Does going through hardship, trials in life makes us stronger, tougher
By hotsummer
@hotsummer (13837)
Philippines
July 2, 2009 8:19am CST
and better person? It does not seem to be that way many times though in my life. yes it gives me important lesson but it just seems that i am still the old me with more mature look physically and besides nothing has changed except the things around has changed a lot every day and there is nothing constant in this world. the circumstances keep changing but our old self seems to be there still not changed a bit through the years. if there has been changed seem to be not significant or worth bragging about in public.
So what has been changed in you hat makes you a better person than before. ?
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17 responses
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I believe that it build character to go through trials and hardships. It imparts valuable lessons in life that makes us mature and grow as a good and stronger person. But how we handle it depends on how we see life and these trials... some may view it as a punishment and just give up but there are people who rise into the challenge and take it as a stepping stone to success.
The refining pot is for silver and furnace for gold, but the Lord tests the human heart.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
is there other ways to build character besides going through disappointments and other hardships in life. cause i believe if we are raised us well , taught precious lessons by our parents and if we in turn do that in our child that they will built character and they don't need to go through all those hardships to build character in life.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yes, it is an ideal life where in children learn the right values in life from their guardian or parents. it is easier for children to learn it while young than learn it when they are adult by some trials in life. it takes a lot of trouble and trials to change person's attitude for the better. where as in they learn it while they are still young when it is to mold their character. we could have spare them the trouble in learning those precious lessons in life later in their lives.
i think this is the most precious gift and inheritance any one could give to their children. and yes it is not always the case and only few children was raised this way. and so that is why we have so many problems in life.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
That's an ideal life but it's easier said than done. The reality of life involves a series of hindrances. Some people may be lucky to have wonderful parents who will take care of them be there for them all the time. All the values that they teach are also useful and they all acquire it from their lifetime experiences. You may have good parents but some people don't. Most of them don't even experience learning wisdom from parents, those who hurt other people with malice or intention. How are you going to handle difficult situations if you haven't heard of it from somewhere? If the circumstance is something new to you, you will definitely gain some experience and knowledge on how to handle it when you come across same situation in the future or may be something similar but harder.
I used to think when I was a child that life is so easy coz my parents are good providers but now that I have my own family I learned how to budget my time and my resources. When I had my heart surgery four years ago, I thought that's the end of the road, I was unemployed but that experience has mold me into someone who appreciates everything about life that I used to ignore coz its just there... I never realize that at one second things could really change. I could have given up then, but if I did I wouldn't be here to tell you about it, wouldn't I?
I'm not saying its a requirement, coz its not... but its definitely inevitable coz once you socialize with people you risk your heart being hurt or loved... when you engage into one activity there's a possibility that you'll fail or succeed. This trials will always come no matter how we try to avoid it... and if you do, how you can you say you have succeeded on something if you haven't achieved anything... How can you say you are stronger now than yesterday if you haven't been able to surpass something... There's always a standard for measurement and the way you compare you life experiences depends on how you handle things when they come.
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@jafoxrocketmail (1)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
well, hardships changed me a lot... my outlook now is a little on a positive side... i am more sensitive to people who goes the same situation as i had and i try to give them some advises on how to handle the situation. now i give importance to things that does not matter to me before. i now value my life, my successes. i try to be productive as i can be as much as possible because what i went through had taught me to be resourceful, responsible, valuable, patient, thoughtful, prayerful and most especially God-fearing.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yes many times the only way to understand people going through some thingn is when we experienced the same trials in life.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Jul 09
One thing I believe, the hardships and trials in life make you habituated with those things. May be it sometimes make you stronger and harder. A better people or not, hat I am not sure. I am facing so many hardships till many years. They have made me more sad I think. I have not progressed a bit in long times.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yeah sadness creep in when we get through many trials in life. hopefully there will be some things event or people who could give you joy while you are going through these trials in life. as i hope that it will happen to me too.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Maybe because you have not learned the lessons you're supposed to learn from that hardships, trials you had encountered. Why? Well for one if you keep focusing on the lesson and not practicing the do's and the don't in that lesson you've just experienced you will indeed keep on coming back from where you started. Once you have identified the problem solve it and moved on with your life. It will definitely make you happier person than reminiscing that you are still there with no significant changes.
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@mimuche (163)
• Canada
2 Jul 09
Most definitely. The tough events that you go through in life open you eyes and make you think out of the box and from a more mature point of view. I went through a war when I was 12, an attack at my workplace about two years ago while I was working with my two other friends (thankfully he was the one who was hurt), a heart surgery just last year and all these have made me realize that there is really a lot to life. I think such events tend to make you more productive and definitely you will enjoy the life more, at least I do as I appreciate it more now. I have much more sympathy now for people who go through tough times such as wars or attacks, and I feel like I have developed a reflex that is always pushing me to try and help those in need. I guess when you try some things yourself you never really wish them on anyone else for you know how horrible it can be. A good heart and good intentions are always a great addition to anybody's personality.
