Do I Have to say Yes?

Love cannot happen just because someone is obsessed with you. So far, you've been dating a few times and you found that there's no spark between the two of you. Why then do you still pursue? Let me share with you my own experience. I have a colleague, I know her parents, and they know me well. I've never met her until they day she joined the college in which I was working at that time. I liked her gentleness, and kindness. Then I became really infatuation with her and started sending her mails and even a love poem. She shot back at me, and told me that we are just friends. I went on with this feeling for more than a year. She continued treating me as a friend, though and occasionally she dated me for dinner or lunch. It was just platonic. So, you should treat your friend the same way. DO NOT ignore him, but just treat him as a friend. Lend him an ear if he needs it. You don't have to say yes - you're not obligated to agree at all if he wants you to be his steady girlfriend. Eventually, his cow sense will tell him that you're his friend. In the meantime, get on with life... reality is, if that classmate of yours is meant to be with you, then God has his ways to bring both of you together. Maybe not now, but later - who knows, but for now, just be friends, ok? Well, I'm married; so is the girl whom I "fell in love" with. We're still colleagues but in a different place now. We still go on dates sometimes - and we've become friends forever.

If after a full year you still have questions and do not know in your heart that you love him you would be doing both yourself and him a disservice if you continue that relationship. By continuing you are holding out hope for him. He will never give up until he knows there is nothing there for you. You must tell him goodbye, as hard as it may be, YOU MUST.

My dear friend, Please do not play with your own life nor that guys life. Ask him for some time say may be a week or two sit with a calm mind with all other things kept aside concentrate only this matter which is of most concern to you. Future of your life is dependent on this so take a decision which you need not regret for in future. Command your mind that what ever you are going to do you are doing with good faith in that guy. Its just an infatuation which almost happens in every adult at a certain age and which is very common to happen. The answer to the question which you have asked "Do i really like him" This question is to be asked with your inner-conscious present in it has the best answers for the difficult question? Communicate with the inner conscious while doing so you can feel that your inner conscious speaks feel it and then take a decision I Wish you all the best in taking the decision And a humble request to you that is do not divert yourself from studies because later you will not get your wasted time back for your studies Feel free to comment for any of the points which you do not like. HAPPY MYLOTTING

You don't have to say yes. There is no law that says you have to say yes.Go with you heart.

why are you asking us if you love him. and what magic are you expecting? if you like being with him just be with him, it not a big deal

I just wanted to say how nice of you to entertain him despite of all of your doubts in him. but if you have those doubts with all of the dates that you two been through, then we must accept the fact that you don't like him and he's not the man for you. it might hurt him if you admit it but it's better to cut-him loose now than drag him along with guilt on your conscience to yourself and that guy. at least he will find time to adjust and move on. maybe it can be obsession.

you know what i would, first ask yourself, think about it really hard. and listen to your heart very carefully. its like life goes on. samething about love. you just gotta give it a try because you wouldn't know, until you try, am i right yall? don't listen to anyone. hear your self out.... think about what i said, and reply me back pls

just give the guy a chance to prove that he really likes u and love u

you appear to like this guy not love him. there are no sparks. i would tell him how you feel and if he dosen't want to leave get some help in case it is an obsession

If you think that you don't really feel anything for him, then it would a good decision if you end up the mutual relationship that you have with this guy. That's the best thing you can do in this situation. It's hard to put yourself in a relationship if you don't really love the person at all. Perhaps, I can say you like him but if there is no love, then there is no meaning in the relationship. God speed!

Hi, This is too personal matter so far your saying him yes or no. But resolve the issue soon. If not for you at least his sake. Any relation embedded with mouths of doubts might prove a failure. You could go for a test to see your doubts. Test him. Be objective and see him as your future husband and scan him and surely you would find some solid data basing on which you would reach a conclusion and then decide. Be careful relation is too fragile an issue.

If you don't love him just tell him the truth that you are not the right girl for him..goodluck girl =D

If you do not feel the same way, you should end any contact with him so he would not say that you lead him on and then just dumped him. It would be better to be honest now than prolong his agony when he is clearly expecting something from you. You could have stopped seeing him after a few times that you do not feel the same way already.

If you are having doubts you prob do not even want to think about marriage casue your doubts will only intensify after marriage resulting in a not so fun divorce. If you find your self rationalizing saying "Well, it's ok to marry him cause I can just get a divorce" then you need to walk away. He will be hurt but he will get over it and besides if one is miserable in the relationship it doesnt make for a good relationship.

You dont have to say yes or anything if you don;t find him that attractive, Why? Because if you do it will be one of those relationships doomed from the start types. If after four dates, he hasn't been able to charm u off your feet, its a little more than unlikely he will do it now

Seriously. If your not feeling it then dont go through with anything that would resemble any permanence. This person sounds like hes a nice guy...just not the one for you. If you merry him you'll be stuck in a relationship with a divorce the only way out. Just sit down with him and talk to him and tell him look...your not feeling this, tell him why and then cut it off. If hes head over heals you may have to break contact from him for a while.

I think you would say yes to him. From what you said, you don't have a strong character, and are wavering to make a decision. It means in your mind he still has something attracting you. This also encourages him to ask you frequently about it. I don't think you can escape from him easily.

Yes, you should. and then if you dont like then leave him.

If there is really no spark on him then tell him the truth,for him not to expect,just tell him that friendship is the only offer that you can give for now,but who knows someday..you will never know..

if u dnt like a person u woudnt hve gone 2 a date at all!!!! i gues u kindof like him...if ur not sure weather he is true r not den test him n do gve him a try n everyone shoud be given a second chance!!