when was the last time you...
By Winky
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
Boston, Massachusetts
November 16, 2009 7:44am CST
when was the last time you call your mom to show your love and affection? let's not wait for mother's day to come to get the chance to remember, call, greet and let her know how special she is to us...
mylot friends i just did. i gave my mom a call last weekend. we talked about her condition-- i let her feel how i missed and love her. i shared her more stories about her grandsons development and achievements in school. she was so happy.
i appreciated her so much when i became a mom too. she was beside me all throughout my first three months of having a baby...of being a mom (my husband really appreciated her support) . i realized how lucky i am for having a mom like her. right now i want to give her a hug. i will be seeing her this christmas to commemorate the first death anniversary of my dad. sad to say it's also the date of her birthday.
we all experience to being a child but only few were given the chance to be a mom...please share your recent experience and encounter with your mom. thanks!
POWER HUG TO ALL MOMS...and kids too!
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26 responses
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Hi msfrancisco,
This discussion just made me realize how much I miss my mom. She lives permanently in another country and visits us once every 2 years. She's not scheduled to come here this year, and I really miss her a lot. We talk over the phone at least twice a month (overseas call is just too expensive if done everyday) and whenever I'm able to talk to her I make sure I give her all the updates about me, my husband and my kids. I hope I can visit her next year.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
hi doryvien,
that's good you are still in touch with your mom despite the distance and maybe if she wants it you can do chatting with webcam on "ala lola techie". please share with me the response of your mom for this "hi-tech" mom-daughter connection hehehehe. thanks doryvien for consistently responding on to my discussions.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
hi archana,
thanks for that. Doryvien is doing it with her husband--so may be she can do it with her mom too.
@archana_shakthi (88)
• India
17 Nov 09
I will give you a suggestion, use computer and web camera and talk to her directly for free of cost.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
17 Nov 09
Just a few hours back. I see my mom almost every day and whenever on my rest day, I'll go with her to the market and stuff like that. I love to joke around with my mom and just relax and chill. Sometimes, we would set some time as a family to go have dinner together. Those are our bonding time..
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
18 Nov 09
The ears thingy is just so cute, ms.. 
. My mom would take the cotton-bud, clean her ears and try to scare me away with that image when she was young. I remember now; don't know why I got scared with the image of someone cleaning their ears with the cotton-bud, LOL.
I hope you are able to interact with your mom most of the time too. I can really miss her whenever she's away. And I can't imagine should one day she is no longer around.
..can't imagine the day at all and I wish it really far away.
. My mom would take the cotton-bud, clean her ears and try to scare me away with that image when she was young. I remember now; don't know why I got scared with the image of someone cleaning their ears with the cotton-bud, LOL.
I hope you are able to interact with your mom most of the time too. I can really miss her whenever she's away. And I can't imagine should one day she is no longer around...can't imagine the day at all and I wish it really far away.1 person likes this
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Nov 09
no ones when is our time and our loved ones time. so let's all be one in spending the best times of our lives with our loved ones. i hope you will now overcome your fear of seeing someone cleaning their ears using the cotton buds!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
That is cool zed. You established a great relationship with your mom and i admire you for that. going to market and just sitting beside her is a very relaxing moment.
My mom loves it when i do her nails and clean her ears. She use to do this to me when i was a kid and even up to now she loves checking on my ears and cleaning it--she feels bad when she can't get anything in there hehehehehehe. she is so sweet. you are really lucky for seeing your mom everyday.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
cheers to that...you seemed to be a good son ha!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 09
Hi Krajibg,
oh sad to hear that mom is not there with you but i know you two had the best mom-son relationship when she was still living. She will always be up there watching over you and that mom will always be in your heart. i will offer a prayer to your mom tonight!
@suprad1 (251)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hey,
Thank you for this topic.
I am lucky to be able to see my mom almost everyday. I talk to her everyday but may see her once in 2 or 3 days. We live in the same city. I stayed with my mom and dad and only 2 months before, I had to move out due to the differences of my wife with them. It is very sad that they are now feeling lonely. But I am only trying to wipe it by meeting them every two days. When I am sad or when I am in a difficult situation, I miss my mom beside me.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Nov 09
Hi Suprad,
How are you doing now and your mom? how's your wife too? I just hope things are getting better now as it relates to the relationship of your mom and wife. Good that you understand your mom so well for her being senti.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Suprad,
It is a wise decision for you and your family to move out and start a new life away from your parents. In that way, you will really be relieved from any tension among your mom/dad and your wife. At least you maintained that passion and drive to consistently keep in touch with your mom and that's really great. I know your mom feels bad and lonely about this but she will be fine and will understand the reason behind that it's the best way to maintain a good and loving relationship in your family. Thanks for sharing Suprad.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov 09
I try and make sure my mom knows that I love her when I'm with her and when I'm far away. When I'm out of the country, I'd call regularly or email. If not, then I'd SMS in the morning just to say hi and to wish her a nice day. I do text her that I love her every now and then, too.
