He Won't Let Me Return The Favor....Why?

hi singlemommy, i used to do favour for others and not expect any thing in return. i feel your friend is just like me,who is not seeking any thing in return.i do favors becayse i like and respect my friends.be happy as your friend loves and respect you.

Do something else. Pay it forward. Donate money to an organization in his name and give him the donation card. It is better than paying back. Put it in a thank you card. Why? I do not know but he sounds like a great guy.

Sometimes I think people are just generous. Maybe he is well off, or doesn't have many expenses. He would rather buy you something and not expect anything in return. Plus, a lot of men do not like it if a woman wants to buy them a meal, even if they are just a friend. Maybe you could just get him a small gift as a token of your appreciation. A little piece of memorabilia for his favorite sports team, or a cute calendar to put on his desk. Good luck!

My ex was like that. I don't understand it. But I think that some people don't want to feel beholdened to others. Ya know? They just don't feel comfortable with it.

He sounds nice and generous maybe he likes to buy you lunch seems like a date to me.Good luck.

For me if someone would return the favor I made, I would be quite disappointed, it seems that you are not appreciating it. However in your case he bought you again lunch after paying the breakfast, well he maybe extra nice. You can do him favor some other time, maybe if there's an occasion, say his birthday or any other. Anyway he'll be a good friend to you and he maybe expecting you to be a good friend as well.

He sounds devine lol. Most decent men have their pride and wont even consider the idea of a woman paying for them. Youve got a good catch there ;) Next time just go ahead and buy him lunch without telling him and see what happens. Maybe he classes your lunches together as dates?? ;)

Some guys just don't want a woman to share expenses, it's just how they are. He could also know that things aren't real comfortable in your budget and he's trying to help out a little. Maybe he enjoys your company and paying for meals makes him feel good. Either way, don't fight it because you won't win. Don't try to pay him back. If it's truly a problem for you, tell him that his paying makes you feel as if he thinks you're poverty stricken--or however you feel--or wait till he asks why you don't want to go out with him anymore and tell him. My ex was like this. A number of our friends started making excuses because he'd never let anyone pay the tab and it eventually became insulting. With him it was an ego problem, your friend just might think he's helping.

Hi singlemommy, Leave well alone, if he wants to buy you lunch, then let him, just go with the flow and see what happens, he may just say to you "well its your turn" till then just be friendly and have have fun. Tamara

Hey singlemommy! I guess you have finally found the "perfect gentleman"! I think that you are just truly fortunate! You will just have to find another way to "pay him back"! He seems to not want to let you pay for anything so you will just have to surprise him with something that he won't be able to say no to! Why don't you buy him some donuts for breakfast or something! And just put it on his desk in the morning with a little note! Or just buy the sub and put it on his desk! You are just going to have to do something without asking him first!

Sometimes the male ego gets in the way of allowing women to share the expenses. Watch out this may signal a change in your relationship and unless this is what you wish to happen make it very clear you are just working friends, nothing else and don't accept any more freebees. Just tell him it makes you to uncomfortable and you want to go dutch.

Either he's stuck in the old ways, AND/OR Likes you....maybe you should just go and surprise him? Bake him something? Buy him a coffee? Start small? Guys like that get annoying sometimes unfortunately. My Dad is only NOW allowing Mom to pay for dinner lol.

Well some people like to have good karma which I think is a good thing, but what you could do is say in the morning buy a coffee for him if he likes coffee or even a doughnut. I go through the same thing but with my hubby. We do take out 2 times a month. Once is little ceacers and once is McDonalds. I don't work i stay ome with the children and all so when I make enough money off my surveys and all I will tell him that I got the dinner paid for and he tells me no because it is his job. So what I like to do is be nice to someone else so that I will be giving Karma back to the world. The only thing I could recommend is to get him a coffee or even get him some kind of candy. Or better yet a thank you card for all he has done and throw 5 dollars in it. My friend once said that if a friend does not take your money or anything else for what they have done for you to give it in a card cause then they can't give it back because it is considered a gift then. Good Luck Happy Mylotting

Maybe its his man pride! He wants to spoil you and wont except anything in return.

Maybe it is his mail pride maybe, or he just enjoys paying for it.. I would definitely do a surprise for him if it was me in your shoes. Maybe buy a treat you know he likes and enjoys. If you already have the treat bought he can't pay for half of it..well he can try but that besides the point. I think it is great to still be able to find a man that is like this and go with it. It makes him feel good probably to be able to do it.

because he wants to do it for you, and you are spoiling it for him, let him pick up the tab, he likes it. I think that is wonderful.

Well it could be one of several things or all of them together. 1)He might like you and wants to do this for you. 2) He might think that he has more money than you and it's not a bother for him to pay for lunch 3) He might just be wanting to do something nice as he is a nice person 4) He might be one of the types of guys that feels if a lady offers to buy something for him, then he feels obligated to pay for it himself. I would just welcome his thought fullness and stop by after work and pick him up a nice thank you card for all he has done. Also you could just buy something on the way to work and not say anything. The one about he might think he can afford it more than you is not meant as a put down, it is that you have children and anyone with a family struggles usually from week to week. He may just feel bad if you pay for the food because of this. Then he just may be a really nice man and wants to do this.

Well, I guess he knows you are a single mommy and have to tend to the family all on your own. So, I guess its just his way of being helpful to a fellow co-worker without making her feel bad. Very nice of him. Accept it and enjoy. You can always pick up ice cream and share it with him after lunch. This way you need not tell him you are going to buy something in return, and your conscience will also feel better.

I am sure it is just some guy thing. Since he likes you maybe he thinks that not allowing you to pay for anything shows you that he is interested in you. I dunno.

I have a friend that way. Some guys feel like THEY have to buy and do everything and they don't want/like someone else doing something nice for them. You could just do it anyways whether he wants you to or not.