Can you still trust someone who lied to you?

Someone lieing to me it's like throughing a knife to my heart. I would hate for someone to lie to me. Especially if you loved the person, I mean all that you gone through with this one person and find out they lie. Knowing them for a long time, going through the good, the bad, and the hard. I defently would hate them, and be broken.

This is a good discussion. I won't believe a person once I find out that the person has lied to me. I can understand that a person lies if he doesn't want to reveal something. But, I don't understand why people just lie for fun. I can't take it. I think it is a mental problem and it needs to be discussed with the doctor and fixed.

No you can never really trust them ever again. Especially not if they lie more than once. Even worse if they lie after promising they will never lie again. Trust is a fragile thing. Once it is breached it is almost impossible to regain it. In fact if the person is really important to you then it can be hard to trust anyone ever again. That happened to me and I found it very hard to trust again but I never forgave the person who lied.

Trust is very important in every relationship. If a person whom I trusted suddenly lied to me, it's going to be hard to trust him or her again. I think I would even decide to stay away from that person because he or she has hurt me and might do it again in the future.

It is hard for me too to continue to trust someone as before especially when he has lied to me. However I am conscious that human beings are not perfect so we can lie. But if that lie has hurt me a lot then it is very difficult to trust the person again.

hi care, yes trust is very important, and once it will be destroyed you could no longer trust him back.. specially on a relationship, we all know that boys do cheat so whenever they were caught by their partners of course it ended up to war and misunderstandings.. and we can't stop it, so in my case, i will not trust that person again. yes everybody deserves a second chance, ok i will accept it but if he will do it again, i will never accept him back and i will tell to him his wrong doings so he will be aware on it again.. janebeth.

If someone breaks a trust within a relationship then it takes a whole lot of work for that person to regain the trust. And if they were able to lie in the first place you would automatically think that they did not truly care. It would take an awful lot to build the trust again and the offended party would need to be very forgiving. People do make mistakes however so if there is love there must be forgiveness, If the lying continues then the relationship is basically non-existent.

I hate a liar & if they have lied to u once they will again. I had rather they slap my face than lie to me at least u could slap them back. When they lie to u there is nothing u can do but leave them the heck alone & that's what i do. Don't have time for people like that in my life.

Hey careguarden! There is one thing that I just will not stand for in a friendship or relationship and that is lying! I have broken off many friendships because I found out that a particular friend had lied to me! I gave them a chance to change after confronting them and if they did it again that was it! I had a close friend who just couldn't keep from lying so I gave up on her! Unfortunately, she is also my next door neighbor which makes things a bit uncomfortable! We now just ignore each other! I warned her, confronted her, but she just kept on lying and that is something that I won't accept in anyone! If you can't trust someone then there can't be a relationship of any kind!

I think there is always a little doubt in my mind if the person lied on me. Even do I forgive that person, doing such event from me. Still not avoid to think she is lying again...? Trust is hard to get it back once happen. But if the person show sincerity trust will be instill again for the sake of love... If the face of the person is shown disguise I think it's still doubt coming into my way. It's painful to be lied most especially that is your partner,boyfriend,girlfriend...never mind about friends because is not much damaging... Have a nice day!

It depends what the lie is. If a lie relly hurt me, I think I can't trust the person who lies anymore. If someone lies just for a joke, then I think it is acceptable. Actually, everyone lies, and in many situations, lying is necessary. I have been watch a TV series call 'Lie to me' which is very fascinating. I believe you will like it too.

it depends. cause i think if only once, maybe he/she have some reasons. can give him/her chance to change or realize it. but if several times, maybe will be careful with him/her. if serious, neednt care for his/her words.

Hi careguarden! Yes, I also value trust, A LOT. I have been betrayed so many times by different people, worse, my friends. That's because I always believe in second chances. However, I also have limits in trusting a person. When a person breaks my trust once, I can give him/her another chance to prove that he/she is worth my trust. But if that person is not worth at all, (i.e. he betrays/lies to me over and over again), then with no question, I wouldn't trust that person anymore. I will forgive that person however, I just wouldn't trust him :)

I do agree that it is hard to gain trust and like you, I do value trust a lot. But for me, I try to understand the instances first before losing the trust that I have for the person. I try to weigh our relationship and the damage done before anything else. It is hard to judge the circumstances right away most especially if you are carried away by emotions. But I think I will have to listen to whatever my heart tells me, that is, if I will still trust that person or not.

I can't. I know the old adage is that time heals all wounds, but people only get one shot with me to be trusted completely, and after the trust is gone I keep them at arm's length.

to me it's like the first shame on you, second time shame on me third time nope trust is all gone

If the person I trusted cheated me I would not trust him or her any more. I don’t want to be hurt twice. Sometimes it’s not easy to find who cheat you, so better to keep careful in your mind and let others have chance to take your advantage. Some people would say give your friend a second chance. However I don’t think the nature would change so I would keep a distance from the friend. many stories happened around me would support my opinion.

If it's the first time and the person matters to me so much, I could give him/her another chance to redeem himself/herself. Yes it's hard to trust again but if there is a good reason to, maybe to save a marriage or a relationship/friendship, it could be worth another try. But if it appears to be habitual, then I'd rather let go.

I do agree with you. It takes alot of time to build trust but in one wink of an eye, one big lie, one big mistake that trust will be gone. Yes it is possible to say that we still love the person, we care about him but we dont trust him anymore. Once trust is broken, it will be very hard to bring it back. There will always have a doubt in our minds, no matter how we much tried. Especially if you have given that person a chance and he did broke again his word. Unfaithfulness is the root of broken relationship.

Not sure about this one. Once they lie..its easy to lie again and it shows their character.