Was this rude?
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63594)
United States
July 27, 2009 8:49am CST
I took the roomie out to her folks Sunday. I was still tired and hurting from the day before cleaning and rearrangement of rooms.
I had been asked to make a necklace for a doll - did that. We had picked up some salads at Wendy's for lunch, ate that. I was fading and went over to the recliner, and went to sleep.
Sound asleep. Apparently they talked, laughed, played on the computer. Came and went, and I slept thru it.
Now, except for a couple that dropped in for a few minutes, everyone was related, or a parent of a relative in the house - except me. I would've gone home, except then I'd've had to drive BACK out to get her, and its a bit of a drive. If it hadn't been 100º I'd've probably gone out to the car to sleep.
So... was I unbearably rude? I really hadn't intended to totally go to sleep - tho I did it last fall too, but I was sick that day.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
No, as the matter of fact it was your right to sleep since you were awake during the driving and do other stuff after that. i do believe they understand you because you took her to her folks. it was nice of you actually.
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
28 Jul 09
[b]Elic's nice nearly 100% of the time. She really only isn't when she's under too much pressure. Nap on, Elic!
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I don't think it was rude. If u had been at my house i would have just put a spread over u & let u sllep.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Jul 09
U aren't like me, no matter what the temp i have got to have a little cover when i sleep.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Did they say you were rude? Well, I don't think it's rude at all, that crowd wasn't yours and it was actually a favor for your roomate to have driven her to her folks even if you were tired. It could have been sensitive of her if she offered a sleeping room instead of just letting you sleep on the recliner.
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@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I am sure that they all understood that you were exhausted and it would not have bothered me in the least. If you feel odd, apologize, but I bet that they will brush it off and say it was nothing.
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@dmrone (746)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Hi! No, i would not say that you were being rude. I think you were tired and deserved to take a break. I wouldn't let it bother me to much. It sounds like you have been really busy, and your body can only do so much until it has to have break, and yours needed a break Sunday. Hope you have a great day. Happy mylotting.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I would not worry about it. You were very busy and I am sure they all were aware of all that. Sometimes you just can't help it.
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@BarBaraPrz (47274)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
27 Jul 09
No, I don't think you were being rude. I'm sure roomie explained to everyone how hard you worked the day before, and if you fell asleep so soundly you would have obviously been too tired to drive home.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
28 Jul 09
[b]I always DID like your roomie's mom. I can easily believe SHE was nice about it. As that family is always noisy (& their trailer crowded), it must have been very obvious you had to be totally fagged to nap under such conditions!
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I don't think you were rude. They were rude for keeping you there because you were obviously exhausted. You went to dinner, make the necklace, etc., fulfilling all your obligations and on top of that you gave her a ride. Someone else could have offered to take her home and let you get some much needed rest.
You weren't at fault, but I think everyone else showed a marked lack of consideration for their guest!
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I wouldn't call it rude, not at all. It would have been rude if you had invited all those people to your home, then went to sleep, but you were under no obligation to entertain anyone.
I've had people fall asleep in my home before but I always knew the reason why. They were actually "tagging along", much like in your case. They had worked the night before or had been extremely busy before getting to my house and simply could not hold their eyes open. I never got upset with anyone falling asleep in my house.
Even my son and his girlfriend fell asleep here one Christmas. She was recovering from the flu so I could understand her being weak and tired. He had worked the night before, getting off work at 7:00 a.m. so, by 6 p.m. or so, he was also exhausted. I just threw a blanket over them (both kinda slid sideways on the couch), wrote a note that they would see when they woke up letting them know that they could stay or go home if they woke up while I was asleep; either was fine with me. I didn't have the heart to wake them!
In your case, no, I would never call you rude for falling asleep. I can certainly see your point about not wanting to drive back home, then come back to pick up the roomie and drive back home again... especially these days with the economy the way it is, and I can understand why you were too tired to hold your eyes open. Heck, I would have offered you my bedroom to take a nap in!
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I thought about asking to lay down, but I really have trouble getting a word in edgewise with that family.
