Preference for homemaker or working wife

Hi Kirti Since I am single it gets easier for me to choose. I am a happy working woman who loves her job time and also home time. But then, I do not have any kind of string to pull me back like kids, in-laws...I can go out uninhibited. Had I been with kids, things could well have been different. My sister who is a research scholar with GRE did choose to be a home maker when she needed to. Her in laws and my parents wanted her to take up the opportunity with big brands but she refused. Her kid was very little then and she thought that was her priority. She is a perfect home maker. She wants to be the best in whatever she does and she is just doing that. It ultimately comes down to individual. While many cannot understand why and how women can stay at home without financial independence, many love it that way. I can understand how you feel because with little kid you always have him at the back of your ind. specially, when he has just come out of a crisis. Be fine dear.

I am a confused mixed product really. By temperament, I am a very soft and docile person, quite unfit for the world. And the image of the Indian mother, forever ready to wipe off the sweat from her child’s forehead with her pallu, forever ready to take care of her husband and in-laws…well, I really like that. Staying at home, taking care of family, doing some sewing and handicrafts, sitting with the kids with their studies, then waiting for husband to come home…this seems like the ideal life to me. But I have grown up seeing my mom to go office daily and I liked that too…the independence of money, the importance of going to office, the dress…all these were etched in my mind too. But I think given a choice, I would have stayed at home, esp. after my son was born. But finances were a problem and since ours was a love marriage, I always knew I had to work…even then sometimes I look at my son and I know that I have not given him the time he needed from me.

I have been a homemaker in the sense that I did not seek employment anywhere. But this still did not stop me from having an independent freelancing career for myself Bamrahkirti. I was extremely successful with my own tuition centre and have taught groups and groups of students . In fact , I used to screen them giving them entrance tests and people have come to me with recommendations. I was also invited a s a chief guest in my own college in honour of my service. I treasure these memories. I would prefer to spend my tiem productively without compromising one bit on my duties as mother and wife.This was why I was able to devote my maximum attention to my son and by God's grace he has done successfully for himself by his outstanding performance in scholastics. I never did have any intentions of taking up a job but this bit of independence was very satisfactory.

Hi there! I have seen a big disadvantage when parents are both working. My sister and her hubby works 5-6 times a week and their son is left to his nanny all the time. It's been two years and the child has grown closer to his nanny more than to his parents. Sometimes proper training of the child is not supervised by the parents making the kids stubborn while growing up. If your child is still young I suggest you stay as a homemaker at least until your kid is going to school. If it can't be helped that you must work to aid in the finances, it's still good cause the future of your child depends on you and your husband. But if I were you, there's no problem if I will work but I'd rather tell my husband to go and find a better job with better income. Ciao!

My wife used to work,, afetr the birth of a son and then daughter,, I asked her to stay home,, take care of them,,she agreed,,

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We have been together for 4 years. I am so thankful that finances were not anything that we ever hid from each other! When we first met, my husband had several thousand dollars worth of credit card debt. He was working his butt off to get rid of it. I was still in school at the time, so during the school year I only made enough money for expenses. We were living together, so he was pitching in for the house expenses as well. During my breaks I would work 80 hours a week, and get as much over time pay as I could! My husband was doing the same thing while he could. We were able to pay off all of his debt before we got married. We currently have 2 car loans and a mortgage - but no other debt. He is going to school now. I have a part time job to pay for tuition, so that we didnt have to get a loan. There is only 1 payment left, so we have almost made it! He will be graduating in July. About that time, my car should be getting paid off. We dont plan on having kids for about 2 years. We are working towards getting ourselves set up financially so that I can stay home when we do. It is a dream of mine. My husband agress that he doesnt want our kids in day care. I look forward to the day that is all possible! It really sucks that you were put into a situation like that. That is totally not fair to you! I hope that you are able to dig yourselves out soon so that you can stay home with your kids again.

My husband prefers me staying at home and taking care of the house, cook nice food for him. And I too prefer staying home that is why I am a housewife but I still earn good money from home online, so no problems. I do parttime data entry from home, besides many online surveys, and money more so I still earn some good money.

The preference is on home maker wife. I would like to be in charge of the house when it comes for financial situations. I always think that it gives a good impact on children if they see their father earning and the mother is taking good care of them at home. I never liked this idea of working couple but I know that it is done due to situation demands.

Personally I prefer my wife to be a homemaker. My mother was working prior to giving birth to me. She quit her job to take care of me. She has not worked since. I appreciate the care she gave to me. I would also like my child to get sufficient love from his/her mother. One of friend did not work when she had children. When her children were in college, she realised that her girls can take care of themselves. So she again started to go to work.

if money would not be an issue, I think I'd rather be a stay at home mom. it's different when you are there at home, caring for your kids and overseeing what they are doing. it's a bit tough for working moms to actually find the time to be with their kids, sometimes they're too tired or too burned out with work. i'm not yet a mom, but when that time comes, I sure hope our finances would allow me to stay home with the kids.

