Why Are You Afraid Of Putting Your Real Picture In The Avatar??
By rberon1985
@rberon1985 (5359)
Philippines
October 27, 2009 9:45am CST
I have just notice and I am just being curious why 95 percent of the members of this site does not put their real pictures, that is including me.lol
. What are you afraid of? This is a legitimate site. I think nothing to worry if you are going to share your picture here so it is not hard for us to imagine whom we are talking about. We might think that this is a fat woman, but in person she is sexy or vice versa. I know and I understand your privacy, and you are afraid that your picture might be use in other sites or in any fraudaulent transactions, but we just want to see you. I will post my picture and I hope to see your pictures as well so I will have an idea whom I am talking about, i would understand if you will not post it. If you will not post it,may i know the reason why are afraid of putting your real picture in the avatar??
. What are you afraid of? This is a legitimate site. I think nothing to worry if you are going to share your picture here so it is not hard for us to imagine whom we are talking about. We might think that this is a fat woman, but in person she is sexy or vice versa. I know and I understand your privacy, and you are afraid that your picture might be use in other sites or in any fraudaulent transactions, but we just want to see you. I will post my picture and I hope to see your pictures as well so I will have an idea whom I am talking about, i would understand if you will not post it. If you will not post it,may i know the reason why are afraid of putting your real picture in the avatar??12 people like this
73 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 09
rberon yes the reason I do not put my picture here is that I
still need a tiny bit of privacy. I am not afraid so to speak,
but before I show my picture to mylotters I must know tham
better. Anyway I have tried to change my avatar to something better than the odd green man and failed.If I could just change my avatar without any trouble I would do so. Anyway I have saved
all of you barftime as I am not a beauty anyway.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Actually, I am really excited to see you, i hope you will be uploading your picture here. I can see you in all my discussions but i don't have an idea on how does you look like. But I cannot do something about this, because you are looking forward for a privacy, which i have to look at or which i have to respect. But once you are ready to do that, i hope i will part of those members who will see you. Honestly speaking, i am already treating you here as my second parent, that is why i am very open to this site, because i believe this site is a trustable site. I am really looking forward to see you in the future.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
28 Oct 09
Trustable sites do not mean there are trustable people only on the site. My question to you is why do you feel it is so necessary to see a person's real picture?
Sorry, but after seeing how many predators have invaded SAFE children's sites, I do not trust ANY site to be entirely safe. That's one thing predators count on, our gullibility.
@malamar (779)
• Canada
27 Oct 09
That is a very good question rberon, and one that I too have wondered about. I belong to a writing site where I use my real picture, and yet here I choose to use an avatar. I am not sure what is holding me back from posting a picture, but perhaps it is because I am still very new to this site.
I am going to give this some more thought and see if I can discover why I seemingly have an aversion to posting a picture. It would be nice to see real pictures if only to have a better understanding of who you are communicating with.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I understand your hesitation, you have the right to feel that way. We are in the internet world, exposing are personal information or physical feature is really dangerous because we might suffer from scam. I am already one year in this site, but this is the first time that i have post my picture, because they are already very curious on how do i look, most of the time I give tips in the site, but they do not know how do i look like. And upon posting this picture, there is fear in my part since this is a trusted site. I think this site won't disclose any information about you. I have already tested the legitimacy of the site,so once your ready to post your picture,let us know and we want to see you. enjoy the site and see you around.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I understand. it's your right and discretion not to post your picture here. We can not force you for doing that, but once your ready, you can post it anytime. If you have some concerns about the site, if you are confuse of something, just let us know and will try to assist you with your concern, but i think, with the kind of member are you, you don't have any concerns any more.thanks for the input by the way,may you have a great day!
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
27 Oct 09
Well as you can see mine is me in all my raging glory..lol I have my pic up on all sorts of sites so I guess I am just fearless !!! I am sure no one wants to use the picture of and old fat woman anyway. Go ahead make me famous!!
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
lol
you made me laugh jeanena. You are the second responder of my discussion who has posted their picture in the avatar. I think only five percent of the members who has posted their real picture here, that is already out of 100 percent. It's good to hear that you are open minded on whatever will happen. With the others, i can really see and feel that they are afraid to show their real picture since we are in the internet, they are afraid that they will be victimized by other people from other countries.
you made me laugh jeanena. You are the second responder of my discussion who has posted their picture in the avatar. I think only five percent of the members who has posted their real picture here, that is already out of 100 percent. It's good to hear that you are open minded on whatever will happen. With the others, i can really see and feel that they are afraid to show their real picture since we are in the internet, they are afraid that they will be victimized by other people from other countries.
