husband is there (and he takes very good care of them). I just like to know what they are doing. I dont really know were they would send me, where ever it would be I probably end up in tears by some disrespectful kid or dad just like the people they show on tv. I think my live at home is private and I would like to keep it that way. :)
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I'm the same way, I'd cry if mistreated. I get upset easily by people. I'm very easy going and it takes a lot to get me mad. But I think if I was sent to some like the bad ones I've seen I just might be one of those that go to a hotel to stay.
@xianshuixyz (91)
• China
19 Mar 09
I have not seen the program like it yet, the swapping seems interesting and very challenging. But i would never do that if it comes for me in the real situation, i just enjoys the situation in my family now.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
19 Mar 09
It's really good that you are happy the way things are. If the rest of your family is then you are one lucky and blessed person.
Welcome to the lot.
