The things people do

"What do you think of the people's actions in this true story?" I think that people are human and sometimes make mistakes. I think that life is a lot more complicated than something that can be summed up in one paragraph. I feel bad for all of them. They are ended up in a very difficult situation. Although I am pro-choice, I think it's sad that a baby was conceived and that difficult decision had to be made. I can understand why the husband wouldn't want to raise another man's baby. I can understand why, if the wife chose to stay, agreed to having the abortion. I just hope they can get past the pain and forgive eachother and move forward IF that is what they choose to do. "Was it fair on the baby that he or she was aborted?" Fair? Probably not. But I don't believe that fetuses are necessarily "babies". Sometimes life isn't fair. Sometimes people have to make very difficult decisions. It's not for me or anyone to judge another person. "Do you know of any wife or husband that has said something nasty?" I'm not sure if that was what you meant to ask. I know LOTS of husbands and wives who say nasty things. I think it's fairly common where I live. I think that's part of the problem with marriages these days. People forget that a very important part of being in relationship is mutual respect. If two people can't treat eachother with respect, things will start to fall apart.

This is an example of a very sad situation, where both the adult players have only thought of themselves at different times. In my opinion, the woman should have had the baby, and then both could have decided its future. Keep, or put up for adoption. If they both had hearts, they would welcome it into their family.

Though I am Pro Choice I personally dont think that this was fair to her...but keep in mind IMO this WAS NOT HER CHOICE not really..I mean yes it was to a point but she was also cornered...Granted she DID make the choice to cheat, AND to cheat and NOT use protection...but for the husband to give her an ultimatum like that wasnt fair..for lack of a better way to word it (its early cut me some slack here) Now if it were me in her shoes I'd have told him to hit the bricks..obviously something was goin on in her marriage to make her cheat in the first place right...so if I wasnt happy in my marriage to the point that I would cheat on my husband AND take the massive various risks by not using protection THEN have him try and put me in a position like that I'd have definately told him to bugger off.. I am totally Pro Choice BUT NOT Pro Abortion by any means....this situation IMO wasnt reason enough to abort...but thats just me ya know..

So what about the poor baby in all this ? He or she was killed because the husband didn't want his wife to bring a new life into this world without him. What selfishness ! For heaven's sake ! Think about the baby ! That could be you or me ! What if our parents decided they didn't want us ?

It is just as you said, the things people do. In this situation, there is a victim and sadly a baby had to be aborted because of men and women who are only human and make terrible mistakes. The world will never stop of hearing this kind of stories and it is such a sad state. And I wouldn't want to know anyone who would do such a thing. There are many options or choices they could have made and done, and sadly a life was lost because of wrong choices.

...Hi maxiax8, I would assume that the woman knew who the father of the child was, if so, them would not the father of the child have rights as to whether to abort the fetus or not. This would be his child, not her husbands and how could another man have a right to decide that someone else's potential child should not be born. I also don't know if there is a law governing such a case. This is problematic to me. Now, if the real father does not know that the woman is pregnant, then there is nothing he can do about it. This is, I think a clear case for the need for individuals to use birth control and not be so irresponsible. Second observation, if the husband now goes out and cheats, what can the wife say, in addition, if the husband gets another woman pregnant, if he does cheat, do you think he will ask the woman to get an abortion, no, I think not, it will be his child and he will more than likely want the baby to be born. Take care.

That's life when people are not contented. It is only when a choice need to be made that people go crazy. Many do not want to face the truth or consequences. A messy lifestyle begets a messy decision making which distinguishes between a good and bad decision.

People often say horrible nasty things to each other in times of troubles. I do kind of get where this man was coming from but I think it was harsh of him to order her to abort the child. Still, she has a mind of her own. She did not give it a 2nd thought when she sacrificed her marriage to have the affair to begin with. But she is willing to sacrifice her child to save the marriage now? And were they 100% sure that the child was not the husbands? This marriage has much deeper problems than another man's baby.

I don't think the husband was being nasty - I think if it was the other way around and my husband had an affair and got somebody pregnant I would be happy if the other lady had an abortion! Although saying that I don't think I would stay with my husband if he had an affair in the first place!

The husband is really a nasty person. The lady should have go to the court and demand compensation. The baby should not be aborted.

[i]Hello maximax, well forget about the baby but how couldnt the husband feel anything.I wonder why he wasnt in red angry face when he heard that his wife slept on someone elses bed, and about the baby it is really sad they she being mother of 3 children she still had the heart to abort the baby. I feel bad when people find betrayal of trust and feelings so easy and casual, for me marriage is something which is pure feeling and its the last man on earth whom i can love and call as mine. Other than my son for me.[/i]

Both are guilty. But SHE is to be blamed. He showed he really love her, respect her and didn't forget what he promissed to her on wedding day ... She is a b1tch and maybe she will understand the real meaning of the words "sacrifice" ... "commitment" ..

I can't imagin her husband could stand his wife's behavior. I think this is the worst outcome. Killing a baby, at the same time their relationship would be covered by the negative feeling forever. It is so bad.

I think both were wrong. The woman was really wrong. Marriage isnt a light thing were you just get bored and get an affair and do whatever you like. That is not what marriage is about. Marriage is a compromise that should last until their last days. Even if the couple have some problems and they fight they should stick together no matter what. If not then why did they get married at first? But what the guy did was even worse. He asked her to kill the baby!!.Yeah she accepted which was really wrong but she did it because of him. That doesnt make her less guilty though. It´s a shame people dont see the horrible thing that abortion is.

In the first place, the woman is playing with fire.She knows the high price she must pay if she was caught. Now she is pregnant. She could easily lose her husband and family. I am surprised that the husband still wants her back. But things wil not be the same, the trust is gone. Even if they are still together, I doubt anything would happen when the bedroom lights are switched off. This damage will be long term and it will not heal the pain and hurt the husband endures. Her stupidity will cost her more than she bargained for.

While I don't think the husband was wrong for asking the wife to get an abortion, simply because he was asking out of anger and emotion, I think the wife was wrong to have one. Now, not only does she have the guilt of dealing with the fact that she cheated on her family (I think an affair affects the whole family, not just the spurned spouse), she now has to deal with the guilt from having an abortion. And if they are religious, then there is the whole issue of how her sins will affect her in the afterlife.