My husband is driving me crazy.

hold on...your relationship as a couple is worth saving for specially if you have kids who depends on both of you not only in financial matters but emotional as well...when we get married its getting out of ourselves and learning to adapt and sway with inherent swings of married life...all marriages pass through that stage but im sure later on you will say " im glad i stayed"

Have you tried talking to him about it? I have only been married for 3 years, and I grew up in a family that never really had in depth discussions about anything. So when something is bothering me, I tend to bottle it up and not say anything. Then he gets mad when I give him the cold shoulder about something, simply because I don't know how to have a conversation about it. I have found that if I just go to him and tell him how I am feeling about things, he listens and sometimes things get better. Sometimes they don't. Marriage definitely has its ups and downs. Money issues are the #1 cause of divorce. Maybe you shouldn't have married until you were in a better financial position to do so. Of course, that's neither here nor there, because you are already married. :) I would definitely try working it out any way possible before just walking out of the marriage. Marriage counseling may be another avenue for you. Good luck!

i think you really have to sit down and talk with him seriously... give him a strong warning and tell him that you are kicking him out of the house or leaving him if he doesn't want to change his lifestyle... the longer you keep this going on, it will get worst... so you have to do something now and be strong... i'm not suggesting that you straight away get a divorce... but may be a time off so that your hubby can do some reflections on himself when you are not around... take care and have a nice day...

I think you are now in a tight spot. Better be silent for few days. It will make a different impression to him. Sometimes silence speaks a lot. May be it can bring some changes. Also you have to tell him direct;y to work hard.

as we knew,marriage life is always hard to us.husband or wife became complain and didn't respect each other as before.no loved feeling as before.it seems many things have changed a lot.yeah,that is real life.if people could stand complain from spous again and again.what he really wanted?if he didn't want to live in shoesbox,comeone,earn more money and it will change a lot in life.

He is not like true man! everyone has more and more troubles in practice such as salary, boss neglecting. Only for living small apartment,he complains continously. Why ? why not search a new job with high payment? why not seek the other way of earning more money to change the life at this stage ? you'd better talk with him for what's plan that he can solve in wise and calmness.if no effect, you ought to think about whether leaving him or not .

my husband and I made sure we knew how we were going to handle all of that stuff before we even talked about marriage. What is the lowest financial standard you can tolerate alon? Personally, I'd rather live on foodstamps in a shelter, before I'd depend on someone for my finances. I'm on disability, and so is my husband. We do a bit better together financially, but we did OK on our own too. We promised never to put ourselves in a position where we'd be dependent on someone for money ever again.

While I can understand you predicament I think I can see his side of it too. There is a very likely chance that he is every bit as unhappy with your situation as you are and feel helpless to make it better. The one thing that a man wants more than anything when he marries is sweetheart is that he can make her life better. He not only has not been able to do that it has become worse, at least in his eyes. Of course the way the economy is now you are far from alone and more than likely better off than many. So his frustration about this is coming out in his complaining. While it is not easy to live with a negative person I would have to ask why that alone would make you fall out of love with him? He is still the person you married...it's just two years down the road and problems have come as they always do. I suspect there is more to this than you are saying. His negativity just makes it worst. Have you had a long talk with him about this? Have you made him aware that his actions are driving you crazy? If not then you need to do that and soon. Of course it may or may not change anything but at least you are giving him the warning he needs. I know from personal experience that once love is lost it may never return. This seems to be true especially for women. But just because you may have told him of your frustration may not have made it clear to him what that really means. It is often very hard for us to understand that the person we love and trust does not feel the same for us until it is made very clear. Do both of you a favor and talk this out. It may not change a thing but at least you are being fair to him. And you never know it may wake him up to what he has been doing. My best to you both.

no, no, no, no, sweetie!!! you don't leave!! you are suppose to stick around and complain back and throw in some nagging! nag about EVERYTHING! and I mean EVERYTHING!!! make his life a living nightmare until you get your point across! or until you can afford to leave! which ever comes first! I am a 19 year marriage vet! trust me on this one!

well marriage life will not be always breezy and easy, your huby may be in denial or escaping truth! tsk tsk. you should talk it out with him because what you entered is not easy, will not be always easy...but then that is part of it! let him get up and work his behind off for the two of you!

I'm sorry about that, I think you should talk to your husband, and tell him your feelings, you are in the same situation, but this is not your fault, and you just feel not good as him, so you should talk to him, it's not your fault, if he still annoying you, you can leave him for some time, and he will feel alone without you, you can go to your friend's home for several days.

Seriously honey you've only been married for two years and you already giving up?? Exactly when you said I do, did you think you'd be in marital bliss?? ofcourse not!! If you can't handle a tiny storm like yours then do you really think that you can survive in this world if you just throw in the towel when things getting a little tough? Toughen up honey, your husband needs your support and comfort.. You are his helper and as his helper one of your main tasks is to be a good listener and encourage him and not nag back at him.. you will only be making things worse if you do. So you're considering divorce and you don't love him.. did you love him truly before you said I do? If your marriage is based on true love then nothing can break you guys.. but if you just want to run away and meet the next romeo do you not think you will encounter the same problem?? So darling dont be a feeble little girl.. toughen up, take the bull by its horns and be a woman who will stand by her man no matter what... xxxx

Time will decide for you. I believe that if you are totally piss off, you will just wake up one day and you'll realize that everything's fine - its either you have learned to accept your current situation or you have enough courage to move on and have your own life without him. But for now, since you are still chicken to tell him that you want a divorce, it simply means that at the back of your mind you still believe that he is still worth of your time.

i would tell him that the complaining is making you mad. this is wat exactly what id tell him "honey, everyone is in tough times and we are no exception and complaining is not helping. so lets not complaine and put our nose to the grindstone and just try to work harder."