Do you ever feel that some people do not listen?

I feel that way a lot of times. I've started just sort of disappearing and not saying a word to any one. 'Course there is only my hubby and he has his head in the TV 24/7 and he won't even eat without me to fix it. If you'll just stay quiet and stay out of the main stream of events, people around you will start wondering where you are. It works for me most times. Shoot ! I went to town yesterday and hubby didn't even know I'd been gone---- Just have to be yourself and forget trying to talk to anybody but mylotters.

yes! I agree on you jugsjugs some people do not listen it is because they dont want to listen. They only hear what they want to hear, especially those people that are not open minded.

jugsjugs one of my friends calls it selective hearing and I believe she is right. My roommate is a bit deaf but damned if she does not hear you when you really say something you did not want heard. the care giver came in to give her her pills and I said to him, she is sleeping ,really quiet, and she naps a lot, and she piped up to him. I was not asleep, I just had my eyes closed. okay so sometimes she can hear. he he. I talked for five minutes to a friend downstairs as she was reading a magazine, and then she looked up,oh were you talking to me? duh! I spent five minutes explaining about my swollen legs to my son, and he turned around, and said, did you know your foot looks swollen? help me God why do people not listen to us when we talk?

dear jugsjugs, why do you talk to them while they are doing other things? you need to sit down with them and talk when it is only to you their attention will be focused. cheers, ann

...the only people i know that i got problem with is my parents, everytime i pay a visit their place and make my point to certain discussion it seems they only hear it but not listening, they reply me with other issue....

I'm really figuring it out why mostly people find it hard to listen..It makes me feel upset sometimes when I find out that I'm just like talking to myself..i appreciate people who give their opinions after my talk rather than not responding at all..

Oh yeah! Don't you find it annoying to be in the middle of some important "discussion" and realize that the person(s)you've been talking to have tuned you out? I have family members who do that. In some cases I've given up talking because I might as well be talking to myself. At least me,myself and I agree one what I have to say.

I hear you I have the same problem with my wife,I will be talking to her and she will start watching television and she will not hear a word I say because she zones out and then later she asks me why I did not tell her something and we sometimes have an argument even though she is trying to pay more attention to me when I say I want to talk to her, and I also have a brother who zones out,and I will be trying to talk to him,and I usually have to say his hair is on fire or something else crazy to get his attention,and that does not always work lol.

I sometimes get that impression! You notice this when you are talking to someone and then their eyes suddenly break from yours and they are suddenly not interested anymore, quite rood on their part. When someone is talking to me and we are in a discussion I expect them to listen to me and vice versa. The family situation that you describe, I used to experience that myself, this was many years ago now though. Andrew

I have a very good brick wall in my house.I have nearly worn it out with my frustration.I know exactly what you mean.Some times people only hear what they want to and if it is not nice,they use selective hearing.

Even my son used to do the same as your husband. His head is always in the tv or computer. What ever you say, there is no use. If we say more he will get irritated or feel annoyed but still his head will be in his computer or tv only

oh yes I have many relatives and closed one who are very good at acting like the listen but I can tell they don't and know they won't. Sometimes I play games with them to let them know how dumb they are not to listen. They get to my nerves when they act like they know all and don't listen.

you can talk to them when they are not busy and talk some thing very important .

There are many people like this most of the are just concerned with themselves. I find that a lot of those people are lonely, living a lone, older folks. The best thing you could do if confrontations don't work is to sit down and write them a letter to tell them your concerns.

I am the one that is bad about not listening. It's not that I don't want to, it's just that I find myself getting distracted. I know it upsets my husband so I am trying to work on it. Nothing is more important then listening to loved ones, I know that. I think that some people don't listen because they don't want to hear it.

I've come to the conclusion that just because it appears that people are indeed listening, that still doesn't mean they CARE to be listening. Interested people respond accordingly to your conversation. and that's just mi3centsworth.

o yeahhhhhhhhhhhh! but it's normal, because i'm not always listen to other people too. I will just take what's good for me and leave the rest behind. I do respect an advises, if it's an improving advises and lead to something good. I found out that, there are some people who doesn't wanna change or fix their stubborn head, just because they thinked they're the right ones when they're not. I had this kinda problems lately, i have a friend that's pessimistic about who he is. He kept blaming people for his failure, and when me and my friends tried to reminds him, it's never working. He always find an excuses for himself, and let himself burden inside that darkness all the time. It's him who did it to himself, couldn't respect his ownself.. But, once again..i can't do nothing about it, waste of time. So, all i can do is being understanding, because we never know what they've been through in this life that formed the stubborn head..

Good afternoon jugsjugs, I know exactly what you are talking about with your mom, mine is the same way and I am always telling my husband how much it bothers me. She will ask me questions and before I get the chance to give her the answer she is changing the subject into something else completely opposite of what she originally asked me. She has a dog that I got her about 3 years ago when her other dog had passed away and the is what she always seems to refer back to when she interrupts me. For example she may ask so how did my sons ball game go and as I start to say it went great he got so many hits blah blah she will say yea well Cassie(her dog) was outside today and she saw a mouse and she jumped over and tried to eat it or something in that nature and all I can think is who cares. I mean I love animals especially dogs I have one of my own but there is only so many dog chases animal stories. I just wish that if she didn't care to hear the answer that she not even bother asking the question. My husband isn't too bad..there is the occasional time that he I can tell he isn't listening to me when he is watching television but to be honest there are times when I am trying to watch television that I don't listen to him so I can't really complain LOL

i find the same happens with my mum,she's trying to get me to try herbs to help my medical conditions,everytime i say no,but she never listens and keeps asking me

yeah I know how that is too. I'll be talking to my mother and looking right at her and then she'll just butt in and starting talking about what she wants to talk about. I could understand that maybe she couldn't hear me but that doesn't make sense when shes looking right at me and still not listening or seeing my lips move.