Would you try to convince your sister not to marry a convicted rapist?

hi Nv_jenn Thanks for ur response, at first I thought that I might have been wrong for trying to bute in being that you can't tell someone who to love and who not to love. But if we can't listen to our family members and pay respect to what they have to say then the individual is probably pretty hopeless to begin with....... I'll keep trying to fight it though b/c I really don't want no rapist in my fam...Thanks again for ur advice....

I'm with you on this one Jen. Although I believe in forgiveness but a rapist or paedophiles should seriously be shot or stoned or hanged or whatever as these people are no fit to be in our society. If my sister was in love with such a guy then ofcourse I would do everything to try and convince her not to be with him.. if she remained stubborn and still went ahead with him then there's not much I can do but well be on the emergency when anything happens...

I hope you didn't set upset with me for keeping opinions to myself. It's just that the way I feel about some things (this one included) gets people worked up and I don't want to upset anyone.

what would you do? Okay well thanks for the non-comment...... it's perfectly understandable. God bless you.

Well I would try my best to inform her what might be the consequences of her decision if she pushes through with her decision. But I will never stop her or prevent her from what she thinks would make her happy.

What would you do? thank you very much my friend, that was very good information that you've shared...I will do just that........ Love and peace........E.

You missed my point. A person can be convicted of a crime and be innocent (rape cases are notoriously difficult to prove, but because of this, some juries are quick to judge guilty). A person can be convicted of a crime and in actual fact have done nothing to harm anyone (statutory rape is not always non-consensual). Etc, etc, etc. Again, how do you know about his conviction? Did you send a PI after him or does he just come clean with everyone he meets? You're right that just because he has treated her well so far is no guarantee that he will continue to do so if he has no respect for women. However, all the facts should be considered before you judge.

Thanks for ur comment. Convicted of rape means the person goes to jail, they do time for the crime. He has his side of the story to tell I"m sure but it doesn't matter b/c the crime has already been done. So therefore the record will follow him wherever he goes. The point that I'm trying to make is this, what kind of a future could their be with somebody that have this kind of stain on his records? I wanted to call it a blemish but it's worst than a blemish....Sister seems to think that he's an okay fellow b/c he's never mistreated her. Call me old-fashioned or whatever but I just believe that it's only a matter of time. I know that everyone must has to live their own lives but for Pete's sake. Try to live it with some dignity..........

Hi Carann, Yes it was just one girl that he raped. He told my sister that it was consensual...And yes while we can forgive, we still don't have to marry the s.o.b., I will try to talk her out of this nonsense.......thanks for ur input...

Hello Carann, I have no way of knowing how old he was when he committed the crime. Thing is we are all adults now and I don't live near my sister so it's hard to get accurate information from her. Anyways I already told her that i wish her all the best but I wish that she would reconsider........This way at least she knows where I stand on the issue. Will I attend her wedding to this character, probably not, being that I'm not for the idea of it. Thanks for sharing and for the well wishes, she will definitely be needing them........ Oh I would forgive him but i don't have to accept him with open arms.............. have a nice day.

What would you do? Hello Envy, thanks for ur response. I think that what most people do not understand about marriage is that when you marry someone, ur actually marrying their family. I'm very protective of my family b/c we mostly had girls born in our family. For this reason I think men have tried to take advantage of my sister and she is just too blind to see it. If we had lots of strong men in the family they would have ran the rapist away a long time ago. As it stands my mom would never be supportive of this idea. Anyhow sister says that she's gotta live her own life. So I wound up saying, well do ur own thing little sis..... I think the use of reverse psychology on her will cause her to let him go. Sure hope so anyway. Personally I don't think that she would even bother to show up to a family reunion with him at her side. She already knows that nobody would feel comfortable with him being around. I think that my parents are trying to get her some help..........thanks for the suggestion and ur help....... be blessed, E.

Thanks for ur comment. He did it to a 16 year old girl, so far she is the only one that we know of... I will try to talk my sister out of it. Not to be pushy but I will try to use some psychology on her and let her come to her own decision...... My hubby is a psychology major so he will know how to best advise me on it. Thanks for ur input too though. Happy Mylotting.