My sister got mad at me because I was telling her something for her own good.

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About two weeks ago, my sister came over. And she asked me if she could use my phone. I was in the middle of eating dinner and I told her to come back at six o'clock in the evening. And she said that she just wanted to make a phone call and I told her that if it is an 1-800 number, that she could use the payphone to make her phone call. She then said to me, "Don't worry about using my car so that you can try for your driver's license!" And she left. She came back later on that night or the next day. She came back again because she wanted to make a phone call to a guy friend. She said that her car had been cutting off on her. So, I let her use the phone. And after she got off the phone, I was telling her that she might want to reconsider renting the double-wide trailer for $475.00 a month. Her security deposit was supposed to be the same price as well. She works every day. And she gets paid every week. It looks like she can afford it, but along the way she will be struggling. She only brings about $285.00 as an average on her paycheck. I told her that since it is only going to be her and her daughter living there, that she should get a two bedroom so that it will be cheaper for her. I told her the more bedrooms that she has the more that her rent is going to be a month. But, she got mad and said that she does not care. Let me tell you why I am so concerned about what decision that she makes. I am concerned because at that time, my sister had no place to live. She was sleeping in her car. She would let down the back seat so that it could expand to a flat surface. She would sleep in her car in Walmart's parking lot. On days that it was cold and not so cold. She would come to my room to take a shower after she got off from work. I told her to ask her daughter's grandmother if she could stay with her. She did not want to do that. She said she does not want to be around the grandmother's boyfriend. And she is funny about her baby daddy showing up while she was there. I told her to go there, because at least she will have a proper place to sleep and she will be able to eat properly. And she will be able to wash up after coming from work. I wished that I could help her. But, I am staying at a motel, where my husband pays daily. The manager would not tolerate us letting her stay in the room with us. My sister asked to sleep on the floor. I told her that it would not work. My husband stays late up in the nights and he keeps the light on. My sister would not be able to sleep like she would want to. She says that she can do it. I have told her of many places that could help her. I have given her advice after advice because I love her. I don't want to see her back into the same situation again. She got mad at me, and kept asking me, why do I care so much with whatever decision that she makes. I am her only sister, that is why I care. She tells me that, we are supposed to stick together. And I thought about what she said. If I am going to stick by her, that means that I will care and love her enough to tell her the truth and to guide her in the right direction. She just could not take my honesty. My sister knows that she can't afford staying in that trailer. She does not even have the money to turn her lights on. Her light deposit will be over $600.00 because of the light company that services that area where she will be living at. I tried to tell her to look for something else that is cheaper in rent and an area where she does not have the same light company but a different one that will not cost her and arm and a leg. But still won't listen. She is desperate to move because she has no where else that she can just go to. She does not communicate with any of our family members. She was living with my grandmother in February, but my uncle slapped her in the face, so she and her child no longer lives there. She was staying with this guy in March, but he kicked her out and she had no where to go after that. Then she comes to me. And she offers to pay half on the room. She wanted me to sneak her into my motel's room and hope that no one would notice her. But, like I told her this motel has security cameras all around, and she could not slide on this. I told her that we could end up getting into trouble, and risk the possibility of being kicked out ourselves. She says that she does not want to stay with anyone else. She said that she will sleep in her car until she move into her double-wide trailer. She says that she does not even care if she does not have any lights on or not. She will still stay there. Her trailer is back up in the woods, I think that it would be best if she has lights connected for her safety. When my sister gets mad, she will cut everyone loose out of her life. And that is what she has done to me. Just because I was trying to tell her something for her own good.