how can your forgive someone when thy are not asking for forgiveness?

It is not a matter of the other person asking for forgiveness. You can forgive from your heart. When you forgive someone, you feel a great sense of relief. It does not matter whether the other person asks for forgiveness or not. But we should not force ourselves to forgive anybody. If you cannot forgive, do not forgive. Forgiveness has to be whole-hearted. Half-hearted forgiveness is no frogiveness.

A true Christian forgives even if the person who did wrong to him does not ask for it. You can forgive but you do not normally forget about the thing that hurt you. The best thing you need to do is just forgive the person, try to forget what he did to you and be more cautious next time. If you hate someone, you aren't at ease. If you are mad or angry at someone, you will never have peace of mind.

I think the relationship will make it work if the persons who are in relationship have their respect, trust and understanding. Being accused, it is not about to let your gf open up the misleading situation,it is because of the pride. The easy way to continue the relationship, is to forgive her even she have not yet brought up to you for her wrong accusation. Only time will make a way to open up the past problem and that is the time you can now make the clarification.

Hi Helscream! Well based on my experience, if you can't forgive her then you should forget it, there's no use if no one feeling guilty, if you force to make her feeling sorry, it will makes things getting worst, though i'm not reading your previous discussion, but when there are no one feeling guilty, it's the matter of principle ... So if i'm on your shoes, i will forget it ...

I am not the kind of person that could ask forgiveness directly say it to the person personally I make amends of my mistakes by changing my attitudes toward him as he may detect soon I am in for forgiving side..If you really love a person no matter how insulting she becomes you will humbly be the one to talk to her first as some women are very shy to ask for forgiveness even it is their own fault. For me their is no need to wait when deep inside we're both eager for a reconciliation. Make it fast than to be sorry later..Love is patience and full of understanding.

This is really bad as she is not even realizing what she has done to you and her action has hurt you too, at least she could have asked for forgiveness. Well I will forgive a person who at least realizes what he/she has done and ask for forgiveness but someone who is not realizing his/her mistake is really immature for me.

I am not a Christian soley because I can't just love my enemis or just forgive someone.I wouldn't forgive someone who really hurt me unles I found and executed the proper revenge. If she doesn't even know that she hurt you, how can she fel bad enough o want to ask for forgivness? You Have to tell her what she did And then if she doesn't stop, it is time to fine someone who is senstive to your feelings.

Some people are so INSENSITIVE!They think they are so right well in fact they are so wrong.At times these insensitive people have the guts to make us look cruel. As for me,I will not waste my time in forgiving her and waiting for her to admit her fault.If you know the truth then let her wallow in self-pity that you did something with someone.I'm pretty sure that what she learned did not hurt her,it's her PRIDE and EGO that got hurt so much.(Sorry for the nth time)

hi there, well in that case, don't forgive her.. and yes you are right, why forgive her when she never say sorry for it, that she did not mean it.. i know this is not right, it's not a good advice but in my case, i will not forgive that kind of person.. she needs to be feel sorry or to know that she is wrong.. we know that sorry is the most hardest word to say, but it depends on the situation.. it really depends.. janebeth..

Forgiveness is different than forgetting. I know they go hand in hand. Even if you do not forget for awhile it is not right to bring up and slam in face if you are willing to stay with her. It is much harder to forget than forgive. If you stay with her you are actually letting her know you have forgiven her. Now on to forgiveness. If you do not forgive it will eat you up inside. Trust me, been there. IF this continues to be a problem with you, if you haven't already you need to talk to her about your feelings. I do not think it is so much forgiveness as just being plain hurt by the accusations.

