should you still date your husband

you can watch (rent/buy) movies at home. give him a massage, foot spa, manicure or even pedicure. take a shower together. cook an unusual dinner. add flowers and candles for presentation. go to parks. bring food. take a walk together. just hold his hands. =) bring a mattress outside the house, watch the stars or moon at night.

Yes, you should still date your husband. It is very important to have a "date night". Even if that means just watching a movie on cable or renting one and popping some popcorn after the kids have gone to bed, etc. You can be creative. The important thing is to make time for you and him to be alone and just think about you and him, enjoying each other's company. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!

One night a week is date night. On that night you stay in and have dinner together and you can't discuss work, school or housework, Do you like indoor pinics? i mean spread out a blanket on the floor and eat a meal. You have to eat anyway , why not spice things up a bit.

Hello. I hear where you are coming from. There was a time where me and my husband barely got to even see eachother let alone go out together. But with time and patience things will change. You will not be a student forever. That will give you some more time. I know that school alone takes up alot of time with the classes and then the homework. But someday you will be done with all of that. Me and my husband used to work different shifts so we were never even home at the same time. So we did what we had to to both work the same (or close to the same hours) so we had evenings together. My husband again works many hours. He has recently started his own business and this keeps him very busy. And I work 4 nights a week so I do not get to spend time with him on the days that I work pretty much at all. But we make a point to at least sit and watch a movie together once or twice a week. We very rarely ever go out and if we do it is just to catch a quick lunch but we just charrish the times that we do get to spend together. And our kids are getting older now and that helps alot too. Good luck and things will get better.

awww, Lorraine I know what you mean about getting tired on a parttime while studying and doing housework. I'm not married yet but I think it is still good for a married couple to date now and then. I had seen it from my parents and their marriage remained strong up until my father passed away 5 years ago. hmmm... I guess you can try having a picnic at the park and enjoy spring. I don't know how much movie tickets cost in UK but a good movie will be a good way of unwinding and at the same time spending more time with your hubby ^_^... hmmm. But if you both like to stay home, maybe you can both try cooking something for dinner together (this would develop closeness and sometimes it is fun to do things together) and have a romantic candlelight dinner...

I do have the same dilemma as you are. Sometimes I feel that I don't have enough time for Hubby because I also work. Sadly, we don't have the same worktime, I work nightshifts and he has a day job. What I did to bridge the gap is to make sure weekends are special. I make sure I prepare their food and that we have our bonding time. I have him be engaged in the grocery shopping which we normally do every Saturday. It does not just make him realize I want more time with him but it also makes him realize how we spend the money.

My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years and I still like to have date nights with him. I enjoy time that we can have away from the kids and just the day to day activities that we do. Yes, I would say that you should still date your husband and it doesn't have to be something that costs a lot of money.

me and me SO still have a date night everyonce in a while .. But it's actually a day LOL!! In order to keep costs low we go and see a movie in the afternoon and then we go out for something to eat and since we dont do it often we save up money for it.

YES! This is very important, oddly enough ESPECIALLY when you're both extremely busy. Usually I am giving this advice to friends who have young kids. A relationship is constantly changing, growing, etc, it's not like you get married and it's 'happily ever after'. If you don't get time to reconnect and enjoy each other, the stresses of everything you are doing - school, work, saving for a home etc - just build up. This is the person you love, enjoy each other! You don't have to go OUT, you could stay in. Plan special things, cook a special meal or order something in, watch movies or play a game. Take a bath or shower together... or you could go walk at a park or a lake if you have anything like that near you. Check for free community events too.

We are in the same position for the most part, but for different reasons. My husband works 50 hours a week, and I stay home with 5 kids. Not only do we not have time for each other, we also don't have much money. I'd love to hire a sitter and spend a night out on the town with him, but we can't afford that. What we do is rent movies. We joined Blockbuster.com or you can join Netflix, or just go to the video store. Get some movies you're both interested in seeing, and a couple nights a week you can make some popcorn and snuggle on the sofa watching movies. That makes for a great date night, and you can do it anytime you have the time to do it, even if it's 5am.

try to talk about it. find some time even for one day only, coz if your going to continue your life like that, it will soon ruin your relationship. day off time my dear!