@phillip_shiny (2330)
• India
27 Oct 09
Hello rberon,
You are good in the picture. I am never afraid of putting my picture here. In fact you must know that my previous avatar was my picture itself. 
I hope some people may afraid of their negative comments about some sites and discussions which may really be different from every other opinion... I too have added my image here...
Cheers... Have a nice day always...
I hope some people may afraid of their negative comments about some sites and discussions which may really be different from every other opinion... I too have added my image here...
Cheers... Have a nice day always...2 people like this
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
First of all I want to give my comment on the picture, the place is good, I think i want to be in that place someday,you also good look in the picture. As far as I can remember, yes you have put your real picture before in the avatar? But let me ask you, why did you decided to change it to a duck, is it a duck, I am not so sure?Is this your favorite animal? or you just posted this because of the animation of the picture?anyway, no problem with the picture since it's cute.
@phillip_shiny (2330)
• India
27 Oct 09
I am too bored seeing my picture often.... So, for a change I changed... But this animated picture is really gives me a happy feeling to enjoy in water like a kid esp., in a hot climatic country like mine.....
Cheers
Cheers
@stee09 (101)
• Ireland
27 Oct 09
Hey Rberon,
I'm not afraid to pit me picture up I just don't know how lol. I now how to put the picture on the site but just cant figure out how to use the picture any help on this matter would be very appreciated. I think some people tend not put pictures of themselves up solely because there not happy with there appearance which I think is silly at the end of the day you look the way you look if god wanted everyone to look like super models you would be able to sell beauty stuff cosmetic, plastic surgery etc. Good question by the way :)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Oct 09
Go here and you can put yours too 
: http://www.mylot.com/nr/editcustomize.aspx
: http://www.mylot.com/nr/editcustomize.aspx1 person likes this
@laglen (19759)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I do not use my pic for the same reason I do not use my name. The internet is always ongoing and nothing actually deletes. There are things that can come back to bite you in the butt later. Such as, jobs, school, Obamas list of enemies, homeland security.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I understand that, if i still have the opportunity, i want to change my username since i have use my real name here. but I don't think so I still have the chance to change it. But anyway that's fine, its only in this site that I have use my real name.I think no member who will bully me here. Most of the members here are very kind and very understanding.It is always good to be in safe mode. You are safe with your decision. have a nice day
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hmm...I think you belong in the five percent members who has posted their real pictures here. I am proud of you, you are not afraid of anything. And I think you should really be proud since you are pretty, i have checked your profile and I found out that you are already 41 years of age, but as upon seeing your picture, you look very young with your age. What seeems to be your secret? Maintain that beautiful image, maybe the secret that you have within yourself is that you keep on smiling, for you to maintain your baby face. Keep it up!!happy mylotting!
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
27 Oct 09
I am not really afraid to put mine on here either. I origianlly had mine on here for my avatar, but then I changed it the rose, to go along with my username. I think a lot of people don't want to post it becuase of identity theft out there, and also, they wouldn't want someone using their picture for other things on the internet. That is what I am afraid of, and I am not young either, as I am a gradmother. I live alone so I am very cautious what I put on the interen. However, I do have my picture on my facebook page, and nothing has happened there, so I guess I am safe. I just happen to like my rose better than my picture is all. Good luck to you and happy mylotting.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Oh i see.In the internet, there are lots of fraudulent transaction, its' a safe and good idea of not puttin your real picture here because they migght misuse your photos. As far as I know, pictures from facebook is also not safe, because anyone can copy it. So we really have to be very careful in all the things that we are doing,sometimes even our own family members provoked us, so we should be very careful. As much as possible, if we can keep the information to ourself,we should do it. very few people can be trusted now a days.
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 09
Maybe I will, maybe I won't. I know sometimes it is not fair for the members who put their real faces as their avatar, but how do we know that it is their real face?? 
I guess because that this site is opened to the whole world that make me refrain myself from putting my real photo. If there is a feature where I can set who can view my photos, then I will use my real photo as my avatar. As of now, just remember me as the 'purple butterfly'... Oh, but I might change a new avatar in future he he... So, just remember my name, at least it's my real name.
I guess because that this site is opened to the whole world that make me refrain myself from putting my real photo. If there is a feature where I can set who can view my photos, then I will use my real photo as my avatar. As of now, just remember me as the 'purple butterfly'... Oh, but I might change a new avatar in future he he... So, just remember my name, at least it's my real name. 2 people like this
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
lolMost of the responses is they do not want to share their picture around the globe for security and privacy purposes. Anyway, i understand that. it's your right and discretion. Why should i push you if you really do not like,correct? But i'm sure in the near, if you already get the trust of site, you might be posting a new real picture in the site.
