Do you like your co workers?
By jesssp
@jesssp (2712)
Canada
December 10, 2009 3:49pm CST
Can you honestly say that you like the people you work with, do you tolerate them or can you just flat out not stand them?
If you really dislike the people you work with then what do you do to deal with it? Do you make more of an effort to get along with them, just ignore them or start looking for a new job?
Any stories or experiences to share about crumby co workers?
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27 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
12 Dec 09
When I was working I would sometimes have to be around people that I didn't really care for but my grandpa told me when I was very young that getting along with people is a valuable talent and I should work on it because it gave me choices I would not otherwise have. I didn't understand till I started working and saw that trying to get along with everyone really did make me more flexible. I can get along with just about anyone--there have been people that I didn't really like but I could be polite and cooperative with them enough to make it a fairly pleasant experience.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Yep, you definitely don't have to like someone to get along with them. I find that if I'm planning on staying at a job I have no choice but to suck it up and get along with my co workers, work WITH them, regardless of whether I actually like them or not. And when the day comes that I find that impossible to do I will have to start looking for another job.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 Dec 09
Not only my co-workers but I have formed a theory about most people around me or known to me. What I have told myself is that it’s a fact that most people (99%) these days move around with a plastic smile on their face…there’s a genuine lack of sincerity in relations and gossips and back-biting rule the roost. So, in order to survive and progress peacefully, it is vitally important for me not to be judgmental, not to trust anybody and not to expect anything from anybody AND not to help anybody and everybody just like that. Yes, I pick and choose my response, my interactions and my relations to people thereby maintaining a kind of harmony around me. So you see, if you ask me if I like them then my reply would be a very perfunctory YES…if you scratch deeper, I might have a story to say about everybody (just as they have about me)!
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I for the most part do like the people that I work with. Sometimes I am annoyed but I think we generally get annoyed at some point at what our coworkers do. However I do get along with most of them. There are some others on the other end of the building that do annoy me but thankfully I don't see them much so I don't have to worry about them much.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Dec 09
I like most of them, but I am sitting next to one who seems not to have a sense of humor. She's not crummy or anything, just "no sense of humor when it comes to business"....
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I dislike my co-workers most of the time... oh wait, I don't work, lol!
My husband has a few people he works with that he cannot get along with at all. One of them is the guy in his department, directly under him, who just doesn't do his job the right way. It drives my hubby nuts because it directly affects his job, and usually his bonus too.
Then there's a girl, head of a different department, and she thinks she's queen bee around there. Most everyone dislikes her except the boss... Hubby has days where he wants to quit over her attitude. He's gotten into it with her a few times, and she'll turn around and start crying. I don't even know her well but just hearing about her irritates the heck out of me!
There's not much hubby can do about it. He needs his job, and likes the job for the most part. He just deals with it on a day to day basis, and the days that are really bad he'll find ways to escape it for awhile. He has the luxury of "field visiting" so he can get out of the store for awhile by himself to visit his customers who owe him money. Not that it's all that stress relieving, but some days it's better than the alternative.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Most of the time all we can really do is just deal with it, unless it's to the point where you hate being there so much it starts to effect other areas of your life.
I have totally come across 'queen bee' types before and know exactly what you mean. Sometimes you just wanna smack 'em and tell they to get over themselves.
@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I had a job that I loved, unfortunately my co-workers were something that I could barely tolerate. One of them was married to the president of the company, and got away with just about everything. Another one was the boss's pet, and the other one had enough money that she didn't have to work, so she was always asking for day's off that would leave us to do her work. I finally quit, because the atmosphere was too stressful.
They don't make workers like they use to...people who went in to work at 8:00 and concentrated fully on doing their job until 5:00. Now, they barely work while they're there.
So, I would suggest that you learn to deal with your co-workers, or look for another job...however, don't expect to find a place where there won't be people who won't drive you crazy...because there is one in every workplace.
@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
7 Jan 10
I like all the people working with me.So far there is no problem with them.In a firm we have to mess up with different type of workers and we have to adjust our maximum with them.If we start raising issues for simple silly matters,then there will be always problem and the working atmosphere will be effected
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
11 Dec 09
HI
I never work with a lot of people but I think I know what you mean here. I used to work for Korean people and my manager had a little attitude, that made me uncomfortable to work. I quit the job.
well, mostly I never give up on something I love to do but he just mad at me for some reason and didn't talk to me at all... even I asked him to do some over right... he just sent someone else over and when I wanted to talk to him about pricing then he told my supervisor to tell me instead... so he didn't like me to work there .... so I quit. The big boss asked me to stay cuz I was a good employee but I told him that someone else didn't like me to be there... so you are better to let me go.
