Friendship mixed with attraction

hi licelotd! well, i'll advise you to just follow your heart. you can't really be happy if you remain as friends right? so why not take another step?! but taking another step may mean a) you can have him b) you can lose him.. but falling in love is taking a risk. so why not take a risk?it's for your own happiness. but you have to take the consequences if it will turn out bad, meaning you'll lose the friendship that you have. happy mulotting!

Listen to your head first because that is what makes you think. You need to know the difference between infatuation and real love. Infatuation is the feeling of loving someone but it's only temporary. It may not even be love. This happens in teenagers who are still trying to make adjustments to the hormonal changes in their body. True love takes a longer time to develop, so infatuations could turn to true love if things work out. Is your friend ready to make a commitment? Take him on few dates, watch his reactions. Send him birthday cards, make phone calls. Some guys need a bit of persuasion and they might need time to admit their love. Since you say that you have amazing connections with him, then perhaps you should make the first move, but don't be afraid if he rejects you. Like what I've said, it might take time. This is when you use your heart. How do you feel after going on dates or when you pop that question? Do you think that you're gonna waste your time as well as his if you continue to pursue when he's always rejecting you? How does your heart feel about it? Well, that's all I can say. I do hope things between you will turn out nicely, but if it doesn't, then just let it remain platonic and move on with life. There's no point clinging to water when you know it will flow off your hand no matter what. Good luck ok? Let us know the outcome. ;)

Listen to your heart. Love comes once in awhile, Grab your chance or let that be an unspoken love, hurting yourself in the end. When I was in your case, I chose not to tell him,losing him in the end. I just found out lately that he had feelings for me too. I let that wonderful chance to pass and it makes me regret a bit.

I have to admit I felt the same way about a friend in high school, after we graduated it was the same. I guess I took a step back and really looked at it. Did I feel this because I was over the high school phase and thinking that there just weren't any good guys out there? Being comfortable and familar with a person just feels good. I had to wonder if I felt this way because most of the friends we had were now getting married and I hadn't found that special someone yet. I think I was looking at him in a new light because felt the pressure to get into a relationship, you know, not just casually dating. I thought about this a long time and decided not to share my feelings with him. He was an awesome friend and we went to more movies together then my entire time on the dating field, but I realized that a great friend like that was worth more to me then a lover. I guess I just didn't give way to the social pressures that I HAD to have a person with me after a certain age. In the long run we were both better for it and I have no regrets about keeping to myself how I felt. In time I met a person that did turn into that special something and it was more than I ever thought I felt for my friend. So I my gut instinct was right. Being comfortable with a person is great, but trying to make more out of it then there is really there, well, I'm glad I didn't. This might be the case for you, just telling you what I went through.

We always say that we are just friend and nothing more then that but sometime we dont know that if thats the person we were looking for and he/she didnt not knew till this day. Thats the common thing which we thing but the people who are facing this feels this one is shocking. my gf was also by friend from 8years and we in the same school and college but nothing happened but when we were working and we were meeting very rarely and thats when we knew that we were in love. heheheheh and i m very happy now it depends upon u girl that what u want to do with your love life..

Sometimes a close friendship can develop into something deeper and more beautiful. It is also very common for close friends to fall in love because they have gain a better understanding of each other and have start to like each other more. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. In fact, I should think that you should give both you and him a chance to develop it further. In life, we have to take chances.

Attraction can be of physical appearance but feeling you have for your long time friend is different. You kind of like him and may be love him, so before time run out of your good relationship tell him how you feel about him and let him decide what he thinks about you where it comes to moving ahead on relationship.

Listen to your heart. My girlfriend and I too were great friends too before our relationship. The best thing about falling in love with your friend is that you know him/her in advance. You know what he is thinking at times, how he'll be reacting to given situations, what he will like and what he won't approve and so on. You know what, I too was afraid of telling her and that was two years back. And those days were so good. And now its even better in the relationship. So as I said, listen to your heart and tell him how you feel, you'll have a wonderful love life. Wish you all the best.

Actually, the best relationship to have is one that started out as friends as the trust is already there and by this time you guys should already pretty much know each other! You never know, you guys just may be the couple you both always wanted!! I say go for it, all he can do is say yay or nay, but I'm sure it'll be yay for sure, especially if your connection is that strong, he should already know! Taripre$

Hey, there is nothing wrong with falling in love with your best friend. You might need to give it a shot, otherwise, you won't know the result. Try to hint him and find out if he has the same feeling toward you. If you both mutually love each other, why not go for it. Don't miss the love of your lifetime.

Great question- it is something that a lot of us deal with. I have had this situation and it's gone both ways for me. One, we ended up going out for a while- things didnt end up working out and we didnt talk anymore. The other one did not feel the same way that i did about him. Whichever way it goes, it is worth the risk. I mean, you never know. This guy could end up being you're soul mate and you will get married! Maybe he doesnt feel the same way and things get a bit awkward for a while. If he really appreciates your friendship, he wont go anywhere & just tell you "hey, i dont feel the same way," What is there really to lose? Life is all about risks and sometimes you have to risk something good to get something even better =]

Before you do that, I think I'd take it slow. Physical attraction is shallow and wide. It requires very little to be attracted to someone, and a heck of a lot more to make into a real relationship. What do your parents think of him? What do your friends who you trust, think of him? (obviously don't ask him what he thinks of himself. ...it'd be weird) Do they see you and him having a real relationship? Finely, don't jump on him either. I'll be brutally honest, because... well that's how I am. If I had a very close personal friend, who happened to be a girl (and I do), and that person was to suddenly jump out and say "I'm in love with you! Let's go deep!". Honestly, that would likely end the relationship because I do care about her, and I do want the best for her, but flat out I'm not interested in her in that way. I think possibly... you might want to just wait for him.

you may listen to your heart because feelings are more important

Actually I think the person I love the most would be my best friend. The attraction is there but it remains pure friendship.