Don't wish it on the other person

Wow, he must have been in some accident!

Wow, how scary. But kudos to him for picking himself up again and walking. Wow!

Actually, he was in a couple of accidents. When he was 18 he was in the wreck that shattered his face and almost 2 years ago was the accident that broke his back. That accident paralyzed him for almost a month. He had to have bars put in to stabilize his spine because his L1 vertebrate was shattered and his nerves were shredded. This was the 2nd time he learned to walk. It was MASS OVERSIGHT on the doctors side that is the reason for the amputation. He developed neuropathy in his legs due to the severe nerve damage in his back. He developed a pressure sore on his heal and started wound care but no MRI's or Xrays were done to check for infection or broken bones. They opted to treat it superficially. This went on for almost 8 months until one day he woke up and his heal bones were forcing their way out of his foot by way of the hole in his heal that never healed. It was Osteomyelitis and was not found in time to save his heal bone so they had no choice but to amputate his leg just below his knee. But let me tell you, this man of mine is so totally awesome!!! His amputation was Aug. 4 of this year and he is already walking again. He is very strong willed and very much an inspiration. He's 28 and has learned to walk 3 times in his life.

Yeah, unfortunately it's something he can't ever really get rid of, so they tell him, at least not without surgery. And here's where I resist the urge to say I told him so too, because he totally ignored everything the doctor told him last year when it first popped up...

men are so bull headed at times when it comes to stuff like that. My brother has it but seems to keep it under control pretty well.

Because of my sister's treatment when I was a toddler, the knuckles and some bones in most of my fingers have been removed and replaced with silastic. (the "knuckles" don't work as knuckles - just a permanent "happy" bend). They won't do this to the index fingers or thumbs because of the tension placed on them. They have shaved the knuckles and pinned the index finger on the left hand, but not the right. The index finger on my right hand developed gout. It is permanently swollen and painful, but I keep the pain and swelling to a minimum by eliminating tomato and potato. I do not take any medication (none at all for anything) If I have ANY potato or tomato (even a tiny portion or a casserole with tomato base) my finger swells. Worth trying.

Definitely, I'll let him know!

tomato and potato - no kidding. The doc did say stay away from red meat and drink cherry juice, but not much more than that.

yeah, so they say...

It's different saying they'll understand your feelings as opposed to wishing rotten kids on them or some such thing.

me too (don't read my other discussions lol)

Yeah you got that right. I guess I will have to say that I wasn't a rotten kid..Well that my parents know about. I was a good kid and teenager, and that is my story and Im sticking to it..LOL..

Children can be a challenge but they bring a lot of joy too.

I had my twins at 42, no cancer though. I think you win....

Absolutely! I was just being funny. My daughter is the light in my life. A miracle as well. I had her after having cancer and being told I could not have anymore children. The challenge is I had my daughter at the age of 45.

Maybe she did or maybe you just deserved something better than what you were being told as a child!

Exactly... I couldn't agree more..

Even said as a joke, it can demoralize the child and probably just should not be said!

men lol

Until recently I never realised how painful back pain could be. I thought it was one of those things that people could just get on with it. But I was in a car accident in August this year and I got chronic whiplash. It has effected my neck, my back and my legs (something to do with the nerves in the back pinching other nerves in legs). I fully understand now how much it can effect someone and somedays I literally struggle to get out of pain. The pain is constant, so even though yes I get on with it, I am in a lot of pain and things are a lot harder. So I can really symphaphise now. Dawnald I hope he gets better soon I know gout is extremely painful. It is good he can be compassionate now, but its a shame he had to get gout to make him see what you went through

is it the child or the parenting, I wonder?

Yes...I do wonder about that...

It's somewhat better, but it's never going to be gone without surgery apparently.

Knowing him, he will suffer with the gout rather than even consider the surgery.

Ugh! I hate surgeries, but they are sometimes necessary. My best to you both :)

Two of mine fight and they are pretty good kids. It's just normal. Most of the stuff that kids get yelled at for are just normal things. And when they really act out, it's generally because they want atention...

Yeah, they can help. Too bad my parents' generation didn't have them...

Karma is pretty good so far...

It sounds really awful. I wouldn't wish it on anybody.

My mom had pretty bad arthritis too, from a fairly early age. I don't remember getting impatient with her over it though. Just over other things. Like telling me what to do.

lol well my disc was really bad, I doubt the gout was much worse than that, so I guess it's fair. But I'd really rather nobody was in pain...

He was told that it could be controlled but that ones there was that buildup the only way to get rid of it was surgery. And then if he doesn't behave it could come back.

Yes it seems really awful. His comment was that he didn't know what pain was before this.

Yeah, it looks really awful.