Do you really know all your friends?
By marctiu
@marctiu (829)
Philippines
September 26, 2009 5:51am CST
I have a facebook account and I only know 200 of the friends I have there. All the rest was just invited by me to be friends with, and I don't even know them or actually met them in person.
Do you actually know all your friends in facebook or you just add them up or they add you up?
Have a nice day.
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40 responses
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
27 Sep 09
hello there!
just like you...i also don't know most of my facebook friends! huh! i have about 200 friends there...and only 15 are the friends that i know personally huh!
i just have all those long list of friends due to the applications that i am using there that needs some members like the mafia wars & yo ville...haha
but anyway, i am fine with that coz they are helping me in a way in my works there in facebook! haha
have a nice day!
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@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
wow. I am shock. Only 15 friends. Well, I can tell that application in facebook can really bring up the number of friends. It's a social site so I can't help to add up some new friends. The more the merrier, I guess. Have a nice day. Thanks for responding.
@hinakashif (55)
• Pakistan
27 Sep 09
rite...that's what I was thinking...200 friendz? More than enough.. I have total 4 friends :)
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@ShirleyBillingsley (1544)
• United States
27 Sep 09
No, i only know a few real people on facebook. I have a lot of followers, and a lot of the ones that i follow, but most of them are writers.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 09
Wow, so you have many writer friend? How you could found many writer friend? Are you, yourself is a writer, or at least like to write? Well, i really do want to have a writer friend so i could ask them to teach me how to write so i can make a better article in my blog.
Thanks
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@ShirleyBillingsley (1544)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Writers tend to flock to the same area, or follow each other, generally speaking. So if you list yourself as a writer, then you are naturally going to have more writers following you. If you would like some help getting started on writing, i would be more than happy to help out.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I know everyone that I have on my friends list on facebook and myspace. there is one girl on facebook who I don't really know. we played a game on there together so she added me so that if we wanted to play again we could. Other than that, I know everyone on facebook. On my myspace I know everyone, no exceptions. I wanted to be able to post pictures of my family so that relatives could see how they have grown. But I didn't want strangers looking at my kids. So i only add people I know, and all my pictures are set to private so that only friends can view them.
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Wow nice, and you also active in myspace too. You know i really interest in my space and twiter but because there is not much of my friend using those two sites, i never use it too. Can you tell me what so good about myspace, and what is its different from facebook. Thanks you.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Do you know that people actually can c your picture even thought they are not in your friend list. As long as you set your Album Privacy to more secure mode, you non friend can still take a peek at your picture using certain Apps in facebook. I know it because i have try it. So be very carefull with the picture you upload in facebook.
@charlies2805 (777)
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26 Sep 09
Talking about Facebook, I ONLY add those whom I know. I will never ever add someone whom I don't know about. Facebook (in my opinion) is not too secure about our personal infos. That's why I don't write something about myself, except something permanent that I can never change it (such as e-mail and gender). LOL. It's sometimes annoying for me when my conversation appears on everyone's facebook homepage.
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@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
That's really true that the security of your information in facebook is revealed to everyone, so the issue on safety is really a big deal. I believe that is kinda annoying, but it is helpful. Especially when you have a message to send in a short time. You can just post what you want to convey and everyone will be able to get the message. Thanks for the response.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Well off course if adding many person in your facebook friendllist, then you shouldnt write many private info there, or you could always use the privacy setting that facebook have. You could make a group which only consist a list of friend that you want to c their latest update, then stick to the group friend that you create. Then you will not c other update.
And by the way, posting e-mail on the social networking site is not secure enough if you have many friend that you dont know. You never know if one of them is spammer, scammer, etc whose can use your email address for bad purpose like spam you or phising your password.
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@hinakashif (55)
• Pakistan
27 Sep 09
Hey charlies, That's what I do... I don't add people whom i Don't know...
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@malamar (779)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
I keep my facebook account limited to just my family and friends. I simply have no interest in scrolling through silly updates from people I don't even know.
Some of my nieces and nephews though, have hundreds of "friends" that they don't know - mostly friends of frienda, gamer friends, and so on.
To each their own I guess, but I prefer to keep my contacts limited to people I care about and am interested in chatting with or hearing from.
@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Well, that's really a nice thought. I am having difficulty finding my friends in the friends list because of that. Especially, when I am going to scroll through my friends because I can't memorize the names of my friend. So I have to scroll One by one to search. Well that is the beauty of facebook. A real social site. Have a nice day. Happy mylotting.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Yes, facebook try and learn about the problem the use has met. After their learning it, they analize it and making a solution for them. A Group list is one of the solution. They also now make a check box when we are adding friend, that is to not receive any update from that user, even thought they are in our friendlist. Cool right???
