Some Of Us Can't See Well And Some Of Us Can't Hear Well....

If those people would even try to sign a little bit with your daughter, she would be so much more fond of them. I work with adult disabled. One of the younger ladies is always thrilled to see me, because I "listen" and I sign a little to her. She makes it very clear that she wants to talk with me when I do some simple sign linger.I like making her happy.

Good for you kprofgames! I wouldn't sugar coat it either because people need to hear the honest truth no matter how it hurts but in a nice way so that they'll absorb the information that's being given to them instead of taking it in a hostile way and throw out the information all together. I feel this way, if a handicapped person does their best to be a part of the group, be it family or friends, then they should help them along and not ignore them. We all have feelings regardless and it does hurt to be ignored or not taking us to be a human being too.

I agree. I suggested that mylot be notified. Here was my letter: Dear mylot, Please find a program that allows a visually impaired person to type in all caps but not show as all caps. This would help the entire community, as we have members from all walks of life and all ages. Thanks so much in advance for your cooperation. I thought it might work and help. We should all take this post to heart and present our own letters to mylot. They DO help when they can, despite their lacking in people.

As a handicapped person myself, I agree that the person needs to let it be known that they are handicapped however, it's easier said than done because, 1. When told about my hearing problem, a lot of them get antsy and then don't bother to get to know me more. 2. People tend to forget. I've had to remind so many people in my life that it gets aggravating and down right degrading to have to constantly remind them. I've told them so they should remember. 3. I hate having to defend myself against idiots who get all bent out of shape because I didn't hear them. Like in one instance, someone got all upset because I didn't do the one thing that was asked of me and she screamed "Well I told you!" I told her "You may have told me but doesn't mean I heard it!" That sounds like I'm looking for sympathy which I AM NOT. A little understanding goes a long long way! 4. I have pondered this question for about 25 years, am I to wear a sash or something over my clothes that says "hearing impaired"? Or what about a button with a short saying but getting the point across, what to put on it? No one knows what to put on it. Besides, if I wear it, it's like I'm trying to get attention and that's so far off the mark! I'm not an attention getter. Never have and never will. That is why I started this discussion, to get the word out there as much as I could. And the last thing to be said, not everybody is computer literate. Some of us barely know how to turn it on. So to tell them to get a program that fits their disability could be like telling a baby to drive a car. No I'm not trying to be a smart @ss at all, I'm just laying down the facts. It is a case of, like with me, I'm trying to hear you so help me hear you! Is that hard? To some people it apparently is and those are the ones who aren't worth while anyways. I think I've said enough and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, I'm just trying to set the record straight. Being a handicapped person is hard on both sides but if we help each other, it wouldn't be so hard.

Because my kids handicap leads to behavior issues I hear lots of snide remarks on how I've taught them nothing, they are rude, so on and so fourth. It doesn't seem to matter that they are basically good kids... as long as the other kids remember manners too... like to stop when asked, to respect that someone else was there first.... silly things like that. I understand everything you said. I really do. Thank you for the reminder.

Yeah, you'd think everybody would know that by now especially the adults but some are so ignorant that they need to be taught and that's what I'm trying to do here. I hope that mylot doesn't take offense with Antiquelady using caps and if they do then I'm going to put together a rally in her support!

I don't know what kind of computer or programs she has and/or if she understands the different kinds of either (yikes!) and/or if she can afford a bigger screen or what ever it is she needs. I just wanted to get the point across to everyone that she's not doing it out of spite but to help herself to see. She's not yelling at anybody however so many are getting offended and are throwing mylot rules at her. Those are the ones that need to realize all of this and is why I'm trying to help a friend out. Her rating went down because of some troll who got angry with her for doing so which isn't right. These types of people need to get their heads out of the sand and start learning how "It could happen to you one day" to have compassion in life which will get them through much quicker and easier than being some old prude.

hey, I just requested her friendship too, so I obviously don't care - heck, if I could use all caps, I would

Why not? If you can't see then why not? I won't bite you!! I promise!! LOL I'll put in a good word for you, you've been such a wonderful friend to me!!

People are tolerant these days because they've never been taught to be. I was and even taught to feel guilty if I did something wrong and is one of many reasons why I don't do it to others. Another is because I've been made fun of because of my lack of hearing and it hurts! No one has a clue to how it really hurts unless they have the same problem. I know the person doing the awful deed is only trying to make themselves look big and all and have some skeletons in their own closet that they're hiding however, I still wouldn't make fun of them if I knew what their skeletons were. I might give an example but not in a way that would say I meant it but to show how it hurts then hope they'd find the compassion inside of them some where.

Oh I know about how long I'd take that crap! I'm serious! What do these morons think of us, really?! I'd have rose my hand, not my arm but my hand and let them know that I can hear perfectly well and you CAN talk directly to me for I do have a brain.... no apologies needed thank you, now where were we? Your aid is just that, your aid. You're not an animal so he/she is not your trainer and they need to know that. Wheelchair means mobility problem of some kind. It doesn't affect the brain, hearing or eyes in most cases. ASK! Deaf/Hearing impaired/legally deaf means, one can not hear at all, hear some or very little. ASK! Blind/legally blind means, one can not see at all, see some shapes, or very little. Again ASK! We don't bite, we welcome the questions for one can not "read" what is wrong with us but ask and we shall tell you. Am I right?

