I understand that they have very little money to spare, but...

It seems that many girls or boys will not do housework even if she or he get marriaged. for busy working,for immersing website or games. My nuncle's daughter is the same status. No job,no other income from life, only rely on her parents money. especially, she divorced one year ago, with her little daughter is brought- up by her parents too. Maybe it's not your view,but i found that there have more younger now is like that. What can the poor parents do ?

That sounds like a man who is selfish and not a good provider. If your daughter isn't working,then why is her house such a mess. I work a part time job and home school my kids and help my husband with his business and I also do these jobs online and my house is clean and there are rarely dishes left to be washed and food is always put away.

Have you tried saying something to him or to your daughter? I mean, toilet paper is a pretty important item in every household. I wouldn't think that he would want to be without it either. Are you living with them or just there for a visit? As for the food...I would either pick it up myself or keep quiet about it. Some people just aren't real big on the housecleaning.

If they live with you, I would tell them they need to either start helping out or get out. It sounds harsh but that is what I would tell my children when they got older. I couldnt handle something like that. If things are tough they should make an effort to at least help out around the house whether it be cleaning or buying the household items.

I sympathize with your situation. I, too, have moved in with my daughter and her family. Admittedly she doesn't keep house the way that I would and like your daughter she leaves the evening meal on the stove at night instead of putting it away. She states that no one eats leftovers anyway. Of course me and her husband respond with the statement that we would if the food was put up. If there is something that was fixed that would be good the next day or that had a lot left over I just tell her to come put it up. I also started doing some of the cleaning myself. Not a lot because it is her home and her kids and I am not going to let myself fall into the role of maid but on the other hand I think it's only fair that I contribute since I am living in the home. I also use the opportunity to teach my grand kids how to take care of their things. Do you have any income of your own? If so you may need to make some decisions about what you need to do for your own peace of mind. Maybe you could buy the toilet paper or get a place of your own if the stress of your daughters house cannot be tolerated. Do not let yourself feel that you have no choices.

it sounds like there is a lot going on in that home. is your daughter depressed? it sounds like her husband might have a drinking problem. was she always a bad housekeeper? some people are just slobs, it drives me crazy too but if she is depressed maybe her leaving food out and not caring about being out of tp is a symptom of a bigger problem. maybe you should sit her down and try having an honest discussion with her without being accusing. many people live on less income these days but still manage to keep their homes in order. good luck, it sounds like you need to really think before you have this discussion but you need to do it.

Well, if you are living there, you could maybe help make sure some of these things are provided, and even if you are just over there visiting a lot of the time, it would still be appropriate to help in the Toilet Paper respect as well. (I know if it was me, I would.) As for ther work situation, etc. there is not much you can do to try and change this. Getting a job is HARD to do, and making some extra from Sales can be a BIG issue as well. Plus with the economy and places being so picky unless someone is persistant sometimes places will not hire someone as well. All you can do is be supportive, and offer help where you can. The rest has to be up to them. When they are ready for change, things will happen.

I married and had kids at a very young age and I admit I was not a very good housekeeper. I did a lot of the same things your daughter does with the food an stuff. Only for me at the time it was talking on the phone or watching TV I didn't have a computer back then. Anyway what I would do is if you have someone who can give you a ride into town I would buy some toilet paper and some other things that you like and then just keep them in your room. I would let the kids use the toilet paper they can't help it the way their parents live. Do you have someone else you could stay with maybe someone who lives on a bus line so you could look for work on the bus? Is there a welfare office where you could get some food stamps maybe money for a place to stay? I wish you luck on this I know your in a tough spot.

Perhaps you should tell him that if he doesn't pick up some toilet paper the next time he goes to the store that you will use his favorite shirt instead!.....Okay, I'm kidding, well, half way anyway...I'm not saying that you should actually use his shirt or anything. Of course this would be uncivilized and gross, but perhaps if he thought you would do something like that, he might be enticed to buy some toilet paper?...*shrugs* I don't know, I can see why the situation bothers you. I just don't have any solutions.

Wow, that is a horrible way to live. I agree and toilet paper is not even expensive. Plus, it only takes a moment to put food away. That's not very safe or sanitary. My house isn't spotless or the cleanest in the world, that's for sure, but I do basic things such as putting leftovers away, wiping the counter after preparing food, providing toilet paper and keeping the rooms at least somewhat tidy as well as cleaning the bathroom every few weeks. ... Sorry your daughter is living in such conditions. Have you had a heart-to-heart talk with her by chance?

It is so hard staying with other people I Understand. Me and My b/f Had his friend and his friends g/f staying with us now I did not mind her so much we grew pretty close. But man my b/f friend is just useless he works and all but would never offer to give us any money we would have to ask him. He is very selfish. And only thought of his self. We ran into the TP problem as well and I just told him that he could go buy some or I would take a shet in his shoe and use his sock to wipe with he got the hint. I wish you the best of luck hun.

I cant say anything but I think theres a problem in the house.Why cant he buy a toilet paper?I mean,even less fortunate can afford that. Have you tried talking to your daughter?

I do not understand kids now a day. They don't seem to mind that their house is a mess. My daughter is the same way. She seems to spend all day on the internet and lets the dishes in her kitchen pile high with dirty dishes. I can not go to bed at night with a dirty kitchen. All of my dishes are in the dishwasher and the kitchen is clean before I will go to bed at night.

Hello, the best thing you can do is to ask the Lord for wisdom first before you have to have a heart to heart talk with your daughter first then to your son in law using a soft and encouraging voice and explain to them that you are concern about what is happening inside their house, what you can only say is just a suggestion if they don't like to do anything it's their problem. if you have a chance to transfer to your other children's house why not try.