Is it okay to always be in a relationship?
By sislee
@sislee (5)
United States
August 28, 2009 12:35am CST
So I have been in a serious relationship for most of my adult life. I am only 26 years old, so I still have some good years left. My friends tell me I need be single, while I actually enjoy being in a serious relationship. What do you think? What is your take on the situation? People want to know!
5 responses
@abhi_bangal (5534)
• Ahmednagar, India
28 Aug 09
Why is it but necessary to be in a relationship always? By the way we are always in a relationship. But it depends how we take it. Do we take in one by one or how. I think, I would also have given you the same advice had you asked me - of remaining single. You know, I am 29 and married. And there are a whole lot of restictions once you get married. You have to be at home on time. You have to take on most of the responsibilities etc. Moreover, you can't get involved in any flings too. If you are really concerned about your marriage. There was a time when I too liked to be in a relationship - but that we before my marriage. But then I came to know that getting invloved in a serious relationships has its potholes too. So, its better not to get involved into one. Both are good and bad in their own ways. Take your pick.
@MachaMongRuad (191)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I basically agree with Phoenix1344. There are definitely benefits to being single for a while, living on your own and proving to yourself you can be independant. There are valuable lessons you can learn about yourself in that situation, so if you tend to jump from one serious relationship right into the next then I would definitely consider taking a break from that and focusing on yourself and learning about who you are as a single person rather than as part of a relationship. But if you're in a long term relationship that you're happy with and there are no serious problems, then of course you shouldn't just dump the person because you want to experience being single. That's a little ridiculous. If you're interested in learning how you function as an independant person, you could talk to your partner about this and perhaps if you currently live together you could live separately for a while. Keep the relationship but give each other some space for a while so you can learn more about yourself.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
28 Aug 09
Hi sislee. What's your stand on this issue? As far as I'm concerned, your friends could say all they want about your relationship but the fact is that you will be the eventual decision-maker. Since you enjoy being in a serious relationship, then keep doing it. Not everyone would succeed in getting hooked to the Mr. or Mrs. Right the first time; some have to make several attempts. Although age is catching up, you could still go on. That's my point of view.
@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Okay there are two different ways I took this so I'll answer to both.
A) If you mean you have been with the same person for a very long time and you enjoy being in a serious relationship with them, then you are totally fine. Your friends are just looking out for you, but they obviously don't understand that you are happy and maybe you should really push to get that point across. And if your talking about being 26 and saying thats too young to be in a serious relationship, then I must be in trouble! I'm only 20 and I have been in a serious relationship for the last 3 1/2 years and I don't plan on getting out of it :p
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B) You mean you don't like being single and you tend to go from one serious relationship to another. In this scenario it is always good to be single for at least 2-3 months after one serious relationship ends that way you have time to reconnect with yourself before diving into another serious relationship. But in this case, its not a bad thing really. I mean, there are some people that just don't prefer dating one guy after the next, it jsut means you like things to be more consistant and dependable which is totally fine.
So overall, I wouldn't worry about it. Again, I'm 20 and I've been in a serious relationship and while I could be out dating other guys and experiencing the singly life, I would prefer not too.
I hope this helped :)