She is very irritating!

Poor woman, she does not know how to act as a human being. Teach her a lesson by doing what she has done to create an upset on her office mates by hatching stories to make her realize that it hurts if stories told are fictitious. Maybe she lacks attention that is why she loves to make up stories to satisfy her inadequacy.

hi dolce. don't judge her attitude through one angle. she may be stressed on and all the problems are enough to disclose her mental condition. so i think that she is not making, may be real, but it is hard to say staying away from that situation. its just my assumption. lol

Oh that's not a valid excuse alright. She is just a nosey, selfish person. What I suggest you do is avoid having her in any conversation at work that would cause her to tell on the boss. Don't mind her and don't talk to her. When she asks you why you do that tell her what she has done that made you not want to talk to her. Let her realize her mistakes and let her know what she is doing is wrong.

I think these ARE valid reasons for her to be behaving so strangely. The poor women is obviously terribly worried about both her father and her husbands lack of income. Maybe her husbands pay is required to look after her Dad. I don't know what you can do but I think the poor lady needs a friend and I think she seriously needs help, someone has to encourage her to talk and to see a doctor. Her behaviour is very strange and borders on neurotic...she should be under some form of treatment I think.

cool, dolce... you are not alone in this kind of situation. in our office, we also have some people who is just like her. she has always eyes on our officemates. she holds the highest rank-and-file position in the office. but she is under the local government. and because i am under the national government, i will not allow her to step over me. maybe, that's the reason she has more eyes and mouth over me. just keep cool my friend, relax. everything will get resolved.

I think this person has no friend and using those tricks to get some attention or just want to look good with your superiors.Or maybe a professional back fighter/ back stabber. [LOL]anyways, these kind of people should not be given to much attention they are not worth the time.Just explain to the bosses the real situation, it's her words against all of you.

You are right, these are just excuses for her behavior. She needs to keep her private and work life separate. Someone if not many of you need to tell her this. Just politely let her know that she needs to leave her troubles at home and they do not belong in the work place when they are causing a problem. Or she is causing a problem because of her home life.

Say that her so called 'reasons' are true, its not reason enough to have other people get into complicated situations. Its as if she doesn't want to be the only one to be troubled, she wants others to have problems as well. We once had a lower year who was a compulsive lier. She made things complicated for her classmates as well as for their teacher. Ever since they have recognized her way and attitude, no one has really taken her word seriously unless it really is a serious matter and has been verified with another more creditable source.

She does have reasons for being stress but you are right...it is no excuse to be causing trouble. We all have some amount of stress in our lives. I think you should all ask the boss to set up a meeting to address this problem head on. Your boss plays a part in this problem as well. He is the one who not only listens to her but reacts to her stories by calling you all in and reprimanding you. What he should do is tell her that she needs to stop being a little tattletale. There are a couple of girls where I work that just can't stand each other. One did start whining to the boss on every little thing this other girl did wrong....very minor things. He got fed up with it and told her finally that unless it was something very serious that he just did not want to hear it. He then told her that he expected us all to treat other in a respectful way , regardless.

Hi dolce_vita78, I think she wants attention and is a bit jealous as she is being left out, or just maybe she is stressed out and does need the attention, I really think someone needs to talk to your boss about it also ask her if she is ok, there is something wrong here. Tamara

do you think she is doing a bit of attention seeking. or maybe there is something to what she is saying

same here, i also have an office mate who acts as if she knows everything, she is also irritating, we all hate her.. she is a trouble-maker, but you know she is very old compare to us.. she should be the model to all young ones but instead she makes problem in our office..!!

That is very bad. I don't like such people. Luckily we don't have any one with us in our office. One needs to stay away from such people.

I agree with you, I don't think that having personal issues at home should be the cause of her making everyone's life miserable. Everyone has issues, but not everyone would take out on someone else or co-workers. She should be able to deal with it in another way. But from what you're saying, I think she's just making excuses. She sounds more of a drama queen, the type that just wants to cause trouble for no reason.

Just dont mind her. When whe begin to talk stand up and dont mind her. By the way have you talked with her on her attitude or report her to your guidance councellor.

There are instances whe we get to work with people who really crave drama and attention and would do anything (even if it irritates those around he!) just to get noticed. I agree with you, these aren't valid reasons to mess up with other people. If I were you I would just ignore her. If she really just wants attention, and sees nothing she does moves you, then she would probably lay off the drama and the story flexing. Good luck!

Gosh, I have had a colleague like this. These are the worst kind of people to work with. They act like they are real nice and then go around making up these nasty stories about people.They cause nothing but trouble everywhere they go. Ya right! Her sick father and her husband not earning enough are the reasons she talks like this.She must think everyone else in the office is crazy to believe that story.LOL. I can only say one thing to you.Been there done that.lol.. Please try to stay as calm as possible.Its no use wasting time and energy getting irritated coz of people like these.They won't change easily.

The main reason for this is psychological. the abnormal behavior at work place, school, and other public places is to get others attention. i think she needs a medical help, a counseling or therapy could help. they would analyze her history, and give proper treatment. im not an expert, but i have seen a lot of people that has this kind of problem, and the doctor told me that they are not doing it on purpose, meaning, the chemicals in the brain is the main cause. (sorry i do not know to explain in technical or medical terms). basically this kind of people have inferiority complex, so they cant stand if their friends come up in life.. for so many years they would have suppressed this jealousy inside them, and at some point in life, they start to behave like this, to get others attention. only medical help can change your co- worker. good luck

Right, she is really irritating and she might get some mental problems ! You are unlucky to have her in your office . But why she is doing so ? Is it the pressure she is facing as she mentioned ? Maybe you have to take more time to get to know her and find out the truth .

Dolce, its just that she feels inferior to you all. Maybe she doesnt have the brains or body to get and keep the job. She is plain jealous. Ignore her completely and simply keep shut when she is around. Totally boycott her. She might get the clue and mend her ways. Anyway you dont require to speak with such a person. :)