Awwwww.....
By p1kef1sh
@p1kef1sh (45681)
August 12, 2009 8:04am CST
Walking through town earlier I saw a mother pushing a stroller containing a little boy. Dad (presumably) was walking alongside playing a game with him. The father would say something and the giggling child would say it back to him. I smiled remembering when I did exactly the same thing with mine. As I got closer I could have sworn that I heard the boy say "F*** You", Dad laughed and said the same thing back to the boy!!! I realised that this was the game. The were both saying those words to each other and laughing about it. I wonder what kind of standards are being instilled in the little boy. I'm getting old aren't I?
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
12 Aug 09
You are not getting old. I think that there should be things that aren't said to young children. That would be one of them. I do not like to see my children swear at all but I have an almost 14 year old daughter that I know uses bad language but I told her that she should never use them in front of me. When she asked why, I said because I feel it is disrespectful to use them in your mother's presence. Though I am a pretty liberal person I think that there is a level of respect that people should follow. Sure I have used those words myself but definitely not with my parents.
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@polo_princess (803)
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13 Aug 09
I totally agree with the points that youve made, i dont think its respectful at all for children to use bad language in front of their elders
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hi P1kef1sh...INteresting game - what ever happened to cat, dog, boy, girl...I guess I'm doing this parenting thing all wrong! Thanks for setting me straight!
@deejean06 (1952)
• United States
18 Aug 09
It's extremely disconcerting that this is the new age of parenting. I can't wait for the Baby Einstein on this one!
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 Aug 09
You are not getting old. I do not know what the heck the world is coming to these days. How in the world can the father think that is funny to teach his son to say those kinds of words? No wander children act the way they do these days.
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@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
21 Aug 09
No, I don't think you're getting old. I remember when my kids were little and I would hear people try to get their child to say "truck" over and over again because it sounded like "F***" They didn't try to teach the child the right way to say it because they thought it was funny. My kids were never allowed to say words incorrectly without an attempt to correct it. And I certainly don't find it humorous to teach a young child that kind of language.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I must be getting old too. My initial thought is, how sad to have parents teaching their children that cursing is funny. Then I think back to the last time I was waiting at the high school to pick up my daughter. You should hear the language that these kids use at each other! They seem to be desensitized to violent anguage as well as actions. Just listen to the music that they like.
LOL..now I do feel old, because I'm starting to sound like my grandparents and folks did when discussing my generation. Still, I see a big difference between the music of the Beatles or Rolling Stones and the 'music' of the popular rap bands.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I've heard that there is a cycle to generational (is that a word??) attitudes. The behavior of some generations have sparked the opposite in later generations. Perhaps that will happen here, and this behavior is just part of the cycle. Who knows? Their kids may all be prudes someday.
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I would be washing both of their mouths out with soap.... oops...does this mean I'm getting out too?
My 13 year old is given certain liberties when it comes to verbally expressing herself in the confines of this house. With the understanding that if I ever hear her direct something derogatory to me (about me) she won't have time to blink before I smack the taste out of her mouth.
However if I were to witness an adult teaching a child that is was okay and funny to say such things I wouldn't be able to pass by without interjecting. I just couldn't.
Just the other night we all went out to eat and there was a man and woman in their mid to late 20's sitting in the booth behind us. I wasn't listening to their conversation but out of nowhere I heard the woman say "That's okay honey, I'll just live my life precariously through you." My husband literally had to clamp his hand over my mouth to keep me from saying something.
So if using the wrong adjective sets me off, just imagine what this man would have been in for.
@littleowl (7157)
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13 Aug 09
Hi p1ke, you are definitley NOT getting old! It is horrendous the amount of times I hear mum's or dad's swearing at their child or the child swearing..even my grandson has picked up a word or two from school thankfully my daughter has put him right and told him not to say it, he even corrects me now if I say the word 'stupid' which is harmless! Personally I do think it is the way the parents are when bringing up their children and how the parents may just talk to each other that the child will pick these horrible and unnessary words, cchildren shouldn't be allowed to hear all these swear words...hugs LoLo
@littleowl (7157)
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13 Aug 09
It is absolutely abominable to encourage any kind of language like that. It should not for one be encouraged however the child picks it up, it CAN be stopped without severe discipline...but it is also down to the parents...xxx
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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12 Aug 09
Hi p1key,
I'm sorry to say that is the way of the world today, as young people these days don't have much standards, their first language is a swear word anyway, which is really sad for little children like that. I rembember when I was fourteen, I was having a fight with my bfrother when I swore at him, next minute I felt a slap across my mouth, it was my mother's back hander, and from that day I would not swear, well not in front of my mother, I'm no angel but someting really have to rile me to swear. Hugs.