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@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
wow you had been through much. but still you have a beautiful outlook in life. hope you will have more better days as you have now in life.
@darkstormy1 (264)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I have had many things in my life happen that should it happen to another it might of destroyed them for me it did make me stronger I believe things happen for a reason and never does anyone receive anything they can not handle so people generally have two choices rise above find a way to overcome the hardship and in turn make them stronger wiser or turn resentful fight it and let them turn negative or worse make themselves out to be a victim it all depends on a persons mindframe if you look at anything the right way you can take a lesson out of it
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yes every thing happens for a reason. but to accept every thing that happens to us are not that easy. we have to hold on to our beliefs.
@darkstormy1 (264)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I agree it is not easy but I do not think it is suppose to be for if it comes too easily we seem to not get as much out of it life has hard decisions that is the way i see it but you are too true
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
I think human systems require continuous renewal. The ability to confront and resolve external and internal obstacles, test and challenges is a power that changes a person's life. As we age, we learn to discern right from wrong and receive strength to face the obstacles which comes from within and without. Every moment of our life's journey is a challenge. There are no problems, only opportunities to learn, grow and help others in the process. We've got to move on despite all the hardships we faced in life. I believe hardships not only makes us strong, tough but it also makes us wiser. 
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
it does not guarantee that we will learn discern what is right and wrong. it is more on the persons desire to learn will determine if he will be able to discern ti.
@Wizzywig (7847)
•
2 Jul 09
I think there is a lot of truth in the saying that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Over the last few years there have been changes and incidents in my life that I never imagined I could deal with. I never thought of myself as a strong person and have never liked myself much - however, I can look back now and realise that I did ok.
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
i am of both. an individual may get tougher, or may be, he'll be much weaker. it depends on the events and circumstances. when someone felt that he had been useless then most probably he'll break down eventually, sooner or later will give up life as it is. like there is nothing left and nothing to loose.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
does it guarantee that w ewill be tougher the next time we have some problems in life.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey,
Yes I personally think that if we go through hardships, then it will make us a lot stronger and tougher. If we always have the easy life, then we will always never appreciate anything, and we will be just weak and fragile. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
2 Jul 09
I believe that the best way to learn is when we face difficulties. When we are offered the difficulties, we try so hard to overcome that we will learn it by heart. Now, it is fairly likely that the same situation won't happen the second time but then something similar will and since we have experienced before, we are thus in better position to deal with them.
Flowers growing in a greenhouse may seems so nice being taken good care of compared to those growing in the wild. But the greenhouse may just disappear one day suddenly that which one will be better in fighting for survival?
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
they like man to a butterflies . when it was yet baby it was inside a cocoon in darkness but once it comes out of it the cocoon becomes a very beautiful butterfly. so i guess that is the purpose of the trials in life .
@chikadee21ph (438)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I strongly believe that the trials and hardships we encounter in life are the one that make us a better person. They hone us to be stronger and better person. As for me, I now see life positively. Unlike before where I only had those negative thoughts that make me sad and bitter.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yeah in the beginning when we are new to trials we see trials as more negative than positive. as we learn we see that we can make good things out of bad things.
@bluerlyn (139)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
personally, i believe it to be true. as they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. when you surpass difficult situations, you come out of it as a better and more mature person. You may not be scathe-free, yet the things that you learn from the situation will definitely aid you in cases you encounter something similar.
nonetheless, not all people respond the same way when faced with difficult situations. trials can either make us or break us, we can come out of it better or bitter. at the end of the day we chose how to respond to these situations.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
5 Jul 09
Hubby and I both have been hurt so many times by so many ignorant people so many times in our lives that it's very hard for us to trust anyone however, knowing how it feels to be hurt like we have, we never ever want to be the source of pain to anybody else. We're all for the right and never ever for the wrong, no matter who it is. Because of that, my niece, nephew, brother and hubby & I aren't speaking. Too bad because we're not bending!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
11 Jul 09
yeah I think it does. At least it shows us how much we can take, and it makes us come up with creative ways to get through it.
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hi hotsummer...I think that it stinks but going through hardships does make us stronger if only because we survived. I managed going through some tough times financially and emotionally and survived only to better appreciate the good times that I have now. I would never have met and fallen in love with my husband if I had not met many horrible men and realized that they were not for me. It makes me appreciate him all the more every day.
