should it be a problem if a wife makes more money than the husband

I personally do not think there is anything wrong with this, but I am a woman. Most of us don't care who makes more. For men it is a little different. It goes back to the old classification where men were the ones that got the jobs and supported the family. This is when mothers stayed home with the kids though. the workd has changed and most mothers are out there working and making a good living doing it. It sounds like your sisters husband is a little insecure about the situation. It is something they need to discuss.

I do not feel it should make a difference who makes how much with what job. If you are married and you both are working towards the same goals it shouldn't make a difference who makes how much. It is making the goals that are set together to reach. As far as his attitude when they are going out to dinner, sounds like he is not liking the idea of his new job not paying what he is worth to himself. So with this he is taking his frustrations out on his wife. Isn't that how it works though, we hurt the ones that are closest to us and sometimes if nothing is said it hurts both. They need to communicate to each other how this transition has affected each of them. If he has some real problems dealing with the idea she is making more than he, He needs to get his head exmined, in a marriage its team work, you work together to achieve a better life, shouldn't matter how it is done, just so that each are doing what they can do to reach it. He may be depressed because he isn't what he was before in the relationship. He needs to look within himself to know what he is doing now is still Good.. Depression can cause people to do stupid things like hurting those that love them. Right now in this economy, this is happening everywhere, good jobs are disappearing right and left, leaving those people to fend for themselves in a world that not many good paying jobs are left to grab.

Oh... that's not good... I think most of the men cares about it very much if the wives make more money than they do, they might not say it becaue they don't like to show their emotion normally; but they do feel something is wrong underneath... I don't work and my husbna dis the only person making money right now so I don't know about this but I won't be very keen if I make more than he does is becaues I know he will feel upset about it. And the other thing is I don't think it is very right for him to have said that especially in front of their famly, he should have respectewd himself and his wife...

Yes i think upto some extent that wife who makes more money than her husband creates a problem. you wat to know why. it's because of money. wife earning more money doe not take much care of her husband and moreover she thinks herself to be the main earner.

Well, personally, I do think that it should not be a problem if the wife makes more money than the husband. It do means that they had more household income for the whole family. However, in this case, I do think that there is a problem. Your sister's husband does not seem happy about this at all. He seems bothered about the fact that she's making lots more than him. I guess it may be because of a man's ego and pride, which is making him feel worse. Just imagine, he's all the while making twice the salary than your sister. All of a sudden, he's been laid off. I'm sure he's already feeling bitter about it. When he got the new job which was way lower than his previous one, and even lower than your sister, I believe he's feeling even more bitter. With your sister's pay increase which is triple of his income, it only aggravated the problem, and makes him feel more "hurt" than ever. This is certainly not very good for their marriage. I do really think that they should have a talk about this issue as soon as possible, before the problem really breaks out to a even bigger problem. However, this problem had to be dealt very tactfully, as I believed he's already quite upset about all these. Saying the wrong words may hurt him and the marriage even further. I really hope that your sister and her husband could iron out all this soon.

well, i have heard about this situation and have seen this a lot of times in movies, but not quite sure how it really feels. but, it definitely is bad on the part of 'we' men to say nasty things in front of others.

Then it is better that your sister avoids eating out with him.If he plans the dinner out and asks her to pay then it is downright cheap of him. If she is going to plan ofr it, then she can avoid it in future. He says this because he cannot afford it.

I don't think it should be a problem. In fact it is a happy thing for a family. No matter which one earns much more, it shouldn't be a problem. As both of the couples works and earns for a family. It will be beneficial for them already. In fact there is an interesting fact. When two person are in the dating relationship, usually the man pays for the meal. If they are married, usually the woman will pay for it. And usually a woman handles the money after marriage. Why the income has to be divided? They are married and they are family. I love China

I use to earn more then my husband when I worked at these 2 jobs I had years ago and I had to pay for dinner all the time & buy more of the everyday household items & food we needed because I had more money. It didn't bother me, buying our dinner & stuff we needed, I even was buying his clothes as well..lol.. . But when I got pregnant he took care of me and insisted that I no longer work because I was pregnant and he didn't want me to hurt myself and the baby by lifting heavy shipment boxes I sometimes had to do at the job I was working at, so I quit and he took care of me. I appreciate all he has done for me and our son ever since.

