Children hitting and being bullys
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
December 10, 2009 7:01pm CST
My son has come home from school yet again today and has said that this child has been punching my child in his chest,this has been an on going thing since Monday with the child punching my child in the chest,considering the child that is a bully knows my son has had open heart surgey as well and knows he should not do this he is still doing it.So today i rang the school up and asked them to have a word with his parents,as i think this being done by their son they should be told about so that they can explain to him the dangers.My son now do not want to go to school as he knows this is going to happen all the time.I have given the school permission to show the children in the class his scar that we call his zip so that they all know never to lump him in the chest.Why are there so many bullys in a primary school.
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@lizbenetua (637)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
I saw this article on the website http://www2.scholastic.com/ browse/article.jsp?id=1438 entitled "Teasing and Bullying: No Laughing Matter" ,the writer Diana Townsend- Butterworth says that "Children learn bullying from older children, from adults and from television". So if that kid bullying your child has exposure to bullying behavior beforehand, they are most likely to do it at school, searching for a vulnerable prey. Their usual targets are children who are usually shy or physically weaker than they are. The writer states even further that "Bullies consider these children safe targets because they usually don't retaliate"
It was a good thing that you notified the school about it. Some children don't have parents who teach them right from wrong. You may check out the website that I posted here.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Dec 09
I will take alook at the website thank you for that.The worst thing is my friend who collected my son today as well as yesterday spoke to the teacher yesterday and told her what had happened that day and said that my son should tell a teacher when it happens,she said my son had but it was a dinner lady and she never done anything.So today this boy decided to do it again and there were other children there that took my son to a dinner lady and she sent the boy in,but he was back out in the play ground again and he done it again whilst his friend held my sons arms behind his back.The parents let this child out until ten at night and never know or care where he is and he is 7 the same age as my son.
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@lizbenetua (637)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
It's really hard when there are bullies in school.It doesn't matter if you are a kid, a teener or an adult. The website again is http://www2.scholastic.com/browse/article.jsp?id=1438. There was a space when I posted it. I hope everything about your concern with your son at school is ironed out.
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
11 Dec 09
This is terrible!! I feel that today these children just don't care and don't realize the consquences of their actions. Many that are bullies have parents that are not around, don't discipline and just don't want the responsibility of parenting. I hope the child (bully) will understand how important it is not to hit in his chest and how severe the damage could be.
What did the school say? Will the call the parents? Please let us know the outcome, if anything....
@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Dec 09
When i rang the school and spoke to the receptionist she said that the head master was ill and not there until Monday,so i told her what had happened and she went and got the lady who is doing his job as well as she is a special needs woman as well in the school.When i told her she said she will ring the childs parents as that is very serious as this same boy knew about my sons op as he was in the same class and has neen even when they were both 5 years old.She also said that the other child would have know that it was dangerous as well,which makes me think that perhaps they knew about the other times that my son had been punched by this child.When i said i gave her my permission to show my sons scar she asked if that was ok with my son so i asked my son and he said yes.She said it would be delt with first thing in the morning as soon as the child came into school as he will be told to come to her office.She said that she can safely say it will not happen again tomorrow.I told he it do not want to happen ever again or i will be asking if anyone is looking after or watching the children as well as my child in their school.
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I am glad that the lady is going to make sure something was done, but if they did know about the other times why wait until you call? I don't understand that. I would make sure it stops also and if not I would be marching in there myself. Good job jugjug
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Dec 09
I will let you know if it happens anymore.If it is not sorted out and it reacurs then they will be getting a few people round there as there are alot of peoples children that are also getting bullied by the same child and their children saw what happened to my son.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Gosh, I dont know. I havent experienced that during my time in that level of education. I did get verbal bullying but it was from kids outside of my school. Our school had a strict in a parental kinda way when it comes to discipline and nurturing our potentials as children.
Im sorry to hear about that. What Im afraid of, however, is when your son finally shows his scar to the class, those bullies just get more fuel to punch him in the chest even more. There are bullies like that who prey on the weak spots of others.
I just hope that with your report to the school administration and to the parents, the bullies will get scared somehow that they might get enough corporal punishment if ever they were reported to be doing such acts again.
May you and your family have good health always, and your son to have the strength to get through the challenges that he is facing right now.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Bless your heart. This is a terrible thing. I am having the same thing happen to my daughter. I go to the school everyday. I remind them it is their duty to make sure my daughter is safe on their premises. They told me it is my choice to put her in another classroom. I then told the principal, I am not punishing my daughter for something someone is doing. I asked the principal if she is rewarding the little boy for being bad. That was when I told her she has a legal right to be safe at school and if the school could not provide safety, they needed to be shut down. This is elementary school. My daughter is in FIRST grade. I really believe in this situation it is a parenting and discipline issue as I have told the school what would happen if they didn't correct the behavior last year.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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16 Dec 09
My son is 7.With the whole of his clkass seeing as well as hearing about my sons op then perhaps if any child or even if the same child starts again hitting my son in the chest at least the other children will know so they will get a teacher.Lets hope it do not happen any more.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Hello Jugs :)
Wow, this is awful! Much has been brought up in studies and the media lately about bullying and how it affects other children. No wonder your son does not want to attend school.
