Can you find true love online?

United States
June 17, 2009 2:55pm CST
I found my true love online. My family doesn't really approve. they feel as though I should have found him the conventional way face to face. But I say thats not the way God intended it to be. I feel they talk behind my back and I am a little ashamed to tell other people who ask me where I found my husband. Although it shows we are in love and he treats me right I don't want anyone jugding me. I know that internet dating has its negative parts but its not all bad. I feel bad because when people ask we lie and say we met through a mutual friend. does anyone else have that problem and if so do you lie about how you met your internet love.. PS my husband and I are married for 2 years now and it couldn't be any better
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18 responses
• Saint Lucia
17 Jun 09
I am not here to judge but if you are so happy in the marriage why the embarrassment?Friend let me tell you something,people will always talk about you.This is the way of the world.If you happy with your husband baby please let the world know that you met online and its working.Love is everywhere regardless of what we think.When they look at you like you are crazy say,yes i am crazy,crazy inlove with my man.God grants us everything and sometimes we choose to doubt his work.But as long as he treats you good be poud and honest about everything.Wish you a great marriage.
• United States
17 Jun 09
You are so right and you sound like my mom so much wisdom, I guess maybe its something inside of me I need to deal with and stop blaming it on my family. I guess for some reason I just felt why couldn't i be approached why did I have to meet online but like you said God grants us things we choose to doubt because it wasn't reveal in the way we think it should have been...it will take some time but I think eventually I will be able to say we met on Black planet :o) thanks
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• Saint Lucia
18 Jun 09
you are welcome.thanks.It will take time but trust me its romantic the way you met.You should use that to celebrate you anniversary.
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@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Hello AcousticSoul , my b/f and I met in a chat room back in the year 2000 but didn't get to meet until fall of 2001.We moved in together and have lived together for the past 6 years only now he had to move in with his cousin for convience of where his work is closer than where I had to move a few months ago. He does live here part of the week and just last night he said "I want to come home". His transfer should be complete in August but he is hoping they may get him home sooner to start stocking the store he will work in.We drove by the store he will be working and maybe after the electrical up grades are complete he can move sooner. I usually send him with lunches to tide him over for the week at work.All my friends and family know he and I met in a chat room.
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• United States
17 Jun 09
That is wonderful do you think you guys will be getting married sooner or later
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@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Hi, we do plan to get married sooner or later. I told him I want to go to Las Vegas and have an Elvis Wedding. My first wedding no one but a friend of mine and my ex-husband was there and the woman who ran the place we got married at. Our friend was one of our witness,my maid of honor and my ex's best man and he gave me away. My b/f says anytime, we can go and he knows it may happen at anytime. My sister wants to renew her vows with her husband and my mom said maybe she and my dad should renew their vows too. My mother asked if we were serious about going to Las Vegas and I said yes, it is what we both want to do when we feel the time is right.
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
17 Jun 09
I guess you can find on the net as well!!In many cases this is not so different when you are knowing in the many other ways i guess..so why not? As regards you i know that some people can consider that quite strange and so naturally you can say other things when they aske you about ehere did you met and so on..so i think you don't mind much about it seeing that everything is good and ok i think this is not a real problem!!
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• United States
17 Jun 09
My family is so religous and traditional i guess that is why I feel the way I do even though I've made the decision and he's my husband I still feel like when they ask me where did you guys meet I have to say through a friend I just don't want to go through the questioning about the internet
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• Philippines
18 Jun 09
Lucky for you that you found your true love in the net and lucky for you that you met and married to a guy who love you no matter what. And as for meeting in the net, there is nothing wrong with it. There are no negative connotation about love or meeting someone in the net. Its all in your mind. In fact all my friends and their friends and my bestfiends met their love one in the net also and they are successful. I myself are trying my luck here and wishing that someday it will come true. You already hide where you met, so its ok. Just as long as both of you have the same decision, to hide where you met each other. And also as long that your relationship is successful, there is nothing wrong where you started.
@x_Jo_x (1040)
17 Jun 09
Awwww congratulations I dont think there is anything wrong with falling in love over the internet. It is just as good as having first met online, if not more so i think because you get to know their personality first and fall in love with that! The only thing with online dating is you have to be sure the other person is who they say they are! Its so easy to lie over the internet, and people should always be really careful if you dont know this person at all. If you had met him through a friend that would be a little different because you would KNOW he was who he said he was. Im glad that your husband was not one of these people though. And i think yours is a great story to tell. Im glad that you met in a different way and i dont think you should be at all ashamed of that! Dont let peoples judgements affect you. You are happy, and in love. At the end of the day, that is all that matters! Not how or where you met!