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Well i have a tips for you if you have many friend but you only want to c your friend update only. Try to make a group of all the friendlist which his / her update you want to c, it is much easier this way. And if you want people which not in that group c your update then make the privacy setting so the group of your friend is the only people whose can c your update.
Privacy setting and group setting in facebook help a lot people like me who have more then 1000 friendlist ( which most of them is another facebook game player ).
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@gowriv89 (295)
• India
26 Sep 09
Friends are simply cheaters. They don't expose their true face to us. Many pretend to be too good, some suck our blood to be benefited and then cut off us. So it becomes hard to understand most of the times.....Most of those who i considered as friends acted as a bot to me..So i can say that i really don't know any of them fully.
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
What the.. You must be really have a very bad friend. Well a few cheater friend doesn't mean that all people are like them. You can just say other people are like them. Maybe you should try making a new friend, and review again how your friendship work until today. Friendship work bothways, maybe if you search deeper, you also may have fault in this failed friendship. Well at least, that what i think.
@gowriv89 (295)
• India
29 Sep 09
I simply told about what i have experienced since my school days....As whom all i considered FRIENDS ditched me into a ditch i very well dare to comment that friends are simply betrayers.....They are someone who lives in the others shadow according to me..So this does not mean that i am not a good friend......I know the quality of my friendship my dear friend lordcaocao..........?????????
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I do know all my friends on facebook. I don't think i would accept someone i didn't know. I don't do alot on facebook too busy mylotting, lol.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I know all but one of my friends on facebook. I either went to school with them and we have reconnected or we are family members or friends. The one person that I don't know personally, knew me by knowing my ex-husband.
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@lakerfanster (2577)
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28 Sep 09
Facebook is really great for finding old school friends. I probably have close to 100 Friends on facebook who I knew from school. Most are in my year of course but a few are people who were in a higher or lower year than I was. Some people do add you because they know you through someone but you don't know them personally. I would at least meet someone once before adding them if I knew them through a friend.
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
26 Sep 09
Hi Marctiu,
I have a facebook account and I know all the friends listed in my friend list.
Some of them I added them and some they send me a request to add them in my list.
I am so happy with facebook, I can easily keep in touch with my old friends.Some of them have been lost in contact for more than 10 years,at last I can meet them again in Facebook.
Everynight I will login to facebook,I like to have a browse at my friends picture and I will chat with some of them too.
Happy Weekend !!
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Yes, and the great thing is, now many free messenger software provide a facebook messenger. Some software like Trillian Astra ( i only use the free one ), can help us chating with facebook. It is provide us with more cool interface instead of the reguler chating tools in facebook.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Yes connecting to a lost Friend is the most strong aspect of a social networking site. And off course facebook also has this kind of power. Seing how your friend face now and in the photo album its quite fun, especially if they changed so much that you almost not recognize them.
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@alwayzzcitra (1861)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Yes, I know all my friends in facebook. I set up my facebook account to get in touch with my friends and old buddies. It is created exclusively for it, so, no I don't add people I don't know. It's just a waste of time and I don't like my facebook page being flooded by the updates of people I don't know.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Well i'm sure you are not an apps or facebook games user, because if you are, i dont think you will say adding peole you dont know in facebook is a waste of time. But every body use facebook for many different reason, some to play game, some to promote their blog and stuff and some like you, exclusively using facebook for only getting touch with friend. I still think you should try the game thought, it is quite fun and addicting.
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Yes, with so many people in our friendlist. The update seem moving so fast. My account could be use as an example. I has more then 1000 friend. Everytime i enter the facebook, the whole update list is different. So, i cannot keep up with the update anymore.
@tulog09 (61)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Like you some of my friends in facebook are not really my friends some just added me to increase their team in games like mafia wars and mob wars or some just wants to add you for reasons that they only knew hehehe. but now i stop adding persons that I don't know.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 09
Yes, many of us usually only add friend to having more advantage in game. And i like you, also a mafia wars player, althought im not playing mob wars. Those two is game is so addicting that it make many people decide to forget about their privacy and add other people into their account.
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@Sleong (46)
• New Zealand
27 Sep 09
I have the same situation as you, i have a facebook account too and about 200+ friends, and honestly i probably only know 30 of them , and they come under my true friends category... The others im not too sure exactly where they came from, or maybe only met once or twice and never really talked to... Most of them i think are from my high school, they know me but i dont know them... That sort of thing.. XD
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
So you also the same with me. Most of my friendlist is no one i know. We just play the same game, that is mafia wars. Because the game ask us to have a lot of friend to become our family member at the game, then it make us to search for other player to join with us into our friend list.
