My wife is starting to gain a lot of weight what do I do?

One thing you've got to keep in mind is that she probably gained all that weight worrying about you while you were away. Stress and worry can cause people to eat more, and a lot of times they don't even realize it. I have a few suggestions but don't know if they will work. If you have a wii and a wii fit you could "Challenge" her to beat your score, or even without a wii fit you can use other wii sports games to get her moving around. Suggest Baked foods instead of fried, and cook for her instead of her cooking for you. Do you have any favorite foods that are somewhat healthy? Ask for that meal atleast once every two weeks. Well I don't know if these will work or not, but one thing is that if she's aware of her weight tell her you'll support her if she wants to lose weight but that you love her no matter what.

First off, thank you. We do not say that to our military guys enough. I'm sure a lot of your wife's weight is because she ate to relieve the stress of your being away. What will probably help her most is having you work out with her and help in planning meals so both of you are healthy. You may even let her know that you realize how stressful it has been for her with your being away and how she must have worried about you. Let her know you are home now and the two of you can do things together. She will appreciate you a lot for tactfully wanting to help her. Every woman wants to be beautiful for her man. By you doing it with her will let her know you love her no matter what. Good luck.

This is a really touchy subject for people. Possibly, you can sit down and talk with her, telling her you are concerned a bit about her health, but only do this if the subject is brought up by her. You mentioned that you know she wants to change but doesn't know how. So now it's up to you to give some suggestions. Go food shopping with her and buy healthy foods and snacks, do the shopping together and have fun. Try going for walks or swimming everyday, great exercise and pleasant. Does she like any type of activity, such as tennis, volleyball, etc? Join a team, just for fun. She was probably depressed when you were gone and that added to the problem. Once you get into the habit of eating wrong, eating whenever or whatever you want, it's hard to break. Eating snacks every few hours is good for the metabolism, but it has to be healthy, such as vegetables with dip (low fat), or fruit. It helps you to decrease your pigging out at mealtimes too as you are not as hungry. Basically, try to get her up and moving and eating better for her own sake. There are alot of fun activities to do together and help her along the way, don't ever complain as that will make things worse. Also, I don't know if I'd start this right now with the Holiday coming up, normally people gain through the holidays because there is too much food to choose from, but you still can be active at least. Good Luck and you sound like a great hubby!

Your question and concern shows the love you have for your wife and I commend you for that. One thing that will help your wife is to keep showing her your love. Even if she has put on weight, keep showing your love for the person she is and don't turn away from her "outer image". I'm taking a shot in the dark here, but she may have put on the weight while you were in Iraq because of fear and loneliness. I don't know how long you are to be home, but maybe by just being there that will help. Something else is suggesting walks together. Come up with things that you can do together that will be bonding time as well as physically helpful. Spend time with her, sometimes words do not need to be said, actions will say it all.

well, exersize together, jog together and eat healthy together. gained weight doesnt dissolve easily so be patient in doing this this together. Think of it as a bonding moment of you and your wife. It's nice that you love her inspite of her weight but talk to her in health wise manner, fat people do get sick easily. and has a lot of complication when she gets pregnant. you can also try this. when you go the mall and when to lingerie, pick a slimmer size and try telling, you would like to see her with that. wive always want their husband to be happy. i hope I helped

I almost have the same problem just like you do. My wife gains much weight after 30+, Her job is tough so she doesn't like to move at home. Not interested in having a walk with me after dinner. Always likes to eat snacks after meal. But I still love her as before. She also complaint about her weight and made her mind to keep fit from time to time, but failed as usual. I think happy is the most important thing, people who's lack of self control would be much harder in weight losing. Just be herself if she can be happy. But health is alway in the first place.