Tamara
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@MomSellingAvon (7)
• United States
14 Aug 09
My question is: are you sure that is what they said? There are somethings my daughter tries to say not that sounds like that word, and I repeat what she said back to her to try to figure out what she is saying. Though I very do much agree with you. There are somethings (and words) that they do not need to learn at a young age. There does come an age when you need to responsibly teach them these words to a degree so you can also teach them why they are not decent words, and why they are disrespectful. This is just my thoughts. I could be completely wrong, but just trying to figure it out.
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@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I know I am old but I think it is disgusting and wrong to be teaching a little boy to curse. I wonder how the parents could be doing this in public and why they think it is funny to hear their little boy say curse words. It makes you wonder about the way some children are being brought up these days.
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@doglady112 (604)
• Canada
13 Aug 09
No, I think that's sick for parents to teach their kids words like that. That little boy should be learning so many other things about life not swearing.
@jimntam (93)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I've seen parents do this before. It appalls me everytime. They think it's so cute to hear such adult language coming out of a baby's mouth. I agree that it only teaches disrespect. That baby will go to school someday and the parents will have to explain why their child just cussed out the teacher. When my daughter was little, (just learning to talk) my teenage sister-in-law got her to say things like "what ever" "as if" and "talk to the hand." That was way better than "F*** you."
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@dorypanda (1601)
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12 Aug 09
If you're getting old, then I must be too! I would have been appalled at hearing that. I don't like it when anyone swears, so to encourage a child to do so is totally disgusting in my opinion, however I do kind of have double standards as my first word apparently was, 'bugger', taught to me by my Great-Grandma. However I certainly wouldn't teach a child to use any nasty swear words. I've heard my son swear once, I told him that he was only allowed to use swear words that I use, which of course aren't many.
@dorypanda (1601)
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12 Aug 09
That's very true. I hope the child realises that swearing isn't the best thing to do. My Mum kept telling us that those who swore didn't have very good vocabularies, I still think that's correct.
I overheard a, well, I'll say a conversation, the other day, it went like this:
Teen1: F the F and then I F the F it's F and F............(it went on like that for some time)
Teen2: Errrm, yeah
Teen1: So F them then
Teen2: Errrm, yeah
Teen1: If you don't give a F then I don't F that S neivar (I think he was trying to say neither)
Teen 2: Right, yeah.............bye
I don't think Teen2 had a clue what Teen1 was on about, I sort of felt sorry for the sweary one, I don't think he's going to win any orating contests.
(obviously neither of the Teens were my Teenpanda).
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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12 Aug 09
I know that there's no way that either you or your sister would swear at your children and weren't brought up that way yourselves. But I do have to wonder about some folk. This boy will grow up thinking that swearing is cool and clever. His standards will be contradicted from day one when he gets to school. What chance does he have?
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@nannacroc (4049)
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12 Aug 09
So am I, Mr P1ke. Even though my children are grown up, they still know better than to use that sort of language in front of me. I don't think they use it anyway, there are enough words in the English language to be able to avoid them.
So many people seem to have no standards to pass on to their children.
@pumpkinjam (8770)
• United Kingdom
13 Aug 09
I'd like to think that your ears deceived you and the boy said something else but I have known a lot of people teach their children to swear because they think it's funny. You are old but I'm not and I don't think it's acceptable to teach children such profanities.
@pumpkinjam (8770)
• United Kingdom
14 Aug 09
Although I did find it funny when my little one told some goats to "bugger off" because they were following us after being fed!
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
13 Aug 09
It's not that you're getting old, p1kef1sh, it's just a further sign of the deterioration or slackening of morals in society these days. For some time now I've associated the rude behavior and disrespect from many young people could be traced directly to their upbringing. I really sympathize with some of the children who are growing up in today's world because they are not being brought up properly regarding what is acceptable and what is not. So, I guess you could say that the apple truly does not fall far from the tree.
@MomSellingAvon (7)
• United States
14 Aug 09
What's sad is that these kids that are being brought up in these types of homes have no clue that what they are saying, or in some cases, doing, is even wrong. And sometimes it's that kids in these home who end up growing up to become criminals. You have to wonder that if they were swearing (not saying they weren't but it can be hard to tell with a young child sometimes), what else are they learning in the home that is deteriorating behavior?
@greeneyedlady (1439)
• Netherlands
14 Aug 09
Oh P1key, I don't think you are getting old...I just think you are smart for thinking about this situation and IF More people thought about it, then they would see where the future is headed and the mistakes that they have made in their lives with raising Their heathens that would teach Their grand-children such things, which is in the garbage can! I am just grateful that I will not be around to see it.
If you want to talk about old...I am so old that they are running out of numbers to tell me how old I am...I think they are going to have to start inventing new numbers.
As far as what you heard with this "father"/son...Please don't get me started on that one as it would not be Pretty! In fact, If I had seen this so called "man", (whoever thinks this is a "man" needs help also), I just May have used F*** word a few times myself in my lecture to him...After slapped the s*** out of him to get his attention!!!
Hope your day is OK P1key!!