Most of the responses is they do not want to share their picture around the globe for security and privacy purposes. Anyway, i understand that. it's your right and discretion. Why should i push you if you really do not like,correct? But i'm sure in the near, if you already get the trust of site, you might be posting a new real picture in the site.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hi, rberon. You look good in your picture. I have my own personal reasons for not posting my picture here. When I first registered here, I noticed that most are not doing it, so I thought I was lucky because I had in mind not to post mine. lol. If you want to see my picture, I will gladly send it as a private message to you, if u wish.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hmmm...of course., that's nice to hear. i will look forward to see a private message showing me your picture. At least, i would have an idea now on who is the girl behind the name moneymakingtoday. But if you are also hesitant to do that, no problem with me.I am happy on the things that you are also happy. If it is really okay with you, i will wait for the picture.
@uchihaseymour (1025)
• American Samoa
27 Oct 09
mine is the anime version of my face hehe :) i love anime's :D
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hmmm.. you are part of the ninety five percent members of the site who doesn't put real pictures in the avatar. why is that so?what are you afraid of? or you just want to be private? i understand that, it's your right and we should respect it. but your anime is cure and i believe it is cuter than you. happy mylotting!1 person likes this
@uchihaseymour (1025)
• American Samoa
28 Oct 09
the last part of your message is correct hahahahaha! :)
@Skyeblue25 (545)
•
27 Oct 09
I'm not scared of putting my pic up. I was going to put a cartoon up but decided against it,
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
It is really good to think that we are looking forward for our own safety, internet is actually not a trusted site to put personal information or personal pictures. it is a good decision for you for nothing your pictures in any site.but i believe in this site, your picture is safe, i think nobody will use it in any fraudaulent transactions, most of the members here are very friendly and very approachable.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Oct 09
No-one ever believes me 
but my avatar IS the real me.
I took the photo when there was a lot of sunshine
and that is why it came out yellow 
but my avatar IS the real me.
I took the photo when there was a lot of sunshine
and that is why it came out yellow 
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
28 Oct 09
I'm very grapefruit that you enlightened us on that, Diana 
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hi, i think you don't need to post other kind of photo because you're is already that pretty. that picture is already cute i think and it's nice on your profile too. well, that's it have a great day and god-bless
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
29 Oct 09
it's not that i am afraid of something but i am already used to my former avatar, lapu-lapu the hero. now, i have this photo of my son, the one that is usually in my topics about sleep apnea. besides being used to my former avatar, people whom i already found good binding times on mylot knows exactly who there are talking to, and that's neil of cebu, philippines. if you really want to see a photo of me, i have a link here, in my profile page, that will direct you to my blog site.
i still don't have email notifications from mylot with your new discussions. i already said this in one of your discussions, the other one says, Three Days To Go...
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
hello rberon!
actually, i am not afraid of using my own picture in my avatar...but i am already used to my avatar now & somehow it already gives me an identity...hehe
not for anything else but i think it will be better this way for me and besides, i do have my pic on my profile...
nice shot there beron!
nice shot there beron!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
hi ckyera,
it's you again..yeah, your avatar is great..lot of members could recognize you...
somehow, it is much better..could you please put a more focus photos? It is more exciting..isn't it?
@merlinsorca (1118)
• United States
27 Oct 09
This discussion must not apply to me, as my profile picture is indeed myself on Star-date 43917.4, Earth-date December 1, 2366, aboard the bridge of the Federation Starship Enterprise.
But really, the reason why I don't use my own profile picture is mainly because I don't want to show myself, and I want to remain anonymous. Another reason would be that I think it is much more fun to use a picture of a fictional character, because then I can always point to it and say ,"I am an android."
But really, the reason why I don't use my own profile picture is mainly because I don't want to show myself, and I want to remain anonymous. Another reason would be that I think it is much more fun to use a picture of a fictional character, because then I can always point to it and say ,"I am an android."
@merlinsorca (1118)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Oops, I meant Star-Date 46360.8, as I got it confused with my other avatar that I changed . . .
This picture was taken when I was First Officer aboard the USS Enterprise in the Captain's ready room . . .
@merlinsorca (1118)
• United States
28 Oct 09
What? 
This is all perfectly normal!
Well, maybe I do watch too much Star Trek
This is all perfectly normal!
Well, maybe I do watch too much Star Trek @fan_philo (227)
• India
29 Oct 09
I never put my snap in the avatar because i have been told the net or some will miss use ur snap so i prefer to be like this only with out a snap and i feel comfortable.
