Checking up on your Ex- on the net...
By jimnemesis
@jimnemesis (21)
Singapore
May 20, 2009 1:00am CST
Have you ever tried to check up on your ex- online? Oftentimes checking up on their MySpace, Facebook or Friendster accounts? Or just Google-ing them up. Usually to see how they're doing... Or sometimes just to see if they're at their worst without you... Or if you're doing better than them in terms of relationships.
Well I was guilty of that long ago... I was too heartbroken when my gf broke up with me that I check up on her Friendster account everyday just to see if she's in a worse condition than I am. But as much as I didn't want to see it, I saw their love bloom. When I finally stopped doing it, I quickly got over her.
Now I'm happily married, to someone else of course... :) And have not tried to dig up anything on my ex-... Not just because I don't really see any point in my doing so but also because I believe it would violate any trust my wife has placed in me.
Anyways... Just wanna ask you guys if you've ever done it? Even before or after you've had a new relationship?
Any thoughts? Comments? Rants?
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14 responses
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
21 May 09
I never had an EX because I never get into relationship.I used to do it with my crushes, most of my crushes have their girlfriends so I just check on their social account, and also check on the gfs too. I am guilty of that LOL.
@usaflove08 (281)
• United States
20 May 09
Hi!
Hahha, weird because I can relate to that. I went back and forth with an ex awhile back. Now it's over for sure because I'm married and he's back into the whole dating scene. When I broke his heart three times, I guess he gave up. It was not intended, it just happened that I kept meeting all this other nice guys. Yes I feel bad but things happen. Back to the discussion hehe, when we would break up I'd always check his myspace and see if he'd met anyone new or hooked up with anyone. Unfortunately, he'd always put his profile on private so I was never successful in finding anything out. He'd confessed to me that he also checked my myspace after breaking up.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
20 May 09
Hi, I dont do that at all cuz if I do then I will bring more hurt to myself. I just ignore and forget about him... I do think about him but I dont check on him. :)
@jimnemesis (21)
• Singapore
20 May 09
Ur right. In my experience, doing so only caused me more pain. I probably did it partly because I thought the more I hurt, the greater the possibility she'll come (which is wrong in my case, thankfully) and partly because I was hoping she would fail (which is really really wrong). Letting go was the best thing I did.ΓΌ
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
21 May 09
What happened to me is in the other way around.I found out that my ex is checking my friendster account, my e-mails as well as my messenger he even deleted some of my email account. I just found out because there are some mails that's been deleted and there are some replies on my mails. The relationship lasted for almost 8 years and he knows everything about my account and my passwords, luckily he didnt know that i have mylot account ( hehehhe, he might scam me, hehehe just kidding!). From then on i changed my passwords and username.Even up to this moment he still trying to check my friendster because he is alwasy present in " who viewed me section".Last night i posted and uploaded my wedding pictures and I just don't know if he will still be interested in a married woman.
@jimnemesis (21)
• Singapore
21 May 09
i have a female friend who was in the same situation as you are. are you her? :)
@xarex777 (467)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Yes sometimes.. I've tried checking on my ex-girlfriend on friendster... And I'm happy that she's doing great and she has a boyfriend right now and I feel little jealous..hehe Maybe we cannot avoid that sometimes we think about our ex's on the net..
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@msBetty (83)
• Philippines
21 May 09
haha! have done it soooo many times, i have to admit, 'been checking until now... The good thing is, were friends, and i am not checking if he's in a worse situation or something, Just wanted to see him happy, even with someone else.
His happiness means also mine. I dont want to see him in a bad situation. I still love him, as my friend, a special person whom i always treasure. =D
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
18 Jun 09
I was just reading an issue of Redbook magazine and saw a poll type thing about finding an ex on facebook and becoming there find. I did a search on mylot and was going to start my own question but came across yours first so I'll answer your discussion rather then start one that would just be similar. I havent become friends with any of my ex's. I really don't like any of them so I don't want to be friends with them. Sometimes I like to find out what they are up to but I do not care to actually chat with them or anything like that. I don't feel the need to catch up with them as I don't think most of them would ever change since we stoped dating. I don't want friends like that. Maybe if I had a nice ex that I broke up with and didn't hold bad feelings towards it would be ok but then again starting up a friendship with an ex that you liked might bring up old feelings and wouldnt be good in your current relationship. I think it would stir up to much temptation.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
20 May 09
hmmm i used to do that iwth my huby lol and it often caused as arguments on why i track him lol and well i was just curious if some ladies where flirting or something..but i got over it and i do not do that anymore. and i never tracked any of my ex...lol
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
21 May 09
before, i used to do that.. but i only did that to check if he really is moving on.. we had a terrible break up, and i feel responsible for making his life more miserable. thats why i checked on him on his friendster.. now i see that he really moved on. and he doesnt bother me no more.. there no reason for my to check his friendster now, hes not even in my friends list anymore..
@xroadsempress (290)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Yeah! Well, congratulations to you that you're over it...and see, you're married already. Why, for me, I have done it a dozen of times before but not to check if he's miserable or anything. It's just to look at what he's doing and how he is now. I could never really impose that he cannot do away without me because he broke up with me and I never felt this miserable.
@inkstainedheart (455)
• United States
25 May 09
Yeah, I'm nosy, and I've checked up on ex-boyfriends and old friends alike on pages like myspace and facebook. I didn't miss the ex-boyfriends or want to date them again(I was usually happier without them), but I was curious if a couple of them had cleaned up their acts.
@harryt123 (327)
• United States
21 May 09
I am actually guilty of doing this today in fact. I had not been on my exes myspace profile for a long time and since me and her are not friends on their anymore or don't even talk or keep in touch I had decided to go see what was up with her and how her life is situating without me. I wanted to see some new pictures of her if she had any and from what I saw she had her profile private so I wasn't able to check her page. I am happily with my gf now and I don't know why out of all days today she went through my mind but now I know that if I ever want to look I'm not able to because of her profile setting.
