Do you think love is enough for a relationship to stay forever?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
October 21, 2009 9:54pm CST
When we fall in love, everything seems perfect, complete, fantastic and we're so happy. We think we can conquer everything, but things change as we go through along the roads of problem, conflict and misunderstanding, until we realized that we fall out of love. We don't when or how, because of mixed emotions, we just know that it happened. So what does it makes for a relationship to stay, is it love, respect, security, loyalty etc.,? Do you think love is enough for a relationship to last for a lifetime?
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@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Yeah, some couple fall apart because of lack of communication that leads to misunderstanding. They said that sometimes when your partner do certain things that you don't understand, the best thing that you should do is to understand and trust your partner. But it could be hard, because you would tend to doubt and asked questions on why. And that makes the situation more complicated.
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@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
23 Oct 09
Love is not enough to sustain a marriage but you should like your partner as well, problems arise in relationships because of conflicts in our character and behaviour and as time goes on it takes centre stage in the relationship and you forget the love you had when you started
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Yeah, you're right. It's when a couple focused on each others flaws, mistakes and weaknesses that they make as center stage of their relationship then love would surely fail. And that's usually the problem, would soon easily slipped away that often you wonder how and why. Love is not enough to make a relationship last.
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@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
22 Oct 09
i know that love is not enough. if that were so i would be happy today after 18 years of marriage but things happen and people say things they do not mean or that they do mean that can be hurtful and difficult to forget. also people do things that are hurtful and selfish. so it wears at you over time. then there are financial problems and just every day strife. so it is hard unless you are lucky enough to have the kind of person that works with you instead of against you and is helpful to you as you are to them. i do not have that situation so my life has been very hard and i have alot of resentment towards my spouse because of it. so love is not enough.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
22 Oct 09
But I bet that you thought that YOUR love could keep you together? Your spouse is the one that pushed you aside. Right? He wasn't willing to work thru conflicts, etc... he was willing to start them, hit below the belt and leave? The love needs to be on both sides.
I'm very sorry to hear that things when sour and that you were hurt so badly. I pray that you do find that kind of person that will work with you instead of against you. When financial problems come up... be frustrated next to you, not AT you. There are people out there like that.... they're just very hard to find.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
I like what you said. Yeah, relationship needs changes or it will changed. It needs acceptance, and in order to accept our partner we need to change our self, we need to change our thought and perceptions for the betterment of relationship and in order for the love to last a lifetime.
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@vipersnake (30)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 09
I think with love we can respect and understanding each other, love can make us feeling in peace.
Love is not enough for just relation, why ? cause sometime love can make us blind, so we never realize that something big such as happiness or bad think will come to us in the future, some people will not pass this way and also they are separated with their couple, they will feel regret, misunderstanding and also they can over reacted with this problem.
so my opinion is love is not enough for relationship stay forever, beside love we have to be happiness, in this world only love and happiness can be long live together..
any comment ?
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
When you're no longer happy in your relationship it does mean that love slowly fades away. And when you're living in a misery then love is already gone. When there is love there is peace and happiness. So a couple should be aware all the signs that shows the dying of their love. Since love is not enough to bind a relationship.
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@zhulicc2007 (9)
• China
23 Oct 09
i think love is vital factor for a relationship for stay foever.what make the couples go farther,i think it's love .maybe when you stay with you lover for a long time ,you know him or her as same as you.his or her benifit or shortcomings,you know it very clearly.you begin to be tired of him or her.you maybe think you don't have love with them.you are wrong ,maybe someday he or she leave you ,you can discover you concern about him or her so deeply.because of love .
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
I think the test for love is how you're willing to accept your partners weaknesses and imperfections. Most of the time when we fall in love we thought that we know already our partner. We believe in our heart we accept the person and are willing to face whatever it takes just to be with him/her. And through time, it's when we know what we truly felt for the partner, that's when we know if we truly love or just admire.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
22 Oct 09
i don't think so... love is one of them... but it takes more than love to make a relationship works... like trust, respect and understanding and accepting each other strengths and weaknesses... the last part is the hardest one because it is very easy for us to judge our spouse's weaknesses but very hard to see the strengths... and this is what makes a lot of relationships fail... take care and have a nice day...
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, most of the time it hard to accept our partners weaknesses, flaws and imperfections. We find it difficult to understand them and that's not good. Sometimes we think we know our partner that much, but the more we stay together, the more we know him/her, the more we able to see and get into deep with the person and that's when certain behaviors and attitudes comes out, that often makes us surprised or upset. But that's the complete package of a relationship.
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@oinkgiz (863)
• Singapore
22 Oct 09
hi,
for me love is not enough for a relationship to work out... for me respect, honesty, understanding and good communication are important for a relationship to work out... if only love that u have, i think u can fall out of it easily... problems & trials is part of a relationship..
thanks for sharing this discussion. have a nice day and happy mylotting.. ^_^
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Your welcome oinkgiz, Yeah, I agree with you. When you only love what you have then surely sooner or later you will fall out of love. It needs a pack full of acceptance and loving your partner just the way you love and care for your self. As it takes two tango, and if one get tired and bored surely love can't stand and it would surely fall.