When I'm home with her, I usually try to bring her drinks or food, or even do little things like bring her slippers and do things to show her I care.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Rg,
These simple and little things that you are doing will surely make your mom feel extra special. It's so nice of you going out of your way to make sure that mom is fine. Your gesture of giving her drinks, food and bringing those pair of SLIPPER made me missed my mom and dad so much. i used to do that when i was a kid but i dont have chance to do it with her now---she's in the province while i am here in manila for my work together with my family.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
...keep it up. your mom is definitely enjoying reading your text and love hearing your voice every call you make. hugs to your mom rg!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov 09
Well, I think they're gestures that don't cost a thing so they're easy to do. When I'm away, I try and stay in touch regularly. Like you, sometimes I have to travel for my work. I miss my Mom a lot but still, I try and call or sms and tell her that I love her when I'm not around.
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@walkytalky (27)
• United States
16 Nov 09
I called my mom after she had lost one of her childhood friends to Cancer. She was devastated but not showing it. I knew that me calling would help her to come to terms with the loss and that she could use my shoulder to cry on. She needed to vent, scream, cry..she needed my love. At the time of the call I was reminded how important these moments are..how important every moment IS...especially the hard moments. These moments mold us. Sculpt our true selves. Without them we would be empty..voids tumbling around the planet bumping into each other but not learning from our experiences. Thank goodness for Mama's. Thank goodness for family.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Reeyan,
if that's what you believe in i respect you but the mere fact that you are given life and is enjoying life no matter how difficult life is...god is good to you! but there is no point of arguing here our respective beliefs and religion. LET'S JUST RESPECT EACH OTHER's faith and religion. No offense meant friend!
@Walkytalky, i agree with you.
@walkytalky (27)
• United States
16 Nov 09
*Mamas* sorry for the spelling blunder
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@walkytalky (27)
• United States
16 Nov 09
God says those who believe in him WILL suffer. It is through suffering that we learn to truly live.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
16 Nov 09
I talked to my mom yesterday. She retired about a year ago and was getting bored and nosy. She is an artist so to save all of our sanity, I started marketing her art. Now she is very busy, feels great and I just may make a little bit of money. We have sold 4 paintings and are filling an art class!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 09
wow what a great retirement activity for your mom. she must be having fun and you too. she's still earning though...i admire her and happy for the way you support her. my mom is into crocheting too. she was the one who taught me this craft and we are earning from this. a productive hobby for us. we exporting our crochet products. do you do painting too?
thanks for responding laglen!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
My mom retired about two years ago and he got used to being at home because she really loves gardening. for now, she's going to babysit and tutor my two nephews in their house since mom-in-law isn't around because of the operation she had on her eye. i did a lot for my mom today, i just i could do this again tomorrow.
retired about two years ago and he got used to being at home because she really loves gardening. for now, she's going to babysit and tutor my two nephews in their house since mom-in-law isn't around because of the operation she had on her eye. i did a lot for my mom today, i just i could do this again tomorrow.@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi LK,
at least your mom has some productive things to do...she'll not be bored then. your nephews are so lucky for having a great tutor like your mom.
go ahead continue to make your mom feel special...!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
i visit my mom three of four times a week, as long as i am not out of town for work. i bring my son and wife twice a week only for other days i go alone. she might need something for me to do so sometimes i dont bring my child and wife. my mom as you know my friend is half bodied paralyzed. the only one who can not visit him as often as he loves to is my brother who lives in london but he calls my mom or chat with her so they can see each other face to face.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
18 Nov 09
Hi 7thbird,
Yes i am aware about the situation of your mom as i was able to follow through your story especially during the "ondoy times". you are such a great son for taking the responsibility of supporting your mom all the way. you are always there for her and i can feel the effort on your part to really let your mom feel your love by being available for her all the time. God bless your kind heart and your family. I am sure that all the good deeds that you are doing now with your mom will be done to you by your kids. More power to you and God bless always. Hugs to your mom friend!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
17 Nov 09
I am not a very expressive person. Mostly, I keep my feelings inside my heart regarless if it is a good feeling or bad feeling. I don't literally make a call to mom to say that I love her. I show it to her through my deeds. Sometimes, I get gifts for her to say that I lover her. She is not working now. So, I get her some money sometime. I also make calls to her to let her know that I am anxious about how she is. Last time I called her, I made her laugh a lot and it made me happy.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Daliaj,
You just did friend. all the things that you shared are expressions of how you love your mom. you may not say it but the mere fact that you are exerting effort to do such things to mom is certainly a GREAT EXPRESSION! i can sense that your mom is so proud of you for seeing you doing the right thing in taking good care of her. Power hugs to you and to your mom.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
17 Nov 09
I talk to my mom everyday and sometimes more than once. I always tell my dad and mom how much I love them and I don't even have to tell them they know. Out of the five kids they have I'm the only one who calls each and everyday. They always say there is always going to be one child who will be there for their parents and I guess that will end up being me.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Lelin,
You're such a responsible child...this early you are preparing for taking on the responsibility to take care of your parents and i am proud of you. there are only few among kids to take on such big responsibility. You will be blessed for doing this and when you grow old you will be taken cared of by your loved ones too because you've been so good and loving.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
hello ms. francisco, well last night i cleaned up the trash, then this morning i was watering plants and making more plastic water for the ice selling. they were two customers who bought ice today and i was happy about that. i also did wash the dishes as well. i do hug my mom from time to time most specially when she got sick at home having colds. but i believe she alright now and going to visit the house of my elder brother.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
you are such a responsible son. you have a great mom for bringing up a good one in you. thanks god that your mom is fine now that she has all the energy to keep her going --like visiting you elder brother. she's always on guard to be assured that all of you are doing fine too. you are lucky to still have your mom and you are blessed to have more time to show her how grateful you are for having a mom like her.
