What if you love someone very much but can't stop cheating?

In my humble opinion, the only person a cheater loves is himself (or herself, of course). The open-marriage concept I cannot respond to, because that is just something that I do not understand happening in the first place. We all are blessed with one heart, one soul and one body. Sharing it with anyone other than your partner is cheating. That is quite a study you have embarked on, my friend, and I wish you luck with it. I don't think you are going to get a lot of positive responses regarding a cheater. Anyone who has ever been betrayed, still carries the scars and the pain, and will probably not speak to kindly of the experience.

I think that the reason people cheat in a long term marriage is because they can get away with it! You quoted long term marriages and in my opinion you are not going to cheat for ten years and still be married unless the other spouse allows it that is IF IF IF they know about it. IF not, then you do not love the spouse. Your second part you mentioned open marriages and swinging... people do it because they can. This is a situation where both parties know what is going on and are okay with it. I read an interview one time of a notorious cheater, he cheated on his first wife for years.. but never cheated on the second wife. They asked him why? His response was wife number 2 would not stand for it! Overall I think if you are sleeping around you do not love your spouse or yourself.

They are contradictory terms. One can not truly be in love and at the same consistently cheat. Loving is committing oneself and seeks the well being of the person loved. There must be a misconception of love here. Cheating implies disrespect, insult and betrayal. How can this be love?

I cannot even wrap my head around this question. For me? If you truly loved someone this question would never be asked. You cannot whole heartedly love someone if you are cheating. It is not possible. I know people argue that it is, but it isn't. As long as a person is cheating they are not giving their 'love' 100%. And they risk hurting their partner and ruining the relationship. And yet they keep doing it? You'd think the thought of losing someone you love would be enough to get them not to do it in the first place. If they really love them anyways. Not to mention a relationship is supposed to be based on trust and honesty. You cannot have true love without either of those. I just don't think it is possible to deeply love someone and cheat. And if a person claims they can't stop, then they are simply not trying hard enough to stop.

My suggestion would be simple. Stop. You have a choice. If you want to be with someone else and can't stop it, then leave the first person. But I think if someone is running around more than once, they probably will not find happiness with the other person, as the problem is in them, not the relationship.

You cann't never count on that you can be able to find a balance point between loving and cheating.If you choose the cheating, you will lost the great love and create much hurtings on your lover; if you choose the loving, you will get more and more love from your sweetheart and thereby produce great harmoniousness. I think that the clever you can make the cute choose.

In my opinion, you don't love them; I say this because if you really cared for them, you would put their best interests above yours. Look, I go with a guy; i have been approached and everything, but to keep out confusion and because I want something good to come out of this, I don't go out with other men.

It doesn't seem right to love somebody in the true sense and cheat on them, does it ? I guess some people do get into a loose kind of lifestyle and do play around while they are in love with one person. It definitely does not say much for a person's charater - I don't think.

This is a pretty tough question because the question does contradict itself. I simply cannot even think about hurting my girlfriend by cheating on her. Of course we all get tempted no matter how much you try to deny it. I am a firm believer that love will always overpower lust and will cause you to in the end make the right decision.

How can a person love someone but cheat that person at same time? I find it's hard to believe if such thing do exist. What I do know, once I love someone, I don't have that feeling for others anymore until it's gone. Infidelity only exist if the feeling you have for your partner isn't really love. Your heart isn't suppose to have a hole to fill with someone's else love once you fill it with the love for your partner.

hello itsmychoice, I don't think i deserve her if i kept doing that thing, i mean i love and then i cheat, am I making a fool of myself hurting my own wife? if that's the case i'd rather divorce her than have her life in hell with me. if i love my wife, i believe there's no reason to cheat at all, men are strong and can't the temptation if he wants to and change for the better.

i find it hard to believe when a person says he loves somebody so much..yet still cheats on her... that is just ridiculous... that isnt love dear... it is guilt that the vheater is feeling and trying to convinve himself he loves his partner so much to compensate for his actions.

You can't put "love" and "cheating" at the same place lol. If you love your spouse, you won't cheat on them, that's the rule. Have you heard the song "Smoke gets in your eyes" ? That's what happen when your are deeply in love, you're gonna be blind, and you will see no one is better than your spouse. Yeah, I'm talking about the best person in the world you choose to be your life partner here!

If you love and respect yourself, you won't allow to be cheated by someone you think you love most. If I were in that situation , I won't hesitate to let go that someone if he kept on cheating me. He will be cheating me for the rest of his life. If the guy loves you, then he won't cheat.