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• United States
17 Jun 09
Yes knowing the person is important because my God mother met a man off line and he turned out to be a real big liar, but so far my husband has not shown me a different face, not to say he wont and I pray he don't but I beleive he is a good person and its been two years and nothing has changed. I really need to boost up my confidence regarding how I met him because he tells the story with so much pride but I am in the back ground saying don't say that and hiding my face...
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@Mai101 (25)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
Love works in mysterious ways. Once it finds you (whichever way that might be), there's just no turning back :) To you and your husband -- if it's true love, let no one tell you otherwise! God bless you with dozens more very happy years to come :)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Thank you so much for that inspiration, that was something I needed to hear.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Jun 09
i don't believe in internet love as i think it won't work out for me... but that is just for me... what doesn't work for me doesn't mean that it won't work for somebody else... i had heard many stories about internet love and it works out beautifully... so just ignore what other people say and carry on with your life... if you are happy with your hubby, then why bother what other people might think about how the two of you meet??? it is your life... take care and have a nice day...
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• United States
26 Jun 09
I think it could be possiable be caution how ever because the things are not safe these days and above all make sure you really get to know each other and etc because some people rush and they truely do not know what they are getting into then your stuck so play it safe if it worked out for you thats great I would not be ashamed to let people know how you met I do believe the internet is a good place to met people as long as your safe about it
@jaisundar (215)
18 Jun 09
I too wonder if any one can really find true love online. But if they were sharing all their personal things online, it can help to have a good relationship. They must be true to themselves, otherwise approval can't be got.
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Congrats! I am so proud of your relationship. I love hearing stories about people coming through at it and finding their love ones online. I do believe in true love online. sometimes I feel like people actually could express themselves much better online. But worrying about the consequences, it'll be hard to decide later on where you guys would be moving to later on in life. I believe in internet love and I feel happy for you. I wish something like this could happen to me and hopefully soon.
• Indonesia
18 Jun 09
love will find its way. And the online is the new way to find a true love. If you love each other, why should be any problem? it should have gone very well, isnt it??
@Akila016 (70)
• China
18 Jun 09
Well,actually,I don't belive much about Internet.Because Internet is fictious.I am afraid that I am treated by the person who I talk to is not the man who he said.I prefer to find true love in reality.
• United States
18 Jun 09
Ok so you beleive the internet is full of lies and its easy for a person to pretend to be someone else then themselves. I've found people I have met in person has those same qualities they lie to I guess it depends on the person if they are truthful or not because you could be with someone you met face to face and 10 years down the line you find out they were someone else
@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
18 Jun 09
I would prefer the conventional way face to face, because i have not truth in the web, i met many bad people. But on the web there could be many good people and you have found one of them. Any years ago i met a boy from Rome and i liked him so much, we talked by msn, we saw each other by cam, and he had lunck or dinner in front of the cam to stay with me, and i liked so much to see him eat. We talked for any weeks, then he was to live home and to go on vacation, and he told to me: "We will see after my vacation"..... I haven't seen him anymore... And I couldn't call him, I couldn't see him, because he wasn't on chat anymore, he was always off line. This was a bad experience for my and this is the reason why i don't truth of the relations on line....
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
you may find someone to love on the net, but it wouldnt be what you could call true love..
• United States
18 Jun 09
how come, because we met online our love is not true then what is it?
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
because you'll never get to know the person for what he truly is.. it would always be like "putting the best foot in front"... if you would like to look for your true love, why look on the net.. hmmm.. we'll just know it in a few years' time... :)
@OwenData (37)
• China
18 Jun 09
Congratulations first. There are more and more cases that true love online around me.
@hi2rashid (153)
• India
18 Jun 09
yes we can but 98 pecent of the persons trying to get true love through online failed.
• China
18 Jun 09
Hey!Dear friends,do not care how you come together,as long as it is know that you love,and feeling very happy,very crazy!That's good,not two people together for mutual happier,more happiness to do? I believe you will be happy,because you have heart in love,guarding each other! you will have a happy family!
@Tessalim (33)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 09
Though i have never encounter it myself, but i believe that you can find your true love online. I have seen many people found their love online and they are happily married with kids.