Nowadays, it's not practical if I just stay at home and just take good care of your kids. In the first place you were sent to college to get a good job or have a business of your own afterwards. And now when you get married, and your husband ask you to stay at home and to take care of you kids, but what IF, time will come your husband will leave you do you think you will get financial support?I don't think so..probably in the states they can demand a financial support but what about here in the Philippines? And what if your husband also is not capable and cannot fulfill the obligations even if you sue him, is there anything that you can do? Based on my situation my I didn't receive any single penny from him since my mom and dad separated 18 years ago, its fortunate that my mom knows how to keep going and really work hard for us to get to college that's the good trait of my mom that i really adore.Now, when your married and have kids and your applying for a job, and the employer would ask you..do you have any working experience? then it happened that you got married after graduation and never had a working experience whatsoever do you think they will hire you? Sometimes MEN is so insecure if their wife had a big salary than them so that's why they tend to ask their wife to stay at home. But do you think it's UNFAIR? You were sent to school to use it but you end up wasting your education in taking care of your kids..well YEs, i do consider that being a plain housewife is a noble job but it's not practical for me. I'm sorry if I offended some of you..but that's what I believe in..I don't want to suffer if ever my husband will leave me for someone else and I don't want my kids to suffer.

As a female, I would rather do homemaker than work full time now. But family's finance status doesn't allow me to stay home. In my country, femail working though she marriaged or be a mom,is common phenomena in our life. Because if rely on hubby only to provid whole family,it's so uptight for salariat as we're. Ex rich family. So young girls around me all want to marriage man with full of fortunes.

I am born with a full-time working mother. I know it feels to have a working mother such as the lack of time to spend with her and the unsatisfied feeling of the food I eat because our helper cooks for us and not my mother since she is busy with work. Before, I had a feeling of wanting to become a working mother because according to my own mother, I should really secure my own job and not to depend too much to my future husband. But when I met my special someone right now, he made me appreciate a full-time homemaker. He wanted me to take care of our future children, to cook for them and manage the family. I hope and pray that I will be a full-time homemaker with my beloved partner.

hi! I'm married, I don't have kids yet but I'm three months pregnant right now. I was raised in a home where mom is with us 24/7 and it felt good to have her around while we were growing up. So when I was starting to think about having my own family, I wanted to stay at home and take care of the kids and hubby's needs. I didn't get pregnant right away and it has been more than two years before I finally conceived. When I got married I had a job but I guess it was a good thing I stopped because now I'm pregnant. My OB says I have a case of ovaries that produce small egg cells. I was so scared I'd never be able to bear any children. It was a decision my husband and I had to make and it was a good decision. I would like to be there for my child 24/7 when he/she (i don't know yet) comes out. And perhaps when kids already go to school maybe then I'll think about finding a job again.

Hello my whole life all i ever wanted was to have a family and be there with my kids to be the one to teach them . I dont think there is anything wrong with wanted that , and i am sorry there is pressure (same with my inlaws) i work out of my house as a freelance writer and that is not good enough for them . so to try and make everyone happy i have an array of little jobs i do here and there . one day i would love to finish up my teaching degree , but time and money is not on my side . My hubby always thinks its okay to stay home , and wants that till kids are in school.

For a long time I was convinced that I just wasn't the housewife kind of person and I always worked. But a couple of years back when I had a child, I didn't want to leave home. I quit work and stayed home to raise my kid and I loved it. That was a part of me I didn't know. But then when my child was two, I started to feel bored at home. Since then, I've been working freelance so I can manage my hours. So I enjoy both work and homemaking. And now that my kid is a little older, it's fun to see her go to school, grow and hear her start to reason out on things. I hope one day, you can go back spending more time with your child. I think it brings more joy.

during my early years of marriage i was working already, and when i had my daughter is was still working... during those times, i so wanted to stay at home so i can take care of my child, but my husband dont have work that time and he was the one taking care of our daughter. when he did found a job, we switched, i resigned from my work and stayed at home and became a home maker, that was really a joyful thing to do, watching your child grow, doing all those mommy stuff... lol. but now it is different, if i think of it this way, two of my kids are already in schooling and during school times, they are at school from 7 am till 5 pm... i could go back to work if i can find one and i want to also, even if i still have a 2 year old because of financial crisis. i enjoy being a full time homemaker, but if i really need to work, then i will, to help the family also.

Well, in today's time, i would prefer a working wife because life is too hard. Money is very important and we cannot deny that. A working wife and a working husband brings a lot of money in the household. At start, i believe a couple should strive hard to collect some money at least in their bank account for future use. Imagine the wife bears a baby, a lot of money is needed to rear the child nowadays. Well, it is the woman to decide about if she want to work or stay at home because staying at home also has its advantages. Well, in my family, my mother never worked in her life because dad didn't like her to work as he is here to take care of her and her needs. For me, i would like an understanding wife who would know whats the best thing to do this situation. Another thing i would like if she could work somewhere and then stop to spend some time with her family and then work again to earn. Because the role of a woman is also to take care of the house and its members, god has given her the power, the strength to accomplish these tasks. Both husband and wife working can also have adverse effects on children as children are left uncared. Well, in this case, i believe a woman should stop working as soon as she bears a child as this will give her the chance to shower her affection for her child. As it is said, it is a woman who make a house truly a house.Well, in the end, i need a wife who would do both the roles as working first and then stop to work later to become a homemaker. This would be most ideal for me. Just imagine a child of 2 years is left at home with a babysitter because both parents work, what shall be the reaction of this small baby and am sure he won't get the affection he need to understand and grow well in a good boy.