Speak up! I can't read your mind.

oh dear! so many times and both of us end up being more miserable.iam pretty straightforward open types who would vent out as soon as anything hurt me.i wasn't like this but i trained myself to be one as i realised that howsoever a person is close to you ,none can make out what exactly u need or want as long as u tell them.the connection and chemistry kind of things are more myths than reality.so keeping the high expectations on your close ones as to understand you isn't fair at all.but most of my family members are the typical introvert kinds who would fail to say untill the matter gets real bad.that freaks me out most of the times .i try to place my example of how things can be changed for better but nothing gr8 has been achieved so far though some change has been noticed.i hope they all realise it sooner.

I must admit I have done this a time or two to my husband. But he does it too and yea he makes me want to wring his neck,in a loving way of course I guess when you have been with someone for a while or when you are very close,you ASSUME the other person knows what is bugging you. but you know what they always say about people who ASSUME....

Yes! This happens to me with family members and friends--more with family, because I tend not to put up with people outside my family who try to emotionally manipulate me anymore, it's not worth the energy--and it is very frustrating. I try very hard not to do this to other people, but I think we all do it sometimes. If it's on a regular basis, though, I think it's a pretty manipulative way to be. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Stand up for yourself and tell the person that you do not understand why they are being cold to you and you'd like them to either stop or to explain why.

yes, it is very frustrating. Just a tip, read between the lines. Review in your mind what happened and what you have done before that may caused that person to react that way. Hope that will help you and will explain somehow why they acted or responded that way. Good Luck!

Sorry Ibuemma but I did have to laugh when I read your discussion. It is one of the most irritating thing in life trying to understand people. But isn't it what makes us tick. Although we maybe close to someone we will never fully understand them! If we did understand everyone wouldn't life be so boring!!! :)

Oh - that happens to me all the time. My husband doesn't open up easily about things that upset him, for which I am responsible. I get the feeling that he expects me to know what I did wrong. Most times, I have no clue and I just so wish that he'd tell rather than expect me to read his mind. Its frustrating really, but I've had a few friends too who are like that. They just seem to expect you to read their minds, without really sharing and being upfront about it!!!

I hate it when I get the silent treatment. In every relationship, all forms of communication should be open.

my kids are sort of like that but i have said this enough times that they finally have gotten the hint that mom cannot read minds. as for me, i dont hesitate to tell someone whats on my mind! ha ha!

My husband does that all the time and it drives me crazy. Or he expects me to answer quick or react quick when I am not even sure what he really wants!

i used to remember my mom used to be frustrated with us cause we expected too much from her. like we are expecting that she know every thing we want. and like when we can't find any thing we just expect her to know. though we tell her what we are looking for. but in a way she can't really know in advance what we want so it is hard for her to give or have every thing prepared before hand as she had too many things in her hands.

I don't remember such a thing happening to me. Since we can't read minds we expect others to tell us about their problem. Maybe its just that they don't want us to worry about it also.

Oh yes, it's a normal and regular occurrence at home, at work and at social events. People expect you to KNOW what they want without even having to tell you about it. It's sickening, and when things go wrong, you'll be blamed for it.

I think you may be deprssed for too long,is understandable.

hi ibuemma i to don't know how to read the mind...as like you..mind reading is a art .we can just notice the mood of a person but cannot guess why are they in such positions... even i too ask why they are cant to any thing more than that.....

Hi, ibuemma My husband used to be like that before we got married. You are right, it is really frustrating. But well, I couldn't blame him because I think I was like that too -- saying "nothing" when asked if something was bothering me and getting angry when that reply assured him everything is alright That changed when we were living under the same roof. Whenever asked, I do not hesitate to tell him what's bugging me. So does he. Of course, now I have to learn a new trick so that I won't flare up immediately when he does something wrong. Counting one to ten, that is! Cheer up.

Hi ibuemma.I think,yes,sometimes it was happen to me.Sometimes,I think that surely my husband will know what I want without I tell it clearly.So does him.Maybe,because as husband and wife,we feel that we has know each other.But,I think it work between me and my mom.When she give something that I think it's a clue for me.But,yes,better to tell or explaine something clear,so we can avoid miss understanding.

Reading others' mind isn't very difficult.But you have to try in one way or another until you find it does matter.If someone( husband/wife/kids/parents/close friends)looks upset,he or she must need something and don't want to say.When you ask them,they don't want to say and become more upset.Because they think you should know what they need.Sometimes we probably forget what they need.Well what they need are often some little things which they pay much attention to.So you have to think about what they really want.They must say it before.If you don't think of it,you may try to ask something indirectly.When you have known what they really need,you will find it just is an easy thing.

Maybe I am one of such kind of person.When I answer "nothing",it is not really,in fact,what I really want is the close person's care and consolation.Until I get what in my mind off my chest I can be glad.so must not leave him or her when he or she is upset and say nothing,or else he or she will be angry more. But also it is frustating for the innocent close person.Now when I am in bad mood,I always speak up(as you say)to my boyfriend,"I am not happy",he always laughs and help me. I agree with you,speak up!