Hi sparks! Was just chatting with T on messenger when your response came through! She's a real character! lol I'm so glad to hear you and Antiquelady have become friends!! Awesome!! She is a sweet lady and now that her issue it out in the open, maybe the flack she's been getting will lighten up. Yeah, I just found out she's a Canadian.... when I found out I got to thinking, hmmmm, she has to be a nice one!! And I was right!! lol Well I'm heading for the sack, my mouth is so sore right now thanks to the damned dentures rubbing a blister in my gums. Going to see the dentist sometime tomorrow to have something done about this! Damn! 7 teeth pulled is enough pain why do I have to deal with the blister too?! I found something else out about the computer but I don't want to mention it to her because it might get her angry and I certainly don't want to do that. Now if you hold the control button down and hold the button down on the mouse, the one in the middle and scroll down, your text gets bigger and if you go up, it'll get smaller. Pretty awesome, huh? Not many people know this and I just found out and tested it and it does work! It's like WOW! Cool! lol Give it a try! And about you and I.... oh the damned lessons we learned but as long as we learn them then hey, it was worth the ride. BECAUSE, look at us now!! :)

OOoops! The other way around!! Up makes it bigger and down make it smaller.

Yep, for sure look at us now. And when you have a mo, pm me with some links where Lady is getting trashed about the caps thing and I'll do what I can to have her back. I like the mouse thing, but on a laptop with a built in mouse that trick doesn't work unless I'm doing something wrong..........? Anyway, take care of your mouth. Rinse with salt water and leave the denture out for the night and you should feel better tomorrow. I found that using polident cream in a thin layer was enough of a cushion to keep from getting blisters when I first got my denture.

I'm doing a copy and paste on here with my own response to another mylotter. It sounds a bit sharp but I don't mean for it to be so please, don't take it that way, ok? As a handicapped person myself, I agree that the person needs to let it be known that they are handicapped however, it's easier said than done because, 1. When told about my hearing problem, a lot of them get antsy and then don't bother to get to know me more. 2. People tend to forget. I've had to remind so many people in my life that it gets aggravating and down right degrading to have to constantly remind them. I've told them so they should remember. 3. I hate having to defend myself against idiots who get all bent out of shape because I didn't hear them. Like in one instance, someone got all upset because I didn't do the one thing that was asked of me and she screamed "Well I told you!" I told her "You may have told me but doesn't mean I heard it!" That sounds like I'm looking for sympathy which I AM NOT. A little understanding goes a long long way! 4. I have pondered this question for about 25 years, am I to wear a sash or something over my clothes that says "hearing impaired"? Or what about a button with a short saying but getting the point across, what to put on it? No one knows what to put on it. Besides, if I wear it, it's like I'm trying to get attention and that's so far off the mark! I'm not an attention getter. Never have and never will. That is why I started this discussion, to get the word out there as much as I could. And the last thing to be said, not everybody is computer literate. Some of us barely know how to turn it on. So to tell them to get a program that fits their disability could be like telling a baby to drive a car. No I'm not trying to be a smart @ss at all, I'm just laying down the facts. It is a case of, like with me, I'm trying to hear you so help me hear you! Is that hard? To some people it apparently is and those are the ones who aren't worth while anyways. I think I've said enough and I hope no one takes it the wrong way, I'm just trying to set the record straight. Being a handicapped person is hard on both sides but if we help each other, it wouldn't be so hard.

I can see where you're coming from. I do understand. I worked with a girl with a hearing impairment once, years ago. It was hard to tell because she was so good at reading lips. I got a severe case of laryngitis one time and ended up losing my voice for almost a week (my son was thrilled!) She knew something was wrong and asked me - I told her I lost my voice. She said she was sorry. I touched her shoulder and said, that's ok - you can't hear, I can't talk, we're even!! She about fell down laughing. The only time I have a problem with a disability, and I know it's MY problem and not theirs, is when someone has difficulty completing a sentence, stumbling over words, hesitating. A part of me wants to finish the sentence for them and I can feel myself getting antsy. I don't mean to - it just happens. If I know for sure they have a disability, I bite my tongue big time. But, I'm not going to be mad at them because they can't say it fast enough. Hell - I've stumbled, hemmed and hawed a time or three myself. It happens to everyone - it just is more prevalent with a disability.

You've made a good point too! Thanks for that!! See? If we all come together and stop thinking of just ourselves, then we can learn from one another without discriminating. The world would be such a wonderful place if we could all get on the same page, don't you think so? lol They say, getting old isn't for sissy's! I'm finding it to be true more and more as I get older and having lupus. I'm getting older body wise before my time!