Now, we once had a meeting/party at our house on a Sunday, and at 11 p.m. I finally put on my pajamas, and robe and went out and said - "well, I'm sorry, I have to get up and go to work in the morning, so if you'll excuse me..."
They were GONE in 10 minutes...
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Elic said: I thought about asking to lay down, but I really have trouble getting a word in edgewise with that family.
Now, we once had a meeting/party at our house on a Sunday, and at 11 p.m. I finally put on my pajamas, and robe and went out and said - "well, I'm sorry, I have to get up and go to work in the morning, so if you'll excuse me..."
They were GONE in 10 minutes...
[b]LOL! Elic, did you happen to see that Carol Burnett episode where she did just that when, after numerous verbal hints, a group of stay-too-long guests actually let her get ready for bed (dress in a gown & robe, fuzzy slippers, hair cover, brush teeth, etc.), & pull out the couch on which they were sitting, & crawl under the covers? I can't recall if they got the "hint" even then!
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I think you can be excused under the circumstances. I wouldn't worry about it too much. On another note, I just repsonded to a discussion that has you all over it -- a guy and his girlfriend have adopted a couple of strays and are trying to get friendly with them. He's looking for advice on trying to tame and train the Cat and her kitten.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
30 Jul 09
What? And here I was bragging about myLot's resident cat lady!
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
28 Jul 09
[b]Well, it's not as though one plans to nap at such times. After all, the only way you even know you went to sleep is because you woke up!
And you still haven't answered my query--do you have the "Sandburg" guilt complex? Or did someone actually accuse you of being rude? Hmmm?
Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Nope, you were not rude, you just made yourself at home, like family. In fact, speaking of family, I went through my Thanksgiving pictures from 2007 and I have pictures of almost everybody sleeping, in recliners, on the floor on the sofas, you name it. I would feel like you were just one of us. They like to joke about me falling asleep any time there is a movie on.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jul 09
In my home, you'd have been perfectly fine. We are all pretty laid back and would have just assumed you were really tired.probably would have even woke you and offered you a more comfortable place to rest. In my opinion it wasn't rude at all. Did anyone say anything? I really can't imagine anyone thinking that'd be rude but you never know.
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@snowy22315 (180452)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I dont think so if you were that tired you should have been able to sleep. I would have apologized when I woke up though and said that I was going to make the doll necklace when I got an opportunity. I just was really super tired or something like that. They probably think you have an excessive need for sleep though if you did that last fall too!
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@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
27 Jul 09
HI {{Elic}} sounds like you were really tired, and you had every
right to fall asleep and had you not been so tired you would have
been awake right?
I would not worry about it, I'm sure your roommate understood right?
Hopefully the family too but if not, oh well!!
The heat can knock out any of us at any time, in fact right now
I'm typing and yawning and getting ready to go take a nap myself;
I did a lot this morning, was out in the sun longer than I should be
and now my body is spent it is telling me that if I don't go lay
down and take that nap I may fall down or go to sleep here on my
keyboard and that would not be comfortable at all for my neck
and back..LOL!
So I say if you are tired and sleepy and if you fall asleep
somewhere so what??
{{hugs to you}}
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Rude? No, you weren't rude, you were tired! If anyone was rude in this situation, it was your roomie! She had to have known how tired you were, even if you'd said nothing it would show on your face. Yet, despite your tiredness, you gave her a ride, had lunch, etc. She was rude for not asking amongst her relatives for a ride home from some one there. Surely with a houseful somebody would have been able to do that? You could have gone home to bed.
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Hi,
Rude? absolutely not. Your friend is extremely fortunate to have a friend like yourself, who was sleep deprived and still was willing to driving, which is dangereous,her to her family. She should have offered you a quiet place to sleep, with her parents permission, of course. True friends never have to say they are sorry for things like this. Your friendship will survive this, in my opinion, this trival matter. You didn't say whether your friend and her family thought that you were rude, if they didn't, then you just stop worrying about it. You were a good friend whose body needed to rest:-)