Still not pregnant...anyone in my boat?

So sorry to hear that. I can sense your eagerness that you even pointed out those that don't deserve to have babies do get but you as a willing mommy is not given the chance. Well what I can suggest to you is to have you and your partner checked up by your OB gyne. there might be some problem with your reproductive system that may be resolve as early as now.

Hi! I feel you, I tried to get pregnant for years and FINALLY had my daughter when I was 29! I was ready to have her when I was EIGHTEEN!! I have two step kids, so I have 3 kids, but only one pregnancy. I used to be bitter about it too, because it has never made sense that people who don't even WANT kids seem to get knocked up so easily, and it seems to take forever, not to mention stress and worry, sometimes medical problems, sometimes a LOT of money, and relationship problems for someone who might really want a baby to have one. Obviously I don't run the world. If I did, only people who WANTED kids would manage to have them at all. There didn't turn out to be anything wrong with me, and my pregnancy was good when it finally happened, so maybe you will soon. I guess someone determined I should not get pregnant with my ex husband since he never wanted kids lol. My current husband and I found out we were expecting right away... after we got home from a vacation. I remember being both depressed and irritated, I think at one point I had SIX coworkers who were pregnant! Two of them were sisters and one of them was pregnant with TWINS! I couldn't get away from it anywhere and my family was constantly asking me, which made me bawl my eyes out when I was alone because they knew how much and for how long I had wanted kids. When it finally happens it's such a relief, I swear I felt like a mutant woman for years.

i am in a similar boat like you as well... i had been married for more than three years now and i am not pregnant as well... i can't say that i am really trying... may be i am not... but i will try harder this year as i and my hubby already want to have a baby by now... good luck to you... keep on trying and please don't give up... take care and have a nice day...

Hi justsheri82! I have been in your boat. I was there for almost 6 years in fact. I got married in my early thirties and presumed I would fall pregnant as soon as we were ready to try. Well try we did and so did the heartache and disappointments. After about a year we were both checked out medically and were told there were no reasons why we could not get pregnant. Because of my age we decided to try fertility treatment and began a gruelling cycle of IVF and artificial insemination along with exploratory surgeries and still we had no baby! I am telling you my sad tale not to make you feel worse but because of a piece of advice that I didn't take for years and that is to relax and not force the baby issue. I was told to take a holiday and forget about getting pregnant for a while but you see you tell yourself to forget about but you won't until you are ready, we got to that point after 6 years, we gave up on the idea of having children, moved house, adopted a few pets and guess what? Within one month we fell pregnant, naturally! Our daughter is seven now and she's perfect! Once you have been both checked for medical problems best thing is not to let it consume you; I know it's unfair that there are people out there having unwanted babies at the drop of a hat, but stress can be the biggest cause of infertility because in retrospect I can see how it hindered our chances. Good luck to you!

It took six years before I could get pregnant. It was doubly hard because I lost a baby early in our marriage and then nothing. We worked with our church youth group and I put my heart into serving others. That time was invaluable to me in learning how to deal with teens. I am glad that it took this long because I had time to prepare. As it was, I was still reading books on pregnancy and delivery when I was in labor. I suddenly realized that I had read very little about what to do with the baby after it was born. I concentrated on my husband, my health, and giving to others. It was the exact right timing but it was hard to wait for.

If you have not seen a doctor about your case, I suggest you start looking for one. I have been trying to conceive and I know exactly how it frustrates you when you see the red stains in your undies. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and that is the reason why it is hard for me to conceive. Positivity is the key as they always say. Make the trying-to-conceive stage happy by not focusing on the outcome. Think of it as a way of bonding with your husband/partner. Oh, and don't forget to pray. It will work, for sure!

I am sorry to hear that but don't lose hope. My sister was in the same boat as you. For 5 years they didn't have any children. They did try everything they could to have one even had to try miracles. There's this place in the Philippines where you dance to ask for baby. They tried that. They also tried "Hilot" sort of a person mostly an old woman or an old man who massages the womans womb. They also tried different obstetricians, they took different medicine even had themselves checked out if they can really have babies..after 5 years of waiting she bore a pretty little girl...then followed another girl a year after the first one was born.. then after another year or 2 they got a little boy. It just takes patience..Try going to an Obstetrician and ask them how you could bear a child they will prescribe you medicines for you and your husband or ways to do it. Just keep on praying and keep your hopes up. Maybe soon enough you will get one. Never give up. Take care.

I am so sorry to hear that you have been trying to get pregnant for 3 years. I know a lady that married at age 20 and tried for the next 8 years to have a baby. Then she gave up and when she least expected it she got pregnant. She was amazed to have identical twin boys. I know another lady that tried for 10 years. She had medical treatment and gave birth to triplet boys. Another lady that I know tried to get pregnant for 5 years but it proved impossible so she adopted three children of ages 9, 6 and 4 years old. So all these ladies became parents. I wish you lots of luck and have heard that some ladies are too stressed to get pregnant so a vacation might work for you.

