Cane our children? Would you do it or not?
By kevchua
@kevchua (1004)
Malaysia
July 25, 2009 1:48am CST
In the modern era where information is easily accessible, and where kids eat food with better nutrition than decades ago, would you as a parent still use the cane to punish your kid? When would you use the rod? If you do not use it, how would you deal with your kid's misbehaviour?
Let's hear it, people :)
I remember being whacked on my leg when I was a kid; the lines were there for a couple of hours - I can't remember what I had actually done that caused my mom to be furious. Anyway, I'm a better person now.
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10 responses
@robinpoulose (105)
• India
25 Jul 09
yeah!! my father also used to cain and i know now the power of cain and its fear still in my mind!!
i will surely cain my child to show him right path!!
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@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
25 Jul 09
Oh! You Do sound Scary .. But I Don't Think That Is Right . We Should Be Able to control Our Children By just Our Voice .. It leaves A Bad effect on Kids If we Beat Them .. This Is My feeling As A Father .
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
25 Jul 09
wowww!! can u say ISSUES!!!! robin..seriosuly ur only 21..and u were used with a cain? i dont even think they can do that anymore...there is no reason to physically harm a child tat bad..why would u want to hurt your own child even of u were harmed that way? I have a 7 yr o ld son..he has never been physiclaly beat or hurt..and he is very smart..funny quick witted and most importantly he listens to me..time out has always worked..lord i hope u dont h ave kids if u seriously intend on caining them...breaks my heart.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
honestly i grew up being caned by my dad, its a thing in the past. somehow it benefited me in some ways. but in our modern times, i don't think this is acceptable anymore. i will not discipline my child using a cane. there are other ways to discipline a child. parents just have to be patient and creative.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
It's interesting to see how other parents punish their children who are rude, incorrigible, refuse to do homework and so on. I believe parents don't want to hurt their own flesh and blood on purpose unless they're mad. What if despite telling them in a nice way, their kids are still the same? Would using psychology (the non-physical method) work on every child? It makes me wonder, have things changed so much that caning is not effective anymore? :)
Cheers!
@maidangela7349 (1191)
•
26 Jul 09
We have had this discussion before. When a parent needs to resort to the used of violence when bringing up children it is a sign that they, the parent, has failed to bring that child up properly. Now there are times when parents do resort to the used of violence because non of us are perfect and we all fail from time to time. The important thing is to remember that it is our failure not the child's
@cwong77 (2010)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
Yes, I still believe in canning.. but not as frequent as my parents did to me... I will learn to be more patience, and with lots more of reasoning.. and last resort will still be the rod. I was being caned before, and yes indeed I am a better person now... Even in jail, the canning is still useful though.. LOL.. Happy MyLotting :)
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
Agreed. Parents of today are more "caring" in the sense that they do not use the cane to punish their misbehaved children. To some, this works; to others, it might not. The same goes with caning... some kids just won't learn despite being caned, then perhaps talking to them would help. The bottom line is, cane is still a useful way to discipline a child, but not all disciplinary problems can be solved by caning. It could leave a deep scar in the child's life later.
@Wynters_mama (109)
• United States
26 Jul 09
No i would not cane my kids that is just way to mean. Well i have one daughter right now she is 2. If she is bad she usually I goes into time out and then after I let her out I talk to her and tell her what she did wrong and usually she never dose it again. But that is how i raise my daughter everyone raises the children different and every child has to be disciplined in a different way.
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
25 Jul 09
It has always made me sad to think of any child hamred physically..i beleive in spanking but not hard enough to have markings..for me time out has always worked and my sons 7 yrs old...hes been a wonderful child..hes smart,intelligent.,funny and has hardly ever been a problem to me..hes had his share of outs..but still hes just a child..and people that have ever caned theer child or anything else liek it..are just evil in my book,,.there is no reason for it..
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
25 Jul 09
i do not believe in caning a child. i do not believe in bruising a child.i was brought up when parents use to spank their children with hand. i am not against a spanking as long as it does not bruise the child. i think now people should talk to the child and put them in time out. Spanking should only be done if talking and put the child in time out does not work.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Cane or rod? Neither. Any will be too hurting. I would rather spank them with my hand. That way I will also feel the pain. As a rule, resort to spanking sparingly. Children must understand you with your words and not with punishment. I am blessed my children never misbehaved.