That is so sad about your dad. People need to understand his problem and not give up so easily because it frustrates him even more and causes depression because us "deaf" folks get so lonesome. Isn't there some sort of programs in your country that might be able to help him? Like here in the USA, we have The Lion's Club which helps people to get glasses, hearing aids and other things that they may need. Check around and see what you may find. Believe it or not, I can hear my cats purr if I have my hearing aids on and very little when I'm holding my cat up to my so called "good" ear. A few weeks ago I got a good laugh from my Chihuahua Peanut. He's going to be 11 in July. We have two mixed breed Chihuahua's too and they're almost 2 years old now and one night I was sitting on the couch watching tv and the two little ones were running back and forth on the couch while Peanut was sitting beside me under the covers and I kept hearing him grumble and growl out of protest but at first I didn't know it was him and I asked my hubby, "Is that Peanut doing the grumbling and growling? And he told me "Yes" and I busted out laughing so hard because I hadn't heard him do that before!! He sounded like some old grump! lol Like the movie grumpy old men! He's so hilarious! Maybe that's why I love him so much! Another thing, before my Gracie siamese cat passed away, I had just gotten my new hearing aids and come to find out, she was talking to me the whole time and I just didn't know it because she didn't open her mouth very wide. It was incredible to hear her talk to me like that! I miss her something awful but at least I got to hear her before she passed away.

Oh, my...isn't that great?! I wish we could talk and i mean as in verbally not through the keyboard. Hahaha! I am only good in written English but when i talk i stammer because i have to think and think again so i have something to say and say it right. But it's different because spoken words are done, you can't take them back. While here it may take me thirty minutes to write and edit before posting, and making sure i've done it all correctly. I'm going outside the topic here but anyway just envision me as someone who loves to chat and giggle and laugh (and with extra hugs!). I wish i too, can take care of pets but i don't have any (long story). Please say hello to your husband from me. And about your suggestion regarding my father, i'll look and ask around. Thanks for telling me that!

And...oh by the way, antiquelady is also my friend and i understand her condition and she knows that.

Darn Anora! You hit the nail right on it's head!! Way to go gal!! And a huge thank you is in order!! However, I gave an explanation on the first two on this page in hopes to explain how "we" handicapped people feel and although it looks a bit sharp, I don't mean for it to be. I'm just trying to get the point across of how "we" feel, nothing more and nothing less. I hope all the information provided is taken the way it was meant to be. Time will tell....

I had no clue you were deaf and I don't know anything about antiquelady either except she is a grandmother and lives in tennessee like me. Very cool to know I can communicate with a deaf person..I don't think I have ever done that before -to my knowledge anyways.

Awesome! Thanks for letting all of us know that you got it!! Hopefully now she won't be antagonized anymore on her using CAPS.

You say "Go active about it" That is what I'm trying to do here and now with this discussion. I don't know who put the title on CAPS as being yelled at when it's on a computer screen and nothing is being said or read out loud. It's just capital letters, nothing more and nothing less however, to each his own thing in their way of thinking BUT knowing it comes from someone who is visually impaired and the person knows it, then they should automatically know right then and there that it's not yelling. A little understanding goes a long long way.

Hey there you three!! lol It depends on how much a person knows about the computer and it's workings whether or not they know how to make the text bigger as well as if they have the funds to get what they need, be it a program or magnifying glass. I don't know Antiquelady's situation other than it's easier for her to read the text if it's in caps and even more so when caps and bold is used. Thanks to all of you for being so kind about all of this!! It goes to show that there are STILL wonderful people in this world!!

They do make screen magnifiers for people with vision troubles to see the computer better, but it's my understanding that it isn't perfect or for everyone, that is can distort the views sometimes. Still, if it can help it may be worth looking into.

Uh-oh...I understand why antiquelady uses the caps and i enjoy her discussions but i, myself do not type in all caps when responding to her! Good for us she still makes the effort to read every word we type!

This is so fantastic! Opening our minds to our world is a wonderful thing and it shows that we CAN do it if we give it a try. I agree, Antiquelady is a very nice lady and should be understood with compassion and not be ridiculed for something she can not help. She can see the words in small letters but it's so much easier for her when it's in caps. Thanks for letting me know that you're in this with her!

Thanks Opal! You're a real GEM of a friend!! I just wish others would feel the same way and know that we're all people too and we have feelings just like anybody else. Like the responses I gave above yours, it sounds a bit snotty but I don't mean for it to be but am merely laying down the facts. I pray that it is understood in a good way because it's the only way I know how to describe it. Helping friends is the way to go! It's my nature and always has been and always will be. I've gotten into a lot of trouble because of this but it doesn't stop me nor will it ever either!

Awwww AngryKittyMSV! That is mighty sweet of you to do and say!! Thank you so much on both of our behalf's for it's so very much appreciated!! This is truly awesome!! It's something that our world needs to learn, compassion and understanding and by your words here, it's a lesson learned by all that it can be done but with an open mind. I'd give you a big ole hug if I could see you in person but this will have to do for now ((((((HUGS))))))

I bet you get the same kind of responses from people you see in person, "At least you have your beauty" Geeze. That's not the point. Beauty is alright, I guess, IF you like attention which I don't. And it doesn't give me good hearing! I'd trade my beauty any day of the week or year for good hearing and be just like everybody else but that's not going to happen so I had to learn to accept my problem now it's THEIR turn!