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@taylorcainey (2)
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26 Sep 09
you'll be supries how many people dont know half of there friends on facebook, but thats the whole point. one of the main reasons of having facebook is not only to stay in contact with the friends you do have, but to meet new ones, so next time somebody you dont know is online, start up a chat session with them, you'll soon find most people are very nice & talkative, soon you'll know everyone on your facebook. have a nice day:)
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 09
Well you are very right. I dont even know 20 % of my friend list, and maybe only 10 % that i actually get connected to, the other 10 % is just some acquaintance which i dont really close to. While my other 80 % friend is mostly my blog reader or my family member in mafia wars game, or friendlist in other game. O yeah, i have about 1.125 friend right now, and i can be sure that it increase every single day.
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 09
Well actually facebook has that kind of function. I usually make a group of friendlist for people that i actually know. With that group friendlist, i can c only the update and the wall of my only real world friend. But if you mean, that facebook should make a program for member to meet each other in real world, i think it will be a hard thing to do.
Ok, thank
@much2say (55512)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Sep 09
I have over 150 friends on Facebook . . . and I do know all of them - with the exception of about 2 people. I rarely add anyone I do not know because I do not want a stranger to know my business. The 2 unknown people I took a chance in adding because we happen to have the same small niche interest . . . and I've sort of gotten to know them on Facebook, but for the most part we don't communicate all that much (which is perfectly fine by me). I have gotten requests by people I totally don't know . . . but I don't add them. I like using Facebook to connect with people I already know - I'm not there to meet new folks.
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@marctiu (829)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
Wow... that's really nice that you know all of them except the two person. Well, that's really nice. I really hate when people I do not know mind my business. Especially when they mess up with the picture and all that stuff. Have a nice day. Happy mylotting. Thanks for sharing.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Yes, it is some common way to just add people you already know. And facebook also can make you and the people you add, that not close enough with you, become close. Because you will know what they do every day from their stat, and if they start commencting your every action, there will be the chance for you bonding with your not so close friend.
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@lakerfanster (2577)
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26 Sep 09
I have 289 friends on Facebook and I probably know about 240-250 of them. The ones I know are people from school, relatives, friends and colleagues. The other people I am friends with on Facebook are made up of either friends of friends or relatives and people from various Facebook groups.
I think all the people on my Facebook that I don't know personally are not in the same town as me (Taunton) but are from around the UK or the USA.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Can i ask you why you have people you dont know that come from other town in your friendlist at facebook? Did you do it because of game or for any other reason? Or maybe because you are a game player / apps player so you add them, or they simply add you because they are the one whose a game player?
Thanks
@Anfield (59)
• Norway
26 Sep 09
I only got 150 friends on facebook so I know everyone. Most of them are people on my school or from my family. Some of them are friends I meet on parties and stuff.
If someone adds me and I don't know who it is, I reject it. YOu never know what they want. Ofcourse it is safe the most times, but I bet some people are trying to steal your identity. Maybe I'm sounding paranoid here, but I don't want to take any chances.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Well your identity could be stolen even thought you dont add them in your profile. Seeing your picture and most of your friend can be used to steal your identity. Example: I save your name and picture. I create new id, using your pic and name, in other social networking site which you dont have your account too. Then i add all your friend that you add, then you have your id stolen. Then litle by litle your information would be open. Maybe by one of your friend, or maybe from the message inbox that your friend sent to you ( the fake you ).
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@amijor (234)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
I don't add people up when I don't personally meet them. Maybe that s the reason that people think of me as a scrooge or hermit. But hey, at least I know who my friends are and I know who I'm making comments to or who's making comments about me.
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@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
No amijor, no body will think you as a hermit or a scrooge. In the social networking, it is natural for people not want to add people that they dont know. Because many of them really care about their personal data and personal life. They really want to you the site exclusively for the people they really close too. And i think that is good because you make yourself safe from many evil people ( spammer, scammer, id stealer ) that roam the social networking site.
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@Craicha (801)
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26 Sep 09
i really dont know some of my friends in facebook....yah when i signup in facebook i add friends that i know and longtime i know but new friends add me and i just accept them..we both dnt know with eachother but we had fun and enjoy in playing games in facebook..:)
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Yes once again game and apps in facebook proof himself to make other people who never communicate before add each other. Well i dont know if its good or it is bad because it all come back to the user to use them. But what i know for sure is, facebook game apps is good enough that some time people forgeting they privacy and starting to adding other people which some time, they didnt know before.
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@cyber4444 (8)
• India
26 Sep 09
According to me people on such social networking website hardly knows 60% of their friends. They just add some of their known friends. While most of the friends were unknown and they never met with each other.
If you will take me then there are lots of people added me in facebook but I hardly knows them. Neither I take interest in knowing them because I hardly visit social networking websites.
@lordcaocao2025 (4098)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 09
Well yes, most of people who use social networking website, add some unknown friend. That is usually happen to those who dont really cara about their private data. But a few of people really strict with friend that they add, they not just approve anyone. They even reject friend request from people they know, but they not really close to, so every one has its own way at using social networking site.
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