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
22 Oct 09
For me love is not enough for a relationship to stay forever. It also needs trust and loyalty.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Trust and loyalty is indeed very important in a relationship. Some causes of broken marriages is the failure of keeping trust with their partner. Others found out to being unfaithful, of lying and doing something that's kept secret to their partner.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
22 Oct 09
I believe love is enough for a relationship to stay forever. But, you should understand that love includes a lot of things such as undertanding each other, sacrificig for each other, apologizing on mistakes, forgiving each other, and a lot more. Love is something which you can't really define. If you have love, there is respect, security, and loyalty.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, love is hard to define. It's unfathomable feelings, but one thing for sure love is all that we need in order to survive and able to live forever. Love takes two to tango. That's why when one partner get tired and bored on loving then love will break and soon it will be gone. It's easy to accept love, but hard to give sometimes.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I remember one time a friend mentioned that love is enough for her to stay in a relationship. I totally disagree. What if the other person in abusing you, physically or otherwise. Would you still stay in that kind of relationship? One go into a relationship to be happy and to grow. If one is violating the other person even if there is love, it should not continue. One should never allow a person take advantage of you even if that person is someone you love.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
If your partner is abusing you, then he doesn't love and you should have enough courage to accept the truth and leave the relationship. You should love your self. Love is not the right word to describe when someone said he loves you then he abuse you. It only means that he only loves himself and not you. And I agree with you.
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@irefed (200)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
A relationship to stay forever needs a total trust and patience to both of your partner. You must put trust in order for you to stay the affections and passion of your relationship. Once you encounter troubles, you must know how to manage and be flexible of your relationship.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
A complete trust is very important in a relationship, and it should be taken care of. And yeah being flexible with and open mind is one factor that makes the relationship grow and stand in times of troubles and conflicts.
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@lilly_jasmine (55)
• India
22 Oct 09
I think love love is important for relationship but love only is not enough for relationship .there are some more factors that play key role to maintain the relationships forever.along with love there should be understanding,trust and faith among the people,friendly nature etc.these all things are also very important to maintain a strong relationship.what do you say?what is your opinion?
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, there are so many factors that's needed in order to maintain the important thing in life that's so called "LOVE." You're right, there should be understanding, trust and loyalty in the absence of one of this love can't stand alone.
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@paul_original (72)
• Japan
22 Oct 09
of course not. there's so much more than love. there's respect. there's finances. there's attitude. there's differences. theare are just so many varying factors. love is certainly not enough. that's why there's a word such as commitment. so when love fades, you guys can still stick together.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, there's so many various strategies to make the relationship work since love alone is never enough. And you're right, even though love is gone, still a relationship can work if there is commitment. Because sometimes when we get older, we need more of a company and a best friend who will be there for us. It's the commitment that always keep the love into its higher place.
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@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
22 Oct 09
Love is a huge part of it, but I think cooperation and trust are a huge component of it. You need to beable to go a day with out fighting. ALso being able to have fun with eachother is a big part of it. If you cant have fun, then the relationship is going to be boring even if you do love eachother.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, relationship that's filled with fighting and arguing won't last. And love would surely die, as you said if there's no fun in a relationship it will be boring and sooner or later love will be gone.
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@louisse1828 (9)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I believe that love the very reason why people continue to exist. But love alone can never be enough for a relationship to last forever. There are a lot of factors that will make a relationship grow and last forever. These are trust, respect and we should always put God at the center of our relationship. God will strengthen us in all the trials a relationship may go through.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, putting God at the center of a relationship makes the love last forever. I think that's why so many marriages fail because they forget to put God at the center of their life and of their relationship. When you live your life focusing on Him there would always be understanding, trust, respect and everything that's needed for a relationship to stand against all life's troubles and problems.
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@phoenix1344 (698)
• United States
22 Oct 09
No, love isn't enough. Not on its own anyways. Of course, a relationship could never last if there was no love at all. But what it takes to make a relationship last is commitment. Plain and simple. It's the willingness to work through anything together. Even when things get tough its not giving up on one another, its endurance. Of course respect, security and loyalty fall in there too but what relationship doesn't have that? I think it all comes down to commitment and what a couple is willing to do for one another.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Oh, yeah... I got you. It's really commitment that's really important. That's why so many people prefer not to commit their self as much as possible because it means hard work, pack of patience and responsibility for a lifetime. And I think in order for someone to be committed they need be have something to motivate them.
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@sasalove (1709)
• China
22 Oct 09
Love is not enough for a relationship to stay forever. Love is a passion just like the firworks which lit up beautifully at the very beginning, but at the flash of time, the firworks went out soon. It needs the skills to mange the love that we have ever built up. The real love only belongs to those who really put her brain into and the people who just follow their feeling can not obtain the love result.
The marriage is the result of the love, we need some rules to bond the relationship to be much more stronger. We need to handle the triffle things carefully while the love has to be challenged otherwise the love flowers will be withered and never got the result.
Happy mylotting.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, each day love needs something to keep the lights on, because once when the lights off then love is gone. That's why love needs to be nurtured each day, it needs to be taken care of, it needs to be handle with so much care like a delicate plant. For once it will be taken for granted, sooner or alter it will die.
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@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Love is not enough for a relationship to stay forever. It needs more understanding, perseverance and patience for you not to give up when you encounter troubles in your relationship along the road. Love is a package of loyalty and respect because if this two was not there then you don't love the person. Sometimes we need to have courage also to get in a lifetime relationship.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, love needs a so much courage and determination for each couple to make it last. It's easy to fall in love, but making love to work is very hard. Only those couple who never give up on trying, on working and giving love will succeed and live a happy life.
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Love alone is not enough you have to nurture it. Personally, I think you have to do things to make sure that love is kept alive. It's not love that will keep both persons together it's what they do to maintain that love that keeps them together. Cheers!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Yeah, I agree with you ybong, love alone can't make the relationship work but rather on the things that couple do in order to keep the love alive. Love should not be in stagnant condition, or else it will die. Love should keep on growing by making use of those trials and conflict as an instrument for a stronger relationship by getting through with it.
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