Misunderstanding is a big cause for quarrel between couples today. All the couple first try to understand each other and always try to live for others.

it should not be a problem and i think the couple needs to decide who is going to stay home and raise the kids at some point though. that is the problem with this world. there is no parent there after school and everyone is so overwhelmed with responsibilities that they do not really raise their kids. i think most men would, however, have a problem with the woman making more money than them.

I think I feel bad if it happened to me. In my mind, man should support the family and of course should earn more money. A ex-colleague has the same problem with you, but his wife's salary only a little high than his. They do have some problems but have no connection with money. I think your sister's husband should work hard and earn more money, Haha. Happy mylotting, Chelsit.

Well in my opinion. I don;t think there is anything wrong with it. You are a couple who cares who brings home more. You both work together to make it happen. There is no I do more than you. regardless who brings home more it is 50-50 But I do know that it hurts a lot of mens' pride. My hubby got laid off when circuit city closed and he hasnt been the same since. especially with how the economy is right now. He took the first job he could get which is min. wage and he HATES it. He is currently workign two jobs just because he knows we need the money and also he hates going from 40 thousand a year to basically nothing. But the way i see it anything is better than nothing.

Well the thing is they need to learn to share some of the money and then they need to make a plan how much each contributes to bills and what not and then how much to be put aside for dinners etc. Therefore if there is a separate account nobody needs to feel bad about someone making more money. For guys he's probably more upset about being laid off and having to take a huge pay decrease more than her making more money than him. So I would talk to them about making a separate bank account and if there isn't any money in the account to eat out, then they don't go out if she's so hurt by him making those comments. I know with my boyfriend he gets paid one week and me the next and so we just alternate weeks of who takes care of who and he knows I make a lot less so there will be times that he asks to go out and I'll be like well its my week and I can't afford it so why don't we do this - and then he'll offer to pay. So the offering takes care of the issues.

There's nothing wrong with a woman making more money than their significant other. I personally made more than my boyfriend until I was laid off this week. But we always took turns paying for things and we never bring up money when we are in front of friends or whatnot. Usually he likes to show that he is paying when we are out with friends and then when it's the 2 of us I will pay.

My husband makes about 60% of what I do. He doesn't have a problem with it. And our money is all pooled, so it's not like "his money" and "my money" and since I have more I should pay for more things. The only problem I have with it is that I feel like too much of the burden is on me not to lose my job.

I don't see anything wrong with her making more money than him, it all goes to paying the bills of the entire house. Since these days almost requires two incomes just to stay afloat, he should be happy that she is making so much money

Wow. Well, if a man and a woman love each other, it really shouldn't matter who makes the bulk of the money because they should be sharing it anyway. Actually, this should be something you discuss with your partner so that they both can make sure that they are on the same page. Money can cause a lot of issues especially to the male ego but he should not be acting out like that especially in front of other people because they are not part of the relationship. It will break them apart if they do not discuss it and fix it quickly. In my opinion, as long as my husband is working hard and contributing to the housework and the bills, it doesn't matter if I make more than he does becuase he isn't lying around being a bum. Now, if he was just lying around the house eating and not helping me, then we would have a problem.

There really is no problem with him saying that: she is paid triple what he is being paid, it's only logical for her to pay since she will be unaffected by paying. It's nothing to worry about, I'm sure she doesn't want any silly arguments over a few extra pounds. It isn't a problem that your sister is paid more than her husband as long as there's no sterotypical excuses for the richer of the two. I wish you, your sister and her husband good luck in your careers.

No, the husband should be happier for it. Since, the wife has more money that is is justifiable that she pays the bill. However, the husband must find a better job. Or he just work hard at work and home. they should help each other to be successful in their family life. Money doesn't matter a lot. What matters is they are living happily together no matter how rich or poor they are.