I hope the parents, the teacher, and the school will resolve this. Sometimes, if the problem is bad enough and cannot be solved, the parents of even a young child will be told they must put him in anther school or take him for counseling.
Let us know how this goes!
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
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@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Im not sure about this little boy but in general..boys that seem to start things in school are the ones that don't get any attention at home. So they have learned that if they are rough,tough and bad that it gets them attention. Who know jugs this little just might turn out to be your son's best friend down the road. I think that you did the right thing. If it continues on then I would go to the school..
I wish you the best.
Have a nice evening.
Keep smiling.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
11 Dec 09
This is true. If it continue to happen then maybe you call the teacher of his and see if she had noticed a pattern with him on this. If she has then maybe you could suggest that they could check into it a little farther..Good luck dear and I hopw that your son will have a good day at school.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
11 Dec 09
It is sad to hear this. Maybe someone can get to the bottom of this child. He very may need some authority to take a look into his home life. I know that hitting should be aloud but some kids have no other choice or ideal how to handle their emotions. It is great to know that your daughter will be there to handle things if it happens again.
I wish you the best and keep me updated on what is going on with that child.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
21 Dec 09
Too many parents today aren't taking the time to teach their children to respect others. I've taught lower elementary in the past, and I always had to deal with bullies. The thing is, that when I'd try to discuss the problem with their parents, the parents were in denial. No way could their little angel be picking on anyone else -- which I always felt was calling me a liar for saying he did.
It's sad that your little one had heart surgery and still has to put up with this abuse. Talk to the principal and see what he or she has to say. Is there another class your son could be transferred into to get him away from this other boy?
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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22 Dec 09
I have spoken to the school and they also spoke to the parents of the child as well as to the child.The child is now having to stay with a teacher even at play times as this child said that he did know that my son had this op and also that he had been punching my son in the chest every day.I gave permission for the school to let my son show the whole class his scar on his chest as well as let my son tell them why he has a scar,so i hope now if anything happens to my son again one of the children will step in and stop it or go and tell someone.
@ElicBxn (63394)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Bullies are cowards that have found someone they perceive as weaker than themselves and they are going to exploit it for all its worth, because they have such a low opinion of themselves - believe it or not, it seems counter intuitive, but its true.
And showing the scar won't help, just make the bullies braver
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
11 Dec 09
There are many bullies in the schools because the administration allows it. This is a highly unfortunate situation, because without the school's responsible backing things could get worse instead of better. I truly hope the school officials know what they are doing and that they do the right thing. Otherwise you would have little choice but to find a different school. Is home schooling allowed where you live?
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Dec 09
Yes there is home schooling that we can do,but they are setting out alot of new rules now so that there is alot less children being taught from home and due to my health there is no way i would be allowed todo it as a friend did look into this for me.I had thought of home schooling a few months ago as well.I did say if this happens again i will take it further as that would mean no one was looking after the children at that school for things like this to happen every day.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Dec 09
How heartbreaking for you to have someone do that to your son! I have an eight year old girl and bullying is one of my biggest fears for her. It is good that you got on top of the situation and I presume you made his teachers aware of the problem.
My daughter has a so called best friend that treats her very badly and pushes her around quite a bit; she has been in tears about it and I am thankful that she shares these things with me and that is the key communication with your children so they will open up to you if they are being hurt at school in any way. We talked to my daughter’s teacher about it and he took some steps to teach her to assert herself.
It is sad that bullying has to exist but unfortunately it is a reality of school life and as long as you keep talking to your child, you can be there whenever your help is needed. Bullying has to be taken very seriously because there have been very serious consequences emerge from such cases.
I hope your son has a much better time at school from now on.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
13 Dec 09
It sounds as though the school are dealing with the problem and that is good to know, often they don't give certain children the attention they deserve. I hope your son is safe and happy now and all the best to him...
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 Dec 09
OMG that is horrible. There are so many stories nowadays with bullies in schools. I know there is probably a bully in every school and I don't think the school authorities do enough to protect the other kids from them. I can't believe knowing that he had heart surgery they would still punch him. I hope the parents talk to this kid and set him straight. I really hope everything will be straighten out and your son will be happy to go to school and not afraid of the bullies. Good luck to you and your son.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
12 Dec 09
It surely should to the trick. I hope nothing but the best for your son. Have a great weekend.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Dec 09
Hi Jugs,
Oh no. the school must do something about this. why is the teacher not aware of this she needs to be on top of everything that's happening in the classeroom and even outside the classroom. i'll not tolerate anybody to bully my kid. friend i will not only give them a call, i will personally go to school and talk to the teacher and the school administrator. if they will not respond to this properly i will sue them. your kid has a delicate situation and he does not deserve to be treated like that. the bully one must learn a lesson. timeout is not enough, he needs to undergo counseling plus the parents.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Dec 09
thanks god. the teacher and the school responded positively on this. the parents of this bully student needs to be called and talked to. the young boy needs extreme guidance and support! please extend my hugs to your son!