I don't see how you could bring it up to her without her feeling bad. I'm sure she knows that she has gained the weight and wants to lose it. If I were you I would not say a word but continue to love her as you always have. If she does bring it up...reassure her that you love her regardless. This will give her the confidence to work on it on her own with no pressure. Pressure and low-esteem could cause her to gain even more weight. I have always been very thin but at one point I did gain quite a bit of weight due to some meds I was on. I was so self-concious it wasn't funny. The guy I was seeing never ever said a word or made me feel less desirable altho I know he could see it. I wanted to look good for him and that was my incentive to work at it. I got there eventually. We recently talked and he will swear that he never noticed it. I'm pretty sure he couldn't of missed it. Point is....his accepting me anyway meant a lot.

this is a tough issue for anybody can to deal with . Myself I have a girlfriend that is concerned about her weight also . You do not want to hurt anybody feeling . But if they truly want to change the way they look or their weight sitting down and talking to them would be the best way to do that . If they truly truly want to change the way they will they will listen . They will not get mad if they want to change . On the other hand you have to be careful on what you said or how you say it . I hope this helps .

well, she herself could observe it even though you fail to mention it to her and its quite obvious if she have not notice it yet. probably, you could mention her to go the gym to exercise together to keep fit that she would not feel being push r force to do it.

You need to sit down and talk to her suggest that the two of you can exercise together. Let her know how much you love her and you want to help her change. You can make a menu of the food you will eat and then go shopping and pickup what you need.

Maybe she take medicine to get lose or something lotion to apply the part of the body so that she gain weight or they doing that because she want to surprise you and he happy if you appreciate her.

first assist her daily diet, determine all the food and amount of her food intake, then talk with your wife seriously with this matter, i believe i wont hurt her that much, you love her so you want to be more presentable and healthy..

That's going to be difficult. Many people stop taking care of their appeareances after marrying and gain a lot of weight, and is difficult to tell someone "have you thought about losing weight?" as the other party will always take it wrong. Maybe you can just do indirect things, like offering yourself to prepare food and making it healthy and low in fat, or going for a walk on weekends with your wife so she does exercise and burns some fat.

Hi.. Since u r her husband,u r d main supporting pillar. So,u should act as her support besides indirectly helping her out.. Ask her to go out with u for a lite evening walk(better if its morning walk).. Don't make her realize that u r doing so for her weight.. She must feel that u r doing so to spend some time together away from home... Do this everyday.. U can also try out yoga.. That's very beneficial.. Gradually,when she'll loose weight,she'll herself feel good and u could directly approach her for joining weight loosing programs because by then she would have realized the advantage of having a light and toned body.. Hope this works.. All the best..

maybe she was depressed because you were away. some people who are depressed tend to eat a lot. maybe she should see a doctor? he can advise on how the best way to loose weight would be.

I think the better way for that is to talk with her. Just ask her not offended on what you say then let her listen. I think your wife listen to you and not hurting her feelings because that is for her own sake. This is the problem of most wife when they get married they don't mind to care about their self instead love to eat and eat...

If you want to help your wife to lose weight without hurting her feelings, just accept her as she is. Just love her, as you say you do. If she has a desire to "change" then she will. Let her be in control of her weight loss. Be supportive in the way that, say, she says "I'd like to go for a walk". Go for a walk with her. Be active in the decisions she makes about her weight loss methods and choices. If one of her choices leads into one of your suggestions for her, even better. But, let her be in control. From one who's been there....

first of all, its a good attitude of yours to show how you respect your wife.. you do not want to hurt her feelings because you really love her.. and what is more important to you is her reactions that she might not take it negatively..It is a matter of convincing and supporting her till she looses weight.. My suggestions regarding what to to with your wife gaining lot of weight? maybe try any of these: 1. you know your wife where is the proper time and place to discuss this matter.. Ask her opinions about these? Talk things over in ways such as: The pro and consequences of gaining weight..because maybe an excess weight will may lead to health problems or if she has any existing health problem condition .. so it means..you care of her health most.. 2. Set an indirect examples that will lead to the said topic.. example? by using other person as an example and thereby you can collect her views? or ideas for you to convince her more to loose weight.. 3. Exercise- Invite her over to some sporty activities where she can loose pounds too.. Other do the Breeze walk effect it can help too..this burn out calories too.. 4. control diet- Monitor her diet too.avoid eating fatty foods and rich in carbohydrates instead eat more fruits and veggies.. 5..Since you are aware of the risk it may cause to your wife? you gonna take initial or first step..then assist your wife till you meet your objectives..