I still date my husband. Granted we have this beautiful little girl who is with us but I think she makes everything complete. We usually put her down for a nap in the afternoon and her bedtime is 8 at night. We will whatch our shows or movies. We always eat as a family. We think it is important to have that time for our family. But we still enjoy spending time together with our child. We enjoy our life. I think that is what is important in a marriage. I suggest make a dinner or have some TV time. Sometimes a simple walk together is nice enough to reconnect. Play a game. Do you have board games? Play cards! It doesn't have to be expensive as long as you are together. That is all that matters.

what about taking one night a week & going to the movies or just going to a simple dinner? You could even just take a nice long walk & talk. I try to make sure me & my husband do something together once a week because he works all the time. When i had my daughter, my dr told me to take one night to ourselves to make our marriage work.

OMG I totally know how you feel. My husband and I just recently got married and we have a 5-month-old daughter. We are on a very tight budget and time restraints as well. He is currently a cash manager at Wal-Mart working varied shifts, and I work full-time in a credit union, plus I am an independent AVON Rep, plus I have my own resume-writing business, plus I take care of our daughter most of the time...not to say that he doesn't do his fair share and spend time with her as well...its just that I like to make sure things are done a certain way. In the mix of everything, sometimes we forget to take time out for one-on-one time. But I will tell you one of the greatest "free" things you can do with your spouse is take walks. There really aren't any incoming distractions, fresh air and exercise are good for you anyways, and it will give you a chance to reconnect, even if you only do it once a week. Trust me if you're even thinking about having children together some day, you ought to master this skill now, otherwise your marriage will be doomed to fail...not to sound mean, but I have seen couples who's marriages fall apart because both feel neglected and are either afraid to tell one another, or just ignore it thinking it will get better. It doesn't. Keep smiling and Good luck!!!

I would still date my husband, but I cannot. He cannot get out much unless we get a ride. But I loved going on those trips even if it was just to Saskatoon mostly, and those few trips we made to Vancouver, Prince Edward Island, Victoria, the States, and I would have enjoyed the cruise more if my feet had not hurt so badly. We had a hard time when we were first married, and I could not work as we were trying to adopt and I had to be home most of the time for the call. I think that it is going to be hard at first. Maybe you can rent a movie. That is what we did, when we did not have much.

i Lorraine, Yes I still would and still do date my husband. We do not have that much money but we always make sure we have at least 2 "date nights" a month. We may just go out for a cup of coffee at a local dinner and maybe even get a piece of cake or pie to split. Now that the weather s getting warmer, we may even go for a ride to the mountains or some town with a park and have a picnic. We will bring a radio and a deck of cards or other game and just enjoy being outside with each other. It does not have to be expensive to spend quality time with one another as long as you are together. This weekend we are going to a big farmer's market to buy some fresh fruits, veggies and some meats, we will have a blast together looking at other things there too and maybe stopping at one of the stands for a cheap bite to eat, We would be spending this money at a grocery store anyhow so it is not like we are spending extra monies.You can make it more fun doing some of these things together and not costing too much. Always save time to go out on a cheap date with our loved one! It is very important for both of you.

I love to date my husband!! We date more now than before we got married!! lol We have three kids, two dogs, two jobs and I go to school fulltime but we always make sure we have a time for just us. Whether we go to breakfast at the diner for less than $20 or to a dinner theater at the local banquet hall, its just us. We dont do it that often as the kids do need us and want us to be around. We will have more time to date when they go off on their own. But for now, we always take time for each other. We have a pool table and play a few games of pool with adult bets. We go to the park and just sit. That costs nothing and is great for connecting. We go to the library and see what books we can find that are funny, scary, boring sounding, etc. We work on the truck and car together even if it's just him working on it and I am handing him the tools. Make the time for each other or someone else will.

Yes but I have a hard time getting my husband to go out. He likes sitting home and it drives me nuts. I have to plan everything, trips, dinner dates, etc. He would be happy if all we did was watch TV and have people over to eat his cooking. UGH.

dont think life very serious. i mean live life according the will of GOd , not ur will or our will. its very important to give more enough time for ur husband, and kids, in short to ur family. dont wait the time that its too late to save, bonding together is very important, communication is very important either. how bz u are or him, please give time for each other, like before going to bed, u will talk, share a thing of what did u do the whole day, find ways to create a conversation, breakfast together, while eating u will talk, so its okay . go to church together, u have to do that,

I almost never go out with my husband. my husband can not leave the job. actually my husband could be off, because the business itself. but he does not want to discard the time out of the house. because with out of the house, it means lost revenue. to see families who are sick, or have other family events my husband does not want to spend the time. so to be out of the house with my husband is a matter that is not possible.