@dens61 (130)
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Well I sympathize with youbecause it happened also to my first-grade child. I think it will not do much good by reporting it to the school authorities, more so if the parents of the bullies are well off in the community. Just like in the case of my son, the school authorities most often ignored or at least gave preferencial treatment to the bullies by just giving them a "slap on the wrist." What I did was confront the bullying kids and I myself scolded them and threatened them that the next time my kid tells that he's been bullied again then I will be the one to give them the same treatment they gave my son. From then on the bullies stop bullying my son. And for the next school year I just transferred my son to another school so as to avoid him being beaten by the bullies as a retaliation for my threat.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Well, this is so sad to hear. You know what, you should report this to the school principal and request her to have a dialogue with the parents of this bully so you can explain to them the risks of what their son has done to your son. You can now see the effects of this acts to your child, this might affect his studies in the future. I think this bully has a big personality problem. He have been deprived of attention from his parents and discipline.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
11 Dec 09
I agree with you, and I agree with what you did. It's bad enough when people do it at all, but in the case of your son, it's a dagnerous act. I don't know why kids do the things they do, but kids are rarely aware of the dangers. i think that people need to be open about these things, and educate kids as to how their actions can be a danger to their victims.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Dec 09
The children were told as soon as he went to school after he had his op and the bully was one of the children,so i thought that if my son was to show all the class rather than singling anyone then they could also see as well know never to do anything like that as there are dangers that they could damage him.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
21 Dec 09
Honestly, I don't know why there are so many bullys in school period. I guess as a mom and never been picked on as a kid, I don't know why this happens. I think you handled the situation perfectly. Hopefully, it won't come to this that the school will handle this quickly and that this doesn't happen again. Maybe a threat that if this punk hurts your child that you will sue the school and the parents if it does happen again. Since I'm responding a week after this discussion was started. Hopefully, everything stopped and your son feels safe to go to school again.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I'm glad to hear that things are getting better. I do like how the teacher is making the bully hold her hand. I do hope that it will show him that this sort of thing will not be tolerated. It sickens me that he knew what he was doing and that your son had surgery and he still did it anyway. If this sort of thing happens again, just let the school and his parents know. That each will be sued, because this could seriously hurt your son. Any trauma to that area could really hurt him, and I'm happy to know that it hasn't so far. It's bad enough a child has to endure this type of surgery to end up being punched over and over again just saddens me. Bless his heart. I still like how you handled the situation, I think I would have went in like a Bull in a china shop.
Also, have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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22 Dec 09
Well things are looking up for my son as now the bully has to hold the teachers hand,that way he will not get the chance todo it again.The bully told his teachers what he had done all the time to my son as well as told the teachers that he knew what op my son had as well as why he had to have the op.The whole class was shown my sons scar as well as told about the op he had,this way if anything happens again the other children will know that it is wrong and will stop it happening.Lets hope things carry on good when the children go back to school in the new year.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Dec 09
We can only hope that in the new year that things will be as good as they are now with my son and that they will still be watching the other child as well as i am sure my child was not the only child that had been bullied by the same child.I hope you have a great Christmas as well as a happy new year.x
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The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
11 Dec 09
Hello jj. I am so sorry that your son got bullied at school. I think that you are right to call the school to have a word with the boy's parents for him to know about the danger of punching your son in the chest. He should be let known that he is not allowed to hit anyone, which is against the school law. I think that the teacher in charge of this class is not doing a good job as not to have prevented this case from happening. The teacher as well as the school should be to blame for what has happened to your son.
It is so bad an impact on your son that he does not want to go to school because of his being bullied by the bully. I hope that both the school and you parents can deal with this matter in a satisfactory result. Good luck to you, my dear friend.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@rebaozi (100)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Acturally it's a common phenomena around us.That's really a problem.And now there still hasn't the right way to solve it.I think we can't hope the bulls's parents to punish them and make them not do it again.We ought to make our children stronger.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
@sasmitadas (23)
• India
11 Dec 09
You have taken very good action rather than personally handling the bully child. I've observed a particular nature of bully kids; they don't obey if you order, punish, or nag them. Probably when he will she your son's scar and his parents will make him understand then he will stop doing that. Still, the school staff should be more careful. They shoul keep an eye on them.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Dec 09
The good news is the child who was being a bully is now being made to hold the teachers hand at play times as well as stay with a teacher at dinner times as he had not shown any remose at what he had keep doing to my son as well as he had said that he did know what op my son has had and so they can not risk that child doing the same to my child again.When there is no teacher to be outside with this child then he has to stay inside the school.All the children were also shown my sons chest in his class as well as explained why my son had the op on his heart,they also said that the hospital had made my son better.So we can only hope this do not happen again.