I was the same way, we tried and tried. Then we adopted our oldest son. Right after we adopted him I found out that I had a thyroid problem, which can affect your conceiving. About 6 months after getting put on the thyroid medicine I got pregnant. I miscarried the first one. Then within 2 months I got pregnant again. Delivered a 8lb healthy boy. You might want to check with your doctor about your thyroid, simple blood test. It may not be your solution, but it would not hurt to check it out.

Hi justsheri...I don't have a nice answer for you about that. It's terrible and definitely unfair that some women don't have any problems and others have major problems conceiving. I had a friend who was having trouble conceiving and the minute she began adoption proceedings, found out she was pregnant. Thankfully she had both the adopted child and the natural child. It's just funny how things turn out sometimes. I don't have any wonderful advice for you except to see a doctor and discuss different things you can do to increase your chances. I do sincerely empathize with you and wish you the best.

Hello Justsheri, I can relate to what you have said. And for me i am having a difficult time to get pregnant too. It has been almost two years since i got married and i am still hoping to have a baby someday, i don't know when but i still am hoping for it to happen. And just like you, i stopped thinking about it, i diverted my attention to different things like joining sites to earn money like here on Mylot and at least it helps about not stressing too much. I haven't seen a doctor nor consulted to one yet. My hubby is hard headed stubborn guy who is so not into seeing any doctor. I guess if by next month, i will really force myself to go see a good doctor and if ever drag my hubby along with me so that he can be checked too. I guess, it never worked on us by just simply waiting, so i can't wait anymore but to see a doctor to advice me what to do best. I hope you will consider going to a doctor too. Happy Mylotting!

HI lottre come on ,its just three years ,dont worry ,iam sure that you will have kids ,my sister had a daughter after 5 years of her marriage,dont worry sweety ,be happy ,and i wanna tell you one thing the more you will be tension free the sooner yo will concieve,and there are some mor etips which i can t give you on my lot send me a privete message ,trust me i will give you a trusted option. alll the best

Maybe you should see a doctor if you haven't already. I mean a special doctor concerned with fertility. Maybe it isn't you. Maybe it is your husband/partner. I don't know what is worth, not being able to have them or having them so premature that they die... that was my problem. I have 2 babies in graves because they were too premature. One lived for 12 hours, the other lived for 3 months and 2 days and never got out of the Nic-U. Both boys would be adults now if they had lived.

Girlfriend, I know exactly what you are talking about! I am fortunate enough to have a young daughter now, but my husband and I have been trying to give her a sibling since last June. It's been very frustrating. It is especially hard when everyone else seems to get pregnant every time they lay down. I am the ONLY woman of child-bearing age in my husband's family to not be pregnant. Also, we are the only ones who can carry on the family name. So no pressure! Also, I am a high school english teacher, and I have had a record number of students get pregnant since I have started trying again. It is all so hard to take some days! Please know there are others out there just like you. My best friend tried and tried for three years. She and her husband resigned themselves to the fact that they wouldn't have kids. A month later, she became pregnant. There was no known cause for her infertility, and her husband's sperm count was above adequate. Freak of nature, I guess. Try to stay positive!

I've been there and am actually there again now as my husband wants us to have another baby. Before I ever became pregnant with my first child I used to suspect that I couldn't get pregnant due to a couple of circumstances that happened in my life when I was younger. I figured if it happened, it happened (getting pregnant, that is). Anyway, it took me over 4 years to get pregnant with my first child and over 2 years with my second child. I did become pregnant again 5 years later, but unfortunately I lost the baby early on in the pregnancy. 3 and a half years later my husband and I are still trying, but with no luck. I never really used any kind of birth control and when I did I only used it in the very beginning of my relationship with my husband. Oh yeah and we conceived the old fashioned way. It may have taken us longer than some to conceive, but in the end it did, for us. Hopefully it will happen for you too. But if you are wondering why it is taking so long you might want to consult your doctor about it, if you haven't already. Good luck!

Hi, justsheri, I deeply understand your feelings. However, take it easy, everything will gonna be alright, and it is better for you to see some experts, and getting right advice from them! Good Luck!

Consult an OB. He/She can give you a better advice when it comes to your problem. Also ask your husband to seek advice too maybe he's the one who has a problem between the two of you. Just keep on trying. Good Luck!

justsheri,don't worry about that so much.being pregnant is a wizardly thing ,it's by accident. in the second year of my marriaga ,i was pregnant unexpectedly.but when i wanted to be pregnant two years later, i waited for nearly two years,so don't take on so,it's unnecessary for you to worry about . happy every day.

do not worry i think one day you will get a baby.my sister got pregnant until she was 36,she saw the chinese doctor,and eat some chinese medicine.now her boy was 3years.healthy..

Have you seen your doctor and got all check ups. I tell you one true story which I read from internet. One couple was trying to conceive and put one chart in their room having planning of all dates and probability, but all went in vain. One day they removed it and thrown it out of window, with in six month she got pregnant.