arguments.

Hello calai. It's the first time i have seen you here. Why don't you upload an avatar that will best fit you? In that way, i will see you and even remember you easily. I have understood your point. That's very true! You have explained my discussion very well and i am happy that you are not rating some people - even though they oppose to your opinion. It's all about disrespect i guess. And people who are disrespectful deserves to have a - rating.

I can't argue with that as it is your choice

how about your point of view then? Do you accept them?

I want to accept trolls. How's that for an argument?

I have found quite a number of firm friends here - ones I would dearly love to meet, but oceans separate us. I am sure you will do the same.

It would be a pleasure to meet friends here. But it is kind of impossible to meet them in person. I guess having friendship online is possible and staying here and keeping up with them is the least we could do.

Hello cloudwatcher. First of all, let me welcome you once again for logging on to your account and decided to take a minute by responding to my discussion. I am glad that you have responded here and shared your views. I have had a respectful argument and i think it's possible if both parties are mature. Though we can't really choose the people whom we can converse to. There will be jerks, there will be persons who will act the other way around. So we don't have any option. But like what you have said, we can always get out of that discussion and start or respond to another discussion. Lastly, I am very happy that you have become friends with that person and you have a firm relationship. Now it makes me want to strive more and look for a nice strong friendship here. Thank you very much!

I think some people did not like the way he wrote his comments... so he got a lot of negative ratings... i also wish he would come back... it was quite fun arguing with him...

Hello aseret. Oh dear, is he gone? I have also had my healthy arguments with him on his last post about the ships of the Philippines. Naturally, it came out that we have different view on the topic. So there, we argued a lot but what makes me proud of this guy is that he does not lose his cool. After some of the arguments, i added him as one of my friends and i am glad he accepted it. I just hope he will come back.. as he is the king of healthy arguments.

I really hope he would. He has lots of wisdom in his words.

hi dear . . . well it is nice to see you are staying here... well to be honest with you i actually care about my reputation, but that doesn't mean i don't give my honest opinions, i mean i only respond to select discussions and fill in everything i have to say... i also disagree at times but do it in lyt manner just avoiding having to get into a brawl, what ever happens i am not the one who starts the brawl coz i don't like to.. well i know it might sound like i am actually too much self consious about my reputation but well i at least give a say to things i want to and only disagree at places where i think it was necessary to say that the person is thinking wrong... well koalapenguin.. hope you have a nice stay here at mylot... keep up the good work my friend and i am sure you are going to enjoy ... have a nice day!

It's not bad to take care of your reputation at all voldrox. At least you still have been giving honest opinions to others and that is what's important. I don't want to start quarreling someone too as it seems so rude. So i am also avoiding those kind of discussions *the one you are talking about*. I think i am going to stay here for a long long time! It's all because of you guys!Thank you very much and keep posting.

Hello voldrox. I have stayed here because of you guys! Thank you so much for convincing me to stay. Now my next goal would be achieving my second payout. I get the answer for my question now. Arguments could either make or break our relationship here. If opinions are understood, then we could create a good healthy argument. But if someone, doesn't know how to do that, then it might create violence. RESPECT and BEING RESPECTED are the things we need to have to grow and learn. I am afraid you have a hard time to barge into an argument. Are you afraid that your reputation might get decreased? Well i hope you could understand that the site is not all about reputation. Like what mysd have said, reputation is just a tag. Its all about fun and funds!

Hello xzess. I am not sure about your proposal. You could clear it to me once more. I get the answer for this and it's not about creating an argument. But it's more of RESPECT and BEING RESPECTED. If these two thing are being exercised, then definitely, opinions will be accepted and openly discussed without getting mad, no yelling or reports.

I get it now Xzcess thanks for clearing that out.

I did not exactly had a proposal, per se. I was just commenting upon things as i observed them. From where I see, it is quite evident many people get 'angry' or 'upset' over a simple difference in opinion or difference in a point of view, and in this 'angry state' they are more likely than otherwise to hit the -/! buttons on a response. Which is somehow making people to not respond in the genuine way that we rather have them to express themselves in because of the fear of either getting reported or a negative rating, making people to say things that others want to hear rather than being true and/or creative. (erm, let me know if I am to explain it again. I tend to over analyze things.) So yes, I do agree with you, it is about respect after all. Respecting differences is maybe something we are yet to learn.

