Is it too easy to get a divorce nowadays?

I have always thought it should be easier...people get divorced because they are not happy within it, I feel being happy in life is the most important thing..life is so short why waste it in an unhappy situation...

Hey anime~ I really don't know what to say about this. I don't know if people are taking marriage less seriously or not. But, I do know that if two people don't belong together they shouldn't be together because it really ends up hurting the children (if there are any). My parents stayed together, although they kept separating and they shouldn't have. But, when I was younger, since it was so long ago divorce just wasn't easily accepted or easily gotten like it is today and both me and my brother (who is deceased at 32) suffered seriously emotionally! It would have been better if my parents were never together! So it really is hard to say what's right or wrong! Unfortunately when you do marry you are hoping that it will be forever, but these days forever is a difficult promise to keep!

I do get the point of some people who'd say "Life is too short to waste it with something that isn't really making you happy anymore" but I guess it actually depends on our preferences. We can't change other people's minds when it comes to opinions, but I myself don't think changing partners because 'they no longer entertain us, or make us happy' is a valid reason. I mean, I think if most people were into marriage like how we carefully choose the standard of education for our kids, the type of car we'd save for, and the kind of home we'd like to have, then I think no amount or ease of divorce would ever change the way we live. Now-a-days everything is just instant. We can no longer wait for our coffee to brew, or our food to be cooked that's why we go for fastfood. We are always in a hurry and running as if something is running after us. Man has made his life faster but not really more meaningful. This includes marriage, we easily fall in love with someone, succumb to the fact that perhaps this is 'the one' and jump into marriage, then you realize he's not at all what we expect him to be, and after just a few years or so, we give up. I don't know if you guys could remember, but isn't the best food (usually cooked by our great grandmothers and grandparents or even parents) usually the ones that takes hours to cook? not to mention the passion and love the family puts in it? We long for that passion, but we want it fast! But on the other hand, I don't think that couples marry each other thinking that there's divorce in case everything would turn out sour. I don't think divorce is something we want to experience ourselves. But because of our quick decisions (usually out of emotions) we end up being unhappy and we then look at divorce as a way out. Remember an ounce of prevention will always be better than a pound of cure. Good luck to us all!

Here in the Philippines they are very strict to that. We don't have a divorce here what we have here is annulment that it is very difficult to be granted. We believe that family is the fundation of the society and the church also involved with this process. They are against of divorce because marriage is not a joke and lifetime commitment so they telling the future couple to think twice before to get married so they would not regret it after. I know that in some countries it is very easily to filed a divorce and the process is not that long to be granted.

Well there's a difference between a church and an administrative divorce. When you say lifetime commitment in a way you make it seem in a bad way. Marriage nowadays is nothing but a piece of paper i think that is also good, because it allows you to focus on the bond between you and your partner, soul mate (whatever you wanna call it). Here you can easily see 2 people living together and starting a family unmarried because the know they love each other no matter what. It all depends on your personal point of view( not to mention your religion, but that is another topic).

It is way to easy for people to get divorced, but this is not the problem. The problem is it's to easy to get married. So many people jump into a marriage and they don't understand what marriage is about. It should be a life long commitment and you shouldn't commit to someone just because of what they appear to be or how good looking they are. You should really investigate each other and find out what & who each person really is deep down.

Many couples have gotten divorced because their paradigm about marriage. I think that marriage is a sacred think (sacrament). Some people think that marriage is a simple thing. They was easily bothered by many options in life. Their commitment and belief for marriage is not strong.

THe state that I live don't make it too easy for divorce unless it's no-fault divorce which is mean both part agree to sign the divorce paper. If it's only one part they make you wait for 2 years. Personally, i take marriage as serious matter. When I said the vow, I make promise not only in front of people, but I make promise in front of God. But if marriage become a living Hell, I don't think God will let us suffer too.

Yeah it sure is, especially in hollywood, i think the only time that you should be allowed to get a divorce is, when your mate has inappropiate relations with someone elese. I'm speaking of adultry here.

It bothers me too because it seems a lot of people just give up on their marriage these days. I definitely do not think people should stay together if the relationship is abuse though. Also if someone is cheating then that is hard to forgive. Otherwise people need to grow up and try to work things out. Just don't through it away like the marriage never meant anything.

it depends from person to person ,i think it is better to get divorced from a person whom u dont like or cant live with him under one roof instead of living an unhappy life & regreting later

Getting Divorce is never easy, both mentally & legally. If both partners have no options of staying together, & if both wants a divorce, even after repeated counseling, if there is no compatibility, then getting divorce is not so far from reach. Be frank, can you expect some one to stay in pain throughout life or get an escape in hope of life giving something better someday?

I don't support divorce.I think that marriage is an art,we should make it well by heart.