Hi HelScream, well - she will ask for forgiveness if she realizes she's done something wrong! The operative word being "realizes". This differs from individual to individual, it has both intellect as well as emotional aspects to it. At times the realization dawns in a jiffy, and at times it may take more time. Some people, however, tend to get egotistic about their stand - which is not a good thing when it comes to emotional relationships. :( If this last thing is what is happening, u r better off with her out of ur life, than trying to get her back, because tomorrow there will more such situations in ur life. As to ur feeling of forgiveness, what my esteemed friends out here possibly meant was - dont develop hard feelings for her - dont hate her for it - that is within ur control - for that u dont need anything from her end. Hatred is an obsessive emotion. It could take up ur whole day, and ur whole life. So dont let that encroach upon ur sanity. Forgiveness is just a simple word to say that I suppose. U have my prayers. I hope everything turns out fine.

May I ask a question of you? Do you want to forgive her and get beyond this incident? It seems to me that you do..Or am I reading something into it that isn't there (I been known to do that)? It seems to me that you are looking for a single solution for what is actually two problems. One is the accusation, which could be construed as what she thinks of you and the second is your wanting to forgive, which could be construed as what you think of her. Were it me in such a situation I could forgive the person for the accusation but not for that part of her personality/makeup that would lead her to make such an accusation and leave the relationship behind. I hope I answered well enough for you.. ENJOY!

well ideally you should tell her how you feel about the situation, cause thats what relationship si all about. Being open to each others feelings. But what i did when that happened to me, I just gave a silent treatment, so she confronted me and I told her everything. But the question whether to forgive her or not well thats upto you

Boy thats a tough one!!! Forgiveness is really hard to give specially if the person who did us wrong doesnt and never admit his/her mistake... But i know deep in my heart that I will still find a reason to forgive him for old times sake. Time heals and its really a good feeling that you dont have anger and hatred in your heart or mind. There will be limitations in dealing with that person unless she realizes her faults. Even if she dont say it directly that she is sorry as long as I feel it in her actions... thats enough(if she is a type of person that is shy to say "sorry"). I will treat the person civil. To bring back the closeness? She has to earn it :)

Some of us just can't stay upset at certain people for too long, so I guess that's the reason as to why this happens. And I'm one of those persons and sometimes feel like an idiot for being mercyful at people that don't try to redeem themselves even..

Don't confuse your attitude towards her behaviour with hers: when you forgive, you change your attitude, give up resentment and accept the person (but not their actions). It has nothing to do with them... they need not know or care oir even consider that they need forgiveness; they may not accept that you have the right to judge them (which you must to be able to forgive); they may believe that you are wrong in the way you see the situation, but so what: forgiveness is what you experience not what you offer another person.

Hi HelScream. I see forgiveness, when "given" by myself to another as a gift, an action on my part that requires nothing from them. That is rather the nature of forgiveness. We offer it, and it requires nothing from the other person, just as it is with other gifts. And when we forgive, it relieves our mind of torture, anger, and resentment, and brings peace to us. Karen

Forgiveness is releasing someone of their due penalty. It is not required that they realize they have a due penalty. Say a person parks in a no-parking zone. The police officer may realize that this person will only be there a second, and not write a ticket. The officer has "forgiven" the person. Yet the person in question may not have even realized it was a no-parking zone, and may think he did nothing wrong. The officer forgave him the mistake, even if the person didn't realize he was making a mistake. You can forgive your girl friend even though she does not realize her mistake, or that she needs to be forgiven. Forgiveness is about you. Not her. You determine if you are going to forgive or not, regardless of what she does.

Hello when she insulted u and does not eve bother to ask forgiveness , I feel there is nothing to think about it hjust ignore the person and if u try to behave like her then what is the difference between u and her , so i feel that u should forget everything ignore her and carry on with ur life one day she may realize her mistake o.k take care dont cry over a spilt milk.

ya. i had forgive my last gf, she was more care and loving me a lot. after some fight, without any message she leave from me. once main thing is she got good carrer, thats the main reason, she leave me alone. by the god grace i am also in good position. but at first i was more angry about her. but now i forgive her. because some mistake with me also. this are happen in every body life. fine thanks