Would you pay for your mom and your in laws for babysit your baby

It depends. I would offer to pay if it was something that happened on a regular basis. My mom is the type that would not accept money for it. I know. But I would still offer if she were babysitting for me full time. Yes she is the grandparent but it is still her time she is using to help out. Once in a blue moon is one thing. But when you are aking her everyday to take time out to look after your kids I think it is completely different and she should have some compensation.

Grandparents are doting parents to their grandchildren, but it is not their duty to take care of them. It just happens that most of the time they are the ones available as they have already retired from their jobs. As for me, I will not impose upon them to babysit for my kids but if they volunteer, then I would gladly accept it. But I'll give them money not as payment for services but as a way of showing my appreciation of their help.

I don't think a grandparent should be obligated to watch the grandchildren. However in your case where your mom comes over on her own free will to help out...I have to question why in the world you are paying her a few hundred dollars...that is a lot of money!!! I watched my first grandchild full time for free simply to help my daughter out in a tough time while her and her husband worked. I also worked full time 2nd shift and had kids at home myself. It was non-stop constant work and I would never do it again and at the same time am glad that I helped out. Before my granddaughter was even concieved, I made it very clear that if she were to have more children...I did not want to be full time daycare. I want to enjoy my grandchildren. Now I have my grandchildren when I can...I spoil them, love them...call them cute and send them back home. They are NOT my job. I enjoy them more this way. It is summer. I have them once or twice a week. I don't charge for them. Would not dream of charging for them. I am glad to have time with them. You should NOT expect gram to be the babysitter. She should have the kids when she wants and should not charge. a few hundred dollars is a lot for a professional daycare...don't pay the gram that extravagant price!!! That is insane!

Their duty.......It most certainly is not their duty. Grandparents are there to assist with the upbringing but not in a dominant role and that is if they chose to do so. Grandparents should be able to go into retirement even from childrearing and enjoy themselves and the fruits of their labour. I would love to pay my mom if she assisted with my kids. I always like to know she has extra cash to go and do what she wants. That would be a good way for both of us to benefit.

I do not see anything wrong about paying your parents or a realtive for looking after your child. But make sure you do this properly or they may get offended by the gesture. Buy them food or keepsakes or give them money. Not all will ask for repayment. They just want to feel appreciation, and nothing is wrong if this appreciation is shown by giving money, favors or gifts.

I'm haven't got kids and I'm not married, duh, I'm 16 years old. But I do know my father never pays me to babysit my baby sisters he has with another woman. (My parents are divorced) Do you think he should?

Unfortunately for me, my parents are too far away, and the in-laws are too, though that might be a blessing in disguise! LOL. If my parents were closer, and I needed them to watch our girls for a couple of hours, I don't think they would accept money from me. My mum would have way too much fun spoiling our girls rotten and playing 'nana', which would be her payment. Obviously, if I was working, and asking my mum to look after them for a few hours a day, then I would pay her, but I don't see me going back to work until all 5 are in school, which is about another 5 years away yet.

I dont think it is a big deal to give your Mom money for taking care of your kids, actually it shouldnt even be called a payment it is just a way of showing your appreciation for her help. She doesnt really have an obligation do that because at her age she should be taking it easy and just enjoying her free time something that maybe she didnt enjoy while she was taking care of you or your siblings when all of you were growing up.

I think if its an occasional thing then its okay but if its excessive then some compensation is necessary. I think your mother would be hurt if you even considered not giving her some compensation unless she turns it down. I rarely get a sitter and when I do its family or friends and they dont ask for money due to short period of sitting and rarely needing one.

Grandparents are not obligated to take care of there grand kids, if it's a case where it's a few times a week and that person aleady has a job it's your decision whether to pay or not,but if that peron doe snot work and is takng cae of the kids full time you have to pay them.

In our culture, we never pay mom or in laws for babysitting their grandchildren. Even among other relatives, say aunts, it is ackward to pay by cash, nevertheless, the granting is acknowledged, appreciated, and rewarded in one way or another, sooner or later. Giving gifts at festivals might be a choice.

I don't believe it's a grandparents' "duty" to take care of their grandchild. Grandparents gave up their duties of taking care of a child when the child became old enough to have children of their own. I feel if the grandparent wants to take the time to help out with their grandchildrens' care then yes they should be shown appreciation. It doesn't always have to be shown with money. Some grandparents don't want to be paid. They probably just like being a part of their grandchild's life. I don't have any children yet. But I would offer to pay mom for watching my children and if she wouldn't accept the money, I would find some other way to show her my appreciation. This is just something I would do for my mom, but if she didn't want to accept my money, I would send her to a beauty spa once a month so that she could be pampered. You know, something like that.

I pays my mum on a monthly basis for her help to take care of my baby even I stay at home too. I don't think it's fair for our mother to take care of our own child for free since they have already done that to us. As a token of appreciation, it will be good to give her some $$ as this would at least make the olders happy. I think our parents help us with their full heart, and never ask for the $$, is our initiative to show some appreciation.

Paying ur mum some pocket money is not really a big issue...juz a small token for her hard work.She has to travel to ur place everyday to takecare ur boys,so giving her some pocket moneys is right way to do it. For me, Of course, I prefer my kid to be taking care by my own mum...no matter what, we sure will be closer to our own mum than our MIL.

Touchy subject. I have a friend whose mom adores her granddaughter and is always willing to look after her for a few hours while my friend goes out. But if it came down to the my friend needing her mom to take care of the baby full time, her mom wants to be paid more than the day care my friend has the baby in now. And I'm sure you know how expensive good day care can be. That's a little out of hand, in my opinion. I think that grandma's want to watch their grandkids for free once in a while... once a week or every two weeks, but if it becomes a full-time, every day job, then paying her a little, even if just enough to take care of the baby's needs or gas if grandma has to take her somewhere, is courteous. After all, no one paid her to take care of her own kids, she deserves a little compensation now. So I kind of agree with you both.

Well, kids now in age are very hard to look after. I don't agree fully on paying relitives to watch your children. I have two little girls and my mom never watches them. Now my inlaw on the other hand she calls and begs for then to come over. But if you going to pay a few hundred dollars, why not send them to daycare. Think about it. you would have more free time and your kids learn more. My 3 year old is learning spanish due to day care and my 2 year old can say and spell her name well.