If you can't handle the co-worker then you can leave or tell the manager to switch your position.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
16 Dec 09
Yes, I like my co workers, except one. That person isn't that good. I won't take his name here on mylot because you never know, he can read his name and our relationship will go worse than what it is right now, isn't it?
He is such an annoyed person that I didn't even want to see his face. even then I have to make good realtions with him. What to do, it is professional life, isn't it?
@kirrugadu (114)
• India
11 Dec 09
hi friends my name is kiran, and iam working in an gas station as a cashier, in our gas station thier are working 14 members iam very confirtable with my cowor
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
7 Jan 10
I work in an office part of a big manufacturing plant. Although there are some that I dislike, most are just tolerable.
The people I like are those on the floor. Of course not all of them, but I like that most on the floor are realistic, and are just regular joes. For example, if I had problems with my car, the people in the office wouldn't run out of suggestions where to bring it to get it fixed. The people on the floor on the otherhand, would give you suggestions on how to fix it without cost. And some would even offer to help you fix it.
@taraelocin (1138)
•
17 Dec 09
Most of the time I like my co-workers. Of course there are moments when you roll your eyes and wish they'd just stop whining / get on with it / shut up and so on. But they are a good bunch - very supportive and all hard working. I guess I am really lucky with them.
@Clicker625 (196)
• United States
7 Jan 10
I'm not working now (retired) but I did a lot of different jobs during my life. Honestly, I had very few jobs where I genuinely liked my co-workers. I would say that to really know a person you need to know what they're like at work. I did make more of an effort to get along with my co-workers than I would have with a stranger because getting along is so much better than an atmosphere of animosity. Only once or twice did I ever quit a job because my co-workers made work intolerable. Most of the time I just got along with them but that didn't mean I truly liked them. The few times when I enjoyed everyone I worked with I had an outstanding manager/boss who set a positive tone in the work environment.
@aerbourne (41)
• Canada
10 Dec 09
The majority of the time my co-workers are the best part of my day. I enjoy the social aspect of talking back and forth with them. Sometimes I even lucky enough to turn one of these co-workers into a friend.
If I am unfortunate enough to have to work with someone that I disliked my first stategy would be to avoid them whenever possible. If I was unable to avoid them I would make sure that I was doing at least my share of the work and be civil to the jerkface..er, I mean co-worker.
@blablablu (221)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 09
Well, it's impossible that we can like ALL of our co workers. We would live in a world of our own if that's happen :)
But, come on, it is about job and being professional. Even we don't like our co worker, we have to keep up and try our best to work with them in order to make the job successfull. Ignoring them is a foul-play for me (but it is fine if ignoring them doesn't affect your and others work!). Start looking for a new job? Well, if it already can't be helped then it is the best solution I think.
I currently work in an investment office and we are currently offer trading services. All of us in the office generally are banking person and don't really know about trading, about legal law, accounting, process, etc. So we have to work and keep up together. But there is one officer that never want to broaden their vision, never want to listen to other opinion. She always do everything according to her own opinion even though it is wrong and lately it affects company performance. She started to change after meeting with head director and head manager who scold her. LoL.
@letssstalk (285)
• India
11 Dec 09
I am cool by nature, dont take care about minor things, Now i run my own business but when i am doing job in an office, i dont have good understanding with one of my colleague cause he has jealous nature. He always irks me and interfaring in my work,i really dont like him ,so many time i fought with him. rest all my colleagues are good, only he is devil between us, No one likes him in the office.
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Hi. I'm not currently employed in any company. But I spent the last seven years in an audit firm which required me to work with other professionals within the local office and with other professionals from other member offices. Most of the time, we work on different engagements simultaneously. Each engagements consist of different team members composed of three to twenty professionals. At a single time, we could simultaneously with several clients of different types of business operations and locations, and with different superiors and subordinates of different nationalities. In our case, people management is as important as time and account management.
Many of my colleagues were very responsible, reliable and dependable - delivering high quality output under minimum supervision. However, there were cases when I've met team members who are either irresponsible, slow-learner, arrogant, hardheaded, blah... blah... blah...
Based on experience, it's easier to resolve problems/conflicts with subordinates. Because at the end of the day, you're the boss and you will have to rate their performance anyway. But it's a totally different story when you're having problems/conflicts with bosses. Because at the end of the day, they have the final say and they could definitely make or break your career within the company.
For both my superiors and subordinates, I make sure that we have communicated and understood our expectations with one another. I'm not afraid to ask my bosses about their expectations and preferences. Whenever I've made mistakes, I make sure not to repeat that mistake again. But in cases where I could not really understand a particular person's behavior, I just work double time to finish the engagement on or before the deadline and hope that I don't meet that person again in my future engagements.
@grajesh29 (99)
• India
11 Dec 09
it not about liking the coworkers but as per its who you are able to coordinate with them as a team to accomplish goals set by the top management during the course of working with them...