Hello Kaol! I agree with you that sometimes, arguments help us learn new things. However, I feel that we should enter into healthy arguments, instead of arguing for the sake of it. I disagree with you that you are not nice. You are indeed nice and wonderful and you are very friendly with your friends, however, you love fun and love to tease them..........LOL!

Hello dpk. Thanks for the compliment. I am not that nice you know. Sometimes arguments help us learn something new so i am very happy if i entered one. I notice that a lot of members don't have the courage to disagree in one topic cause their reputation might get decreased. But i am not afraid of that anymore and i hope you are too.

Yikes! I don't understand the rating system, but how could you lose points for expressing your opinion? Just because we differ in our opinions doesn't mean that we are fighting or being rude, or anything like that. Isn't that the point of a discussion forum - to express your point of view and allow others to express theirs? I don't have to be right to be happy, but I have to be able to say my piece, at least. Imagine how boring life would be without access to different point of views and discussion?

@mrakobesie: I have felt that too after my discussion got deleted last time. The first time i joined here, i was worried that my reputation would go down or i was afraid to really be myself cause of the danger i could get when i displease someone here. But now, i think i am much more mature, and i would handle the situation a lot more clever than i used to. Back then, it made me want to quit the site but then some friends made me think the other way around. Thus i decided to stay and make more discussions. @malamar: We can freely express ourselves here BUT with a limit. Yes it's unfair, because we have to please everybody. Though it's impossible, it's up to you what act are you going to make. You can be passive or you can be active. Passive in a way that you will agree to everyone's opinion or active, wherein you will fight for your rights and stand up for it. But you have to be prepared for the consequences. I have said that it's impossible to please anyone and we cannot control their decision. So we could be rated as -/!/+. It's all up to the others. And that's where friends will enter and do their job. To stay and believe in everything you do.

Hi hatley! Yes i have understood. And i think i know the answer and lesson for this discussion. It's all about RESPECT and being RESPECTED. If this thing is done, then there would be no arguments at all. I really learned with my post. Mylot is very effective to me.

The problem is that there are people who WANT to be right and believe that everyone MUST agree with them. Those who oppose will be labelled "bad" and would be given a negative comment or feedback or affected in some other negative ways. In a discussion, everyone has to make an argument with supporting details to support what they have argued; then others would exchange their own points of views without any prejudice. It's not happening in some discussions. I guess, we can't change these people.

Dear kev, It is so true..we can't change people. I do experience a rough week here at myLot. So, I decided to stay away from argument topics. Let those who are skilled and have the knowledge to win the battle... Cheers and have a great weekend!

@ Iriene: I get your point. But as what have kev said, we cannot change those people. So it's kind of a challenge to not rate any opposing member as -/! them. So my point is, is this buttons necessary? If we could freely express ourselves, then there should not be any of these tabs. @kevchua: Hello kev! Nice statement. That's the thing i wanted to say. You have explained it very well. Now it made me think that there would be no -/!/+ tabs anymore. But it will be very impossible. Cause the reputation will all be ruined. So i guess i will keep this thought to myself. Thanks for sharing your clever views. I always find your responses very smart and straight to the point. You should try to become a writer or an editor. :D

So you got discouraged by your past experience then? I hope you won't and start to be active with arguments again! Even if it would cost our reputation. Besides, it's not all about the reputation but the joy you gain and lessons you learn from your friends. I am very pleased i stayed. Because i learned a new lesson again.

fighting in mylot with other user i realized it's not worth my cent

Maybe it's part of your "new leaf" character. I will respect your idea.

Well i think that's a different story gracefuldove. That would be all about marriage and the problems they have been going through. If the guy kept himself quiet, then the yelling and nagging won't stop. If things will be fixed through open communication, then i think there will be a huge chance that the case will get resolved.