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hi friend, Thanks for you that you gave a chance for me to write about my mom..
My mom showed her luv on me on march 17th of 2002.. i can't get the luv anymore bcoz she is no more in this world.. She is very kind on me . I am badly missing her now..
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Kutedarsu,
Sorry to hear that your mom passed away for more than seven years now. i can empathize with you for missing your mom. my dad passed away last year and i am missing him terribly.
it's good that you were able to experience the love of your mom and i know you're able to show and let her feel your love for her too.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
16 Nov 09
hey francisco,sorry abt ur dad nd ur mom must be going through some bad time coz it reminds her of ur father nd she can neither enjoy her birthday happily.
comimg to me, my mom takes care of me nd every now nd then she would express her love towards me nd its not a bigger deal as we live together so i dont have to show specially infact she can feel it.gud day.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 09
Hi Sunny,
So you have all the time and chance to show your love to your mom i envy you friend. How i wish i can spend extra time for my mom but she lives in the province so the only thing that i can do to keep in touch is to call and text her regularly. I seldom visit her--only seasonal.
More happy and meaningful moments with your mom SC.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 09
by the way mom is still in the griefing process. she needs our support--she's always crying and missing our dad terribly. they had a great time together. i too miss my dad so much!
@archana_shakthi (88)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hey Iam blessed in that respect.. I live with my mom.. Ours is a joint family.. Myself, my husband, brother, mom, dad, my child, granny, grandpa, mother in law, brothers in law, sisters in law, their children.. We all live together and shaare whatever we have.. It may be happiness or sorrow we all take a part of that..Iam really feeling blessed.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Archana,
Wow! what a big family. you are the first one to share that you are all in one house TOGETHER even with all your INLAWS. you are really blessed for keeping the bond stronger for all of you. you have a wonderful parents that made you stick together through ups and downs of your lives. More power to you and your family. I can't really imagine how happy you are being with everybody...and how crazy you are in times you "sorrows/misunderstanding" with other members of the family... thanks for sharing!
@missybear (11391)
• United States
17 Nov 09
My mom is in Germany and I'm in America.
For the last 25 years we talk once a week unless one of us is on vacation. We always
let the other know so we don't worry when no one answers.
Now me and my dad only talk on Birthdays and Holidays but I actually just called him yesterday just to say Hi.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Missybear,
Distance never becomes a hindrance for bothof your to reach out and keep intouch witheach other. i am glad that it's not only your mom that you are keeping in touch with --but even your dad. you're such a wonderful child for not letting a week or season/holiday pass without knowing their situation and yours too.
When are you going to see them again? are you going home this christmas holiday?
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
16 Nov 09
Hi Ms...our moms are precious precious people. I try to call my own mom at least once a week. She is just my best role model and supporter in the world, and as she gets older and develops some health issues, I am ever more aware of the passing of time, and I want to make the most of it.
Karen@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Nov 09
Hi Karen,
..yes moms are really precious! Having an aging mom means making the best memories and moments of being with her. Stay cool beside her and please give my hugs to your mom K.
@Andrea143 (91)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
Hug your mom, Kiss your mom, tell stories to your mom , tell your mom you love her. It's nice to be a mom. I loss my mom 2 years ago. I really miss her. I took care of her for 4 years. I love him very much. A piece of advice to all children. Love them while they are still with you. I tell you , you will miss them very much when they're gone. Happy Mother's day.......
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Andrea,
Sad to hear that mom is gone for 2 years now. I truly agree with you and that's what i am doing now. they deserve all the love and affection from us. it's our turn now to pamper her with everything that will make her comfortable, happy and satisfied in life... there will never be another mom in this world for me except MY MOM and i know yours too.
Welcome to Mylot and thanks for responding!
@Valeriaishere123 (18)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Im actually really because i still live with my mother but i never really get a chance to talk to her because shes working 24.7 but whenever i have a chance to i hug her and tell her i love her
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Valeria,
...she maybe so busy 24.7 but its good that whenever you have the chance you really take it and even maximize it to show how much you love her--your hug means a lot to your mom. thanks val!
@luckymagic (36)
• China
17 Nov 09
I call my parents evey half a month. After I graduated, i rent a house and live myself far away from my hometown.Now I truely understand how difficult to be a mom,especially a good one.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Nov 09
Hi Luckymagic,
Thanks for relating and appreciating how it is to become a mom...a good mom. So, how are you communicating with her? is she calling you to make sure you're fine or you reach out to check on her and update her about you as well?
