What are friends?
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
November 14, 2009 6:29pm CST
Friends to me are honest as well as loyal they are the people that will always stand by you no matter what and will never stab you in the back and will never let anyone get away with bad mouthing you either.What do you do when your friend is not what they seem as in they are all the things you hate?
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@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I cut them off or at least keep them at a distance. I do not need that nonsense.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Nov 09
This happened to me many times. I trusted them madly. They back bit me. Showed partiality. Hours together they talked to me but important thing which would have helped me, was not told. But they applied for that. In the beginning I was hurt. Later I took it easy. I cannot expect every one to be like me.
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@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
15 Nov 09
Sometimes,Im also a little confused about it.I mean when Im lonely,they seem never call me.Of course they know nothing if I dont turn to them.I have trouble figuring out what friends are to me.Im a person kind of liking being alone and enjoy social activities as well.So,I learn to accept people are not perfect.If you cant stand something your friends have ,they must hate something in you.
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
What you said is true, there will never be a perfect friend. i hope not?
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
15 Nov 09
I drop them like a hot potato. I'm usually a good judge of character. I can tell when someone is not real and just a phoney. I can't be bothered with people like this. Once I see that type of character in someone trying to be my friend, that is it.
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@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
15 Nov 09
Friends are the family you choose for yourself. I tend to lean towards that saying. If a fried of mine turns out to be something that I don't like, then, I stop communicating with him/ her or I keep my distance. Life's too short to keep unwanted people in your life.
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@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
They are fake friends, i guess that is what you mean..i have lots of them but still i always show them how important they are to me, i believe friendship has to start from someone, and my guess is it has to be me.
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Just don't expect to much from friends, so you wont get disappointed. however when in real depths, true friends just pops in.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
17 Nov 09
There are few true friends so we should cherish them. Many friends, we find, are not always what we think they are. At that point we have to decide how much to share with them. But that is life.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Friends for me is like extending siblings, honest, loyal and they will be on your side whatever happens. When the situation is about a friend and they do all the things you hate that is a different scenario, I will not waste my time on them. I can still be a friend but not as close as before. But on the other side, we cannot judge our friends, there are times a friend will do everything we hate but we still continue being friends with them because we love them and really concern about them. I have a friend like this when i was in highschool. I still continue to be friends with them but they did not let me be influenced by their bad act.
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
15 Nov 09
are the people that will always stand by you no matter what
So if your friend kills someone, then will you stand by him or her?
@shilley (155)
• India
15 Nov 09
For me friends are like mirrors.They tell the flaws in me and compliment the good things in me.I also appreciate them for their healthy criticism which helps me improve myself.They also guide me when i am confused to make decisions.
@BelleetBon (79)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Get a new friend.....I know it's hard, but she will use everything she knows against you.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Nov 09
In my opinion,a friend to me is a vitally important person I would never want to lose. A friend should always stand in your side when anything come in front of you.
@priyavivek (681)
• India
16 Nov 09
Friends are honest and loyal ofcourse. I too have many friends during school days and college days. My college days friends are still in contact with me. It really makes me happy when we think about my college days. SOme people ofcourse will not be true. That is the character of them.For that we should never avoid a good friend.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 09
jugsjugs hi again. If a friend stabs me in the back once, shame on him,if he stabs me in the back twice shame on me. i will not keep a friend that does that to me. Mybest friend would do anything for me, and has in the past difficult times, and I owe her so much. I would do anything for her as she is dear to me. she took me out today to the dedication for our new Tustin Library as she knew how much it meant to me. it was just wonderful I got to meet the four people whom I used to work with in the old Tustin library. we hugged And talked and well it was
a very emotional day for me. then she took me to lunch, her treat an early birthday gift as tomorrow is my actual birthday. it was a really great fantastic day for me, and I love my best friend even more than before.real friendship lasts and rings with honesty and love and loyalty.
@celticeagle (168171)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Nov 09
There are many different degrees of friends. There are your garden variety of friends that I call occasionals or ?. Then there are the ones that pretend to be your friends. Usually time runs them out at some point or another. When friends turn out to be liars and cheats and back stabbers and back out of the room and never go on their side of the street again.
@Chester04 (92)
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15 Nov 09
a friend is those who will help you when you are in trouble.a friend will share their happiness with you.you can talk anything unhappy to him.and he is willing to heard you.
@MJay101 (710)
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15 Nov 09
When your friend is "all the things you hate" - it's probably time to move on! I know this, having passed the point of maturity (finally!), and having realised that most of the guys I hung around with at school just aren't cool any more.
(Not "cool" in the conventional sense - just different to me. Not what I'm looking for in a friend, just as I'm not what they want.)
It's all part of growing up. I think we make friends depending on the context - and the context is ever-changing.