You wanted to know the truth, but it will make you LESS HAPPY...would you still

it just remind me of what some people say..."what you do not know will not hurt you..." but for me, i want to know the truth even if how much it will gonna hurt me...at least my mind will be free from any worries and unanswered questions! i remember when i am still single and have a bf who's being tempted by other woman, at first he told me that what that girl is saying is not true and i must only believe on him...but in my heart, i feel something different...i wanted to know the truth! i know that it will be more hurtful if i hear it right straight from him that something happens to them...but i still insists and do every way i know just to dig the truth and let him speak...now, the moment i am waiting for...maybe he gets annoyed with my investigation on him, i mean constant asking on what really happens...finally...he told me the truth! he said yes something happens to us but that's just an incident and it doesn't mean that i don't love you anymore... oh my god! i didn't expect that it will hurt me that much...the truth that i am waiting for almost kill me...and my love with my boyfriend then...but i just felt that way for at least that moment...it still keeps me thinking for the whole night and when finally i accepted what happened...and finally forgive him...i feel very free and happy knowing that he's not hiding anything from me and i know what's the real score behind...and i don't feel like a fool...and after that our reltionship become more stronger and the trust comes back... now, i think i will still do the same, i will always wanted to seek for the truth..no matter how much it hurts...or even if it makes me less happy...coz i know that the hurt and the less happy feeling s are all temporary and if you learn to accept the truth...you will be more happy and satisfied... at least this is what i feel about it... have a nice day!

Dealing with reality may be one of the toughest battles humans have to face, but those who survive emerge stronger and wiser. Knowing the truth may hurt, but believing in lies can only bring more pain. Having said this, I'd rather know the truth because only "the truth will set you free". It can be painful, but surely bearable and hopefully fleeting. Getting hurt may bring me down but only for a while, then I'll stand up, pick up the pieces and move on.

oh yes... i still want to know the truth regardless what happen... i know that sometimes the truth will make me less happy or even hurt my feelings... but it is better to know the truth rather than being deceived... that's for me... i just don't like to be deceived or kept in the dark... take care and have a nice day...

I rather not know everything.the one-statement truth is painful,what more when details are added.if a partner tells me,"I cheated on you",it's enough for me.no need to know other details like who's the girl,why did he cheat,etc.the "I cheated on you" statement is enough for me to break up with him.why would I succumb myself to more pain?he didn't think twice to hurt me by cheating on me.

actually it will be not enough for you forever even if you have known the all detail.you would feel there is still anythingelse you haven't known about it.although you were hurt so much,but you still want to dig through it more,i think this is human nature or human curious.by the way i have same situation as you,what was so horrible time for me.

i have no clue y it made u less happy. maybe u say u want the truth but u rather be happy living a lie. i can't deal with that i say i want the truth n when i have it i'm fine. i get a little upset but i get over it. lifes to important to hold grudges over of.any of us could die any minute.

I think I won't go to dig things out but I believe I will know that one day if it's really related to me.The truth will come out.

Hello daryljane, You are absolutely right and I agree with you. As for myself, I know that I am not strong enough to face the hurtful truth sometimes but I still feel that I want to know the truth, no matter what will happen after that. Sometimes, it really makes me sad and keep thinking about the truth that being told to me. If I decided not to know the truth, that will also make me always feel suspicious. Sometimes I just hope that I don't know anything about the sad truth so that it won't ruin my life.

I would want to know the truth maybe its something to better my self maybe some one did not love me any more and so on I would really want to know the truth and why I only want to be with caring honest people and friends that are true

I have to know the details, because my imagination can run pretty wild if I don't. Also, I feel the sooner I know the details, the sooner I can get over the hurt. I can't survive properly unless I know as much as possible, regardless of the consequences, lol. This is